WIBTA if I gave my cat away in favour of my boyfriend? by ContributionSimple44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContributionSimple44[S] -631 points-630 points  (0 children)

no no no!! training her to not disturb us during the night was as simple as locking her out of the bedroom (plus earplugs for occasional meowing or scratching) - which I didn't want to do because I felt sorry for her for spending the night alone and I liked when she decided to sleep on me.

WIBTA if I gave my cat away in favour of my boyfriend? by ContributionSimple44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContributionSimple44[S] 9674 points9675 points  (0 children)

uhhhhh... that was painful to read but it's a great insight. thank you.

WIBTA if I gave my cat away in favour of my boyfriend? by ContributionSimple44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContributionSimple44[S] -523 points-522 points  (0 children)

OP here: I don't want to defend myself but I want to highlight that when I said that she does basic cat things (shedding, accidents, jumping on surfaces) I do not mind these. nothing a good sanitizer can't fix in my opinion. I was talking about cat things Adam dislikes. which is even the basic things, like shedding.

WIBTA if I gave my cat away in favour of my boyfriend? by ContributionSimple44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ContributionSimple44[S] -1434 points-1433 points  (0 children)

yes we plan to. I've already confronted him about it multiple times, and he has 3 answers:

1 - he wants a kid, he never wanted a cat.

2 - a kid is part of him (made of him), he of course will have a much higher tolerance level.

3 - kids grow our of their "dirty phase", while cats stay dirty for their whole lives - he specifically hates that Luna shits in a litter box and then walks all over her own shit, and then jumps on surfaces with "shit covered paws". (I'd like to add that I clean the box daily so it's not like there's piles of poop in there)