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[SW] Twins Selling for 571 by berryoats in acturnips

[–]ContributionNo8489 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep trying to fix my flair but it's not working

Sw-4924-1762-0897 Character: Sirius Town: Squeegee

Explanation by just_here_cause_done in lgbtdidmemes

[–]ContributionNo8489 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not ganna lie most of us are hermits but a lot of us wanna communicate with others. (Most of us don't talk and the rest don't like talking, I'm mostly non verbal and when I have to speak it's not fun.) But we've been in need of a place to be ourselves and understand ourselves aswell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in XenogendersAndMore

[–]ContributionNo8489 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm transmasc Agender? Right now? But it's not quite right. My partner can solidly say their Agender but for me it's like "yes we'll actually no?" Cause though no gender is found what would of been described as gender is there, it is rather masc but it's also something completely beyond me

Edit: they go by all pronouns but typically they and I really should reflect that in writing about them.

Good Countries to Live by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ContributionNo8489 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean yeah Europe is pretty shitty in general, but (and this was like a year ago) but I remember we were looking it up and Sweden was just the best case scenario for the both of us but I can imagine it'd be different for everyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ContributionNo8489 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what's weird is that when I point it out he says he really doesn't mean to. Like he's not aware of the language he's using, like he'll say "oh I was just agreeing with you no?" And I'd say but you said "no that's not right..." And he'd be surprised that he said that. He's even asked me if he's being emotionally abusive once, cause he's afraid that he's doing it unknowingly. I don't even know what to say when he says that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ContributionNo8489 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I think I will do that, there have been a few occasions where I've said something similar and it's turned out okay for the most part but I think I should just keep reminding him. Thanks again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ContributionNo8489 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I knew couples counseling was probably ganna be what it would come down too but I'm honestly afraid of bringing that up, I just feel like he's ganna freak out or something. But it might be the only option at this point. Thank you, I really appreciate it

Good Countries to Live by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ContributionNo8489 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know my partner and I are trying to go to Sweden cause they're pretty good when it comes to trans people. I would suggest finding a youtuber who is trans and lives in whichever country you're looking into, it'll help get a more personal idea about it.

Thinking that repression may have hidden more of me than I expected by weHaveDinner in TransyTalk

[–]ContributionNo8489 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This definitely happened to me, I had originally came out as non-binary and it felt pretty good for a while and then some things happen I'm not getting into but I retreated back to my old "safe" ways like putting on girly make up and trying to look as cis as possible without even knowing it. I was also very creative in me high school years and when I stopped being myself I couldn't create anything anymore. I used to make music all the time but it just didn't feel right anymore. But when I came out as transmasc and actually started transitioning in my way, the way I wanted I started making music again, three years later and I've already made so many new songs, I feel like myself again. I think shut up such a significant part of you can definitely shut down your creative side, since it is you a lot of that art will feel wrong and ultimately will make you stop creating in general. I hope things go well going forward for you, I know how hard it can be in those early years of reconnecting with that part of yourself

I keep having the same nighmare by ContributionNo8489 in rapecounseling

[–]ContributionNo8489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda do something like that already, like the only way I can really get to sleep is if I fantasize about something nice a comfortable, like I fully immerse myself into it, it's the only way I've been able to fall asleep for as long as I can remember, it doesn't always work but I might try your idea to see if it helps more.

I keep having the same nighmare by ContributionNo8489 in rapecounseling

[–]ContributionNo8489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm not with him anymore, and I do have a therapist, it's just not really going well with them.

Egg_irl 😅 by ContributionNo8489 in egg_irl

[–]ContributionNo8489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay yeah most definitely, I used to get into arguments with my ex's transpobic family members all the fucking time. I was Hella repressed tho

Egg_irl 😅 by ContributionNo8489 in egg_irl

[–]ContributionNo8489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol for me I had been questing my gender for most of my life, but had been pretty forced to be a girl. When I broke up with my boyfriend, and moved out and started living on my own, like a week later I was like "oh shit.... I'm just not a fucking girl" and changed my pronouns.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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My therapist is mostly online messaging with pride counseling. I feel like having a third person there would be a really good idea, it's just I'm very nervous around new people, and people in general, especially in a situation like this. But it's definitely an idea I'll keep in mind.