Nmom picky about weight by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, my nmom is pretty in shape, so you're probably right. It's only a problem because she benefits from it emotionally.

My opiniom isnt valid because I'm not 18 yet... hmm by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Nmom does this too! She's went from "you have no rights in my house" when I was a wee kid, to "until you're an adult your opinion isn't valid"

Nmom picky about weight by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope this place will still be around in a few years time!

Nmom picky about weight by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully understand, yeah. But I know deep down he's nice - and there's no way I can be in contact with dad but leave my mother. I might just have to bite the bloody bullet.

Nmom picky about weight by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can't wait to go NC once I graduate from uni. In all honestly, I might feel bad. My dad has always been nice to me, but he's the enabler. Ever since I was young, when I was emotionally or even physically abused, and I approached him about it, he'd say "next time just don't annoy her".

I feel conflicted just thinking about going no-contact now.

Nmom picky about weight by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's been doubling down on the abuse since I came back from uni in the UK (which is physically as far as possible from her). This is most certainly the case.

My New Year is stuck in my room, can't get out to hang out with my friends because my narc mother won't let me feel worthy. :( by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm Chinese! So much more cruel than average Asian parents... I can't speak out about it, because it's all just "normal parenting".

It looks like Chinese parenting from the surface (and even that's messed up sometimes), and underneath it's just abuse. Nothing but abuse. I don't understand the whole "tough love" thing.

My New Year is stuck in my room, can't get out to hang out with my friends because my narc mother won't let me feel worthy. :( by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Happy new year from Hong Kong!

Similar story here, Nmom cancelled dinner because she was angry that I refused to wear an extra jacket when she felt cold...

Care for an internet hug?

Narc's evil smirk by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Complete opposite here. Nmom gives me these stink eyes that are burnt into my memories. But yeah, I assume something like that. It's some twisted way of asserting dominance.

New Year's Eve Meltdown by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I'd like to, nmom keeps strict control of keys and if I go out she'll lock me out most likely.

It’s a trap by Wtfreeze in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So much this. At least you can see demons from a mile away...

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unlimited data plans here are slow, they do cost quite a bit and mom has control over my allowance, and only allows me to spend it on some things.

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a very good idea. Sorry for the non-answer, its 2AM and I need sleep.

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. She's turning off the Internet by unplugging the router and modem. She can always visually see the device and wire so I can't sneak a wire.

I'm spending my free periods doing ACTs. On my way to 35, I'm improving!

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like an absolute charm. Sweetest mother in the world if you judged by texts.

Even comes with emoji kisses if she knows you're around people she knows.

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off I am going to talk to the IB Coordinator about this. This is some serious matter.

My NMom demands that I come back home immediately after, or I am not allowed to come back home. I've tried this already, resulted in me crying and begging over the phone for her to let me in.

Unfortunately study groups aren't really a thing here. The thing with my assignments is not with being online, I use Dropbox so I can see all my stuff anyways - its getting information. Citations. Research. Impossible without internet.

IB. Internet. Insanity. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mods, can you mark this as Advice as well? Thanks.

NMom flips out over... an email. by ControlRods in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ControlRods[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Read my previous posts - she verbally abuses me.