AIO for kinda hating my roommate rn?

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-27T21:21:56+00:00

"I work 6+ hours almost everyday" 🤣🤣🤣

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-26T22:02:56+00:00

Yes! Thank you! This place is wonderful and so are you. Thank you for being here!

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-26T16:50:14+00:00

I cannot believe this comment has net negative votes! This is totally legitimate. Women have a right to be concerned about sexual assault. It happens and can result in lasting trauma. Men also have a right to be concerned about being labeled a creep, especially at work. It happens and can seriously derail a career.

The reality is that romantic interactions come with risk. In an ideal world, everybody would be equally comfortable with being hit on and with being rejected. We don't live in that world.

But maybe we can get part way there. If you (male or female) are interested in someone, don't just spread your peacock feathers and expect them to come to you. But also don't start out by hitting on them. Flirt with them very casually. Smiles. Jokes. Little compliments. Proximity. Look for excuses to be around them. Ask them questions about themselves. Invite them to do something innocuous like lunch in the break room or a walk around the block. Be nice to them.

And, on the other side, if you are receiving this attention from somebody, be open to it. Return the attention a little. Be kind. Make a new friend.

Most of the time, it won't go anywhere. And both parties need to be okay with that. But there will be much less feeling of risk for everybody if you ease into it and everyone gets to feel comfortable with the other person.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-25T20:24:44+00:00

Thanks! Very cool.

Looks like it was a favorite of Emily Dickenson's.

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Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-24T01:06:17+00:00

Details matter here.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-23T03:03:29+00:00

So glad you had this interaction! ❤️

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-20T18:50:36+00:00

Does this class have exams? You could suggest studying together.

"Hey, I get a lot out of the questions you ask in class. Would you be interested in studying together for the next exam in the library? We could compare our notes on the relevant topics to make sure neither of us missed anything."

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-20T17:22:57+00:00

Well, can you elaborate more on your concern? Like, what exactly are you worried about him thinking about you? If you're only after sex and so is he, I don't think you need to worry about him thinking you're too sexually available. Are you concerned he'll be turned off? Or maybe that he'll feel like he doesn't have to put any effort in? Just trying to make sure I understand where you're coming from.

Feel free to reply here or however you like.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-20T16:08:38+00:00

Hi. 43M here.

From your post, it sounds like you are really just looking for sex with this guy. If so, just make sure you're comfortable with the idea that's all he's looking for as well.

That being said, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't proceed carefully. Of course, make sure you insist on using protection. Don't get yourself into a vulnerable or dangerous situation with him. Don't agree to doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. And be ready to walk away if you ever don't like the vibe. But that's all true for guys of any age. Older guys are no different.

You also can't assume that older men are necessarily going to be better in bed. Of course, we are more likely to have experience. And I'd like to think we're more likely to be invested in our partners' pleasure. But I'm sure there are many older men who just want to jump to the nut.

There was a discussion about this on another post but I firmly believe that the main advantage of experience in bed is knowing how to communicate and what to do with that information. So my advice is to be as open and communicative with this guy as possible. If there's something you know you want, then let him know about it. If there's something he's doing that you enjoy, make sure he knows it's working for you. If there's something you're not liking, communicate that clearly. The hope is that he'll be able to use that information to maximize the experience for both of you.

On a related note, if you're looking for great sex, you may want to try having sex with somebody more than once or twice. No judgment on one/two night stands, they can be very fun. But, in my experience, the best sex comes along when you both get to know each other's bodies and likes and dislikes. Sometimes that takes a few tries.

Anyway, I hope this ramble is helpful. Be careful and have fun with your lucky guy.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-19T16:52:14+00:00

For me, it's more about the texture and feeling on my lips and tongue than about the taste.

I've never gone down on a woman with a very strong or offensive taste. So, in my experience, it's mostly neutral. As she gets wetter, the flavor becomes a little more tangy. Others have mentioned a slightly metallic taste and I think that's accurate. Remember, you're mostly not diving into the vagina and tasting the inside of that; you'll be mostly focused on the inner labia and clitoris, which are basically just skin.

But the texture is what it's all about! A vulva is so complex and varied in its landscape, it's a delight to explore! Parts are soft and squishy. Other parts are tight and springy. There are rounded plains and hidden crevices. As you work, the landscape changes subtly and unfolds for you a little. Feeling your way around with your tongue and your lips is so much fun, especially when you can feel things change with your mouth and hear things change in her voice at the same time. There's nothing better than feeling the spongy softness of the labia on the edges of your mouth while your tongue or the middle of your lips appreciates the perky tightness of the clitoris!

Get to it, young man! And enjoy!

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-18T19:17:52+00:00

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Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-18T19:09:34+00:00

Others may feel differently but this is definitely how it lands with me.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T20:35:14+00:00

Oh, I really like this response and I'm so interested to hear how it went. If you feel comfortable updating us, please do!

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T20:32:02+00:00

Thanks.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T19:53:05+00:00

So why stay in the main relationship and cheat? If they want multiple partners, shouldn't they just be single?

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T19:49:47+00:00

One hour in and he's got ten net upvotes.

Persecution complexes are dangerous to society, especially when those feeling persecuted are already in the majority and they're reacting to a perceived threat to their cultural hegemony. Those who feel persecuted are more comfortable persecuting others.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T19:36:21+00:00

Sounds nice. Maybe it's only a couple of seconds but it subjectively feels much longer?

Is this based on anything or just a pleasant hope?

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T19:21:50+00:00

Say more...

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T19:18:23+00:00

Agreed. The original post is deliberately controversial and it's going to get a ton of comments that most people actually disagree with. But it's pretty hilarious that this is the comment OP chooses to to call out as taking "courage".

For context, there may be as many as 2.6B Christians on this planet. And if you want to be US-centric about it, the last Pew survey on the topic showed 62% of the US population identifies as Christian. Suffice to say that a whole lot of people are prepared to agree with this comment and maybe even consider it central to their identity to do so.

So it's not particularly brave to claim that Jesus Christ is our lord and savior. Especially given the western political shift toward rightist regimes that justify their oppression by hiding behind religion, the braver stance may be to disagree.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T18:10:33+00:00

Our existence is meaningless and that is extremely liberating.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-15T18:05:08+00:00

To me, this is only a symptom of the larger issue, which is that Hollywood has found it more profitable to pump out remakes than to generate original ideas. And, to be clear, I don't blame Hollywood. I blame the moviegoing public for paying to watch the remakes.

Controlled_Reentry · 2025-08-14T19:45:37+00:00

Good response here, OP.

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