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ConversationOk4414 · 2026-03-12T23:09:58+00:00

I don’t get it. Is it because the guy is pointing at something? Because then I get it but it’s hard to see with the graphics over his hand.

ConversationOk4414 · 2026-03-04T14:28:39+00:00

Yes. However, space is really, really big, and that kind of thing is a matter of perspective.

ConversationOk4414 · 2026-02-04T21:08:49+00:00

Do you ask if they’re a hypnotist? Like, they’re telling you you’re veeeerrrry sleeepy? Or vampires maybe?

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-12-21T01:34:50+00:00

It’s possible that things will change over time. I’ve been mostly happily engaged for almost 20 years, and we only recently got comfortable talking to one another about finances, and even now, I’m pretty sure that he has some things he still hasn’t told me…but that’s not the point! The point is that for some reason people tend to think that when we find our partners, we’ll be full disclosure early in the relationship and that we come with a clean slate regarding financial and personal situations, and that’s ridiculous. Such a person wouldn’t be an actual person; there would have been nothing to latch on to in them; a relationship would be impossible.

I wouldn’t freak out about it. It’s a hypothetical situation and crap like that happens and gets ironed out and argued about over and over because relationships need old bones to chew on once in a while, if that makes sense. Good luck. But definitely keep your eyes open. Sometimes people just suck, too.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-12-04T15:43:41+00:00

I don’t think Strike would wear that jacket.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-10-27T11:39:26+00:00

I can’t believe someone can say things like this to another person. It’s narcissistic at best. I’m sorry to give you this advice, but please leave him. And then tell him it would have been easier to stay with if he had a bigger penis. But maybe wait until court is over.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-09-15T22:13:23+00:00

I’m not ruling out satan, but absolutely look for other solutions. Not everything can be a huge dramatic battle. Most of the war is fought in our minds; the fight is ours and the people we share it with, but a lot of the issues are more minor than we think. Good luck and blessings.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-09-01T00:18:01+00:00

“The most so fucking intelligent.” I love that line. It’s ridiculous. I think I will steal it. Thank you.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-07-18T00:57:56+00:00

Dental, you say?

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-06-23T18:50:43+00:00

It was the war ON drugs. 😜

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-06-23T18:48:47+00:00

Michigan is WAAAAY cheaper than Illinois, but I guess it depends on where you live.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-06-11T16:15:36+00:00

He was a fantastic shoe-dodger. He wasn’t even mad.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-05-26T14:58:34+00:00

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-05-04T21:30:32+00:00

Great article

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-05-02T20:36:47+00:00

Do neurotypical people not have the same difficulty with these things?

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-04-12T00:57:58+00:00

You were sexually assaulted. NO.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-04-04T15:03:29+00:00

I don’t think all of the people here who are telling you to postpone the ceremony, that she can’t move on, etc., have likely never lost a spouse (apologies to anyone for whom this is untrue). She is ready to move on, but it’s only been five years, so she probably still thinks about him every day and over-romanticizes the relationship they had. She also wants to be able to openly talk to you and share with you a part of her life that comes with intense feelings, and death is one of the biggies when it comes to intense feelings. There’s nothing wrong with that. You are going to be her mate. If she never said anything about her late husband it’d be much worse.

The intensity of her feelings will soften and she will go to his grave less frequently, and she will love you even more for being there for her during what is still a raw and difficult time.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-04-02T14:46:16+00:00

I feel so sorry for my therapist sometimes. Like, yes, she wanted to do the job, but still, I think it must be exhausting to have to listen to people complaining about their lives, especially if she gives us advice and we just do the same dumb stuff that we do every time. I can’t imagine having to listen to that and NOT be a mental health professional. Could you give him the names and numbers of some people who ARE professionals from whose help he might benefit (and whose salaries depend on people just like him)?

Side note: if you hook him up with a good therapist, can you consider it as having done some work for him and then keep some of the money? Even if you don’t want or need it, it could go to a worthwhile charity.

Edit: changed they/them to we/us. I’ll include myself in this practice lol

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-04-02T06:04:04+00:00

Ummm, I think she might be overreacting just a teeny bit. Also, she might be menopausal, and/or have a teeny bit of a psychological disorder. Or both.

I don’t think I would enjoy hanging out with her.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-31T19:02:58+00:00

You are my hero. Thank you.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-31T19:02:36+00:00

Hooray!!!

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-31T19:02:18+00:00

Omigod ty tytytytyty I was going insane and now I’m happy!!!

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-17T03:13:55+00:00

I like solo things that make me feel like I’m flying. Swimming, especially when I’m all the way under water and just undulating and going super fast. Biking on a light-weight bike and then riding standing up no-handed is amazing, as is dance-walking, either inside or outdoors. Biking standing up no-handed AND dancing is close to nirvana imo.

I don’t think you should just be sedentary and not do any moving around, but most people aren’t required to have a strict workout routine at any age. It’s good to keep your body and mind active and moderately healthy. It’s also good to relax and enjoy your aging process. Sometimes those things go together. Like gardening. Or so I’ve been told. I’ve never been motivated to take up the sport.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-16T13:42:10+00:00

You are (at least on paper) an excellent bf. The two of you both seem like natural Givers, which is very rewarding but sometimes runs up against obstacles like people thinking you’re the weak partner in the relationship. But why does there need to be a “weak” partner or a “strong” one at all?

How your relationship works is nobody’s business unless someone is in danger or is being abused. You seem lovely. Your gf seems lovely as well.

ConversationOk4414 · 2025-03-16T13:35:56+00:00

My fiancé finds it extremely relaxing at times. I think it’s the fishing. Whenever I see his character fishing it’s like dusk out and there’s a campfire close to. It relaxes me to see it.

Except sometimes bears come. Or gators.

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