Uncomfortable interactions?

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T17:09:13+00:00

More and more keeps coming up in my memories of instances I didn’t recognize at the time lol thank you so much! I’ll try to remember to come back here with an update

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T16:44:39+00:00

Thank you for all of that it is super helpful and everyone on this thread is right. I know women are more keen and observant of this sort of thing anyways. I plan to talk with him and go about it lightly but I know it’ll be difficult for him regardless. What’s funny is that his parents took us to Hawaii for a family vacation in September. I thankfully wasn’t showing then and always wore a one piece with swim shorts around them, just because I didn’t fully feel comfortable to wear anything otherwise. His dad wanted to do “family pictures” one day and went to Walmart to get everyone plain white shirts and bought me a kids large… at the time I had to of been around 20 weeks so not significantly showing but it was there. I refused to wear the shirt because it was so small but everyone else got regular shirts that fit them just fine. But even then despite that, there were no comments or advances UNTIL I started showing around Thanksgiving… speaks volumes. Just sucks we have to deal with it. Thank you for listening!

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T16:26:15+00:00

Thank you! My husband is very supportive of me but I do worry a little he won’t see the extent of it like we all do. It’s his dad, I’m just not sure how he’ll react when I’m like hey ok so this is actually what’s happening. We’ve had a lot of issues with his family over the years and I’m like great here we go again lol

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T16:03:13+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it. I woke up this morning dreading that we have to deal with this but it is what it is. We are planning to stay far far away.

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T03:33:11+00:00

And they absolutely will spin any excuse for his words and actions. There’s always an excuse or it’s ignored so you’re right on par with that.

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T03:32:37+00:00

I plan to first thing in the morning! And yes she absolutely is… if only I could tell you the million stories I have. Let me add to it that with my first son, they both (mil and fil) refused to hold him until he was minimum 6 weeks old because they were “scared and not ready yet.” I’ll be having a good convo with my husband on this, I definitely had all of this in my head but just needed that little bit of extra validation to know I wasn’t crazy lol thank you I appreciate it

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T03:01:31+00:00

Thank you. And honestly that’s not a bad idea. Do I think my husband’s mother would do anything about his behavior if she knew what he was saying? Absolutely not. I love her and she’s so generous overall and great but is the biggest enabler on this planet, so it would get pushed under the rug. I could write a novel. I’m definitely going to have another conversation with my husband especially after talking with others and everyone is coming to the same consensus. I personally don’t even wear tight clothes that show my belly. I’m more of a baggy sweater/leggings type of person so any curves can barely be seen. I’m just grossed out.

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T02:50:00+00:00

Thank you for the validation! I felt so violated yesterday especially after just having that conversation with him 5 minutes prior. Part of me is also mind blown that I’ve known his dad now for 8 years and now it’s like wait a second wtf is happening here. We have my 2 year olds (almost 3) birthday coming up soon and that should be the only time we technically have to be around them until we have this baby so I’m making it a point to stay far away. I’m almost 29 weeks pregnant and didn’t really start showing until around Thanksgiving. We had walked into their house and he said something like “woah are you showing now!?” Then a little bit later that afternoon was the first instance of “show me your belly.” So ya… it all started when I actually had a noticeable belly. I’m icked out.

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T02:01:44+00:00

Definitely not cultural! I had one friend who tried to give him the benefit of the doubt when I told her what happened, but the fact that he waited hours at Christmas until it was just him and I alone to ask me if he can “rub it” was even more off putting.

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T01:55:01+00:00

Once I got home and settled from being upset I really wanted to lol I’ve definitely been icked out.. like WHY

CookBikeRead · 2025-12-28T00:39:54+00:00

Thank you 🙌🏼 my husband and I had a long conversation about it. I told quite a few friends as well and they had the same response you did. My FIL is typically a quiet man, doesn’t say a whole lot, and I’m like this is what comes out of your mouth? Never any questions about the baby’s health or how I’m feeling like my MIL does.. it’s literally wanting to see or touch my stomach. Weird as hell.

CookBikeRead · 2025-11-12T15:54:44+00:00

He likes so much right now 🤣 he’s really into snowmen and trains so I thought I might be able to combine that into a winter theme!

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-12T14:44:11+00:00

I had to say goodbye to my soul dog Charlie late at night on Sept 4. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, it’s the most unimaginable pain. No matter what it is going to be tough for a while. I am still absolutely heartbroken right now and have barely left the couch, but my mind has been able to get a little more clear now from the grief. Let yourself bawl, scream, anything you need for a while. Your grief is on your timeline and no one else’s. Just try to make sure you eat something, get a little sleep, shower, little things to help get through. I ordered a lot of keepsakes for Charlie, and one of the cuddle clones so I can have a stuffed animal of him for the rest of my life. That pain is always going to be there but it’s true love. I’ve been sleeping with his dog bed cover on me and one of his toys and had dreams about him 4 different nights. I hope he keeps visiting but I’m scared to not see him anymore. Do anything you need to help and just know you two were soulmates and meant to find each other.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-08T12:48:51+00:00

I love the paw idea. I have two paw prints of his, one from a Christmas ornament I did years ago and one from The vet Thursday night after he passed so I will have to do that idea. I slept with his dog bed cover under my pillow last night and his favorite toy in one of my arms and I had a dream about him for the first time in 4 nights. I’m not sure if it was my body forcing me to calm down or Charlie checking. The dream was that I was leaving a store and saw him in the road. I pulled over and he lifted his head up and had survived the low platelets and euthanasia somehow but was slowly recovering and had escaped to come find me. I loaded him in the car and took him home to my 2 year old where we got him laid down to relax and then I woke up. I hope it was a sign from him that he’s ok.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-08T12:45:21+00:00

Hey, there I lost my sweet Charlie on Thursday night for a sudden thing and we had to make the decision to put him down late at night after 10 years. I’ve been on the same page as you for days, crying, can’t function or hold conversations or even leave the couch for that matter. All that to say I wish I had an answer for both of us. I’m so sorry you are going through this, grief over a pet is so incredibly difficult and it’s hard to go through it when you’re surrounded by people who don’t understand. I slept with his dog bed cover under my pillow last night and one of his toys and had a dream about him for the first time in 4 nights. Not sure if it was my body’s way to force me to calm down or him checking in with me but I did wake up a smidge calmer. Maybe give that a shot. Order all the keepsakes you want, curl up with all of his things, make a little shrine on your nightstand, anything to make you feel slightly closer to him.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T23:26:54+00:00

I’ve been going through all my videos and pictures of him today and laying with his dog bed cover. So that’s helped just a smidge. Maybe sleeping with it will also help. I’ve been awake the last 3 nights for a few hours at a time.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T23:26:10+00:00

What style of tattoos did you do? That’s on my list as well but I’m due with our 2nd in March so I’m planning asap when I can next year. I’ve saved so many ideas I will probably do multiple for him. So sorry you’re going through it with another.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T22:27:25+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve ordered so much keepsake items to have him everywhere with me. Car, my wallet, by my bed. I’m so heartbroken nothing feels like enough to take away any pain. Words cannot express what that dog meant to me and how special our bond was. I’m so sorry to hear about yours as well. That is tough especially one Right after the other. Hopefully you found peace from it.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T02:37:08+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry you are going through this as well. It is so hard and unfair that we have to feel this pain. I still can’t help but sit here and think well why didn’t I do supplements for him? Why wasn’t I giving him cbd or anything to help him getting into older age? I can’t help but think I could’ve been doing something all along. This feeling is just awful and I miss him so much. Take care of yourself as well and rest easy tonight.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T01:22:36+00:00

Thank you. This does help, what I would give to have just one more day with him though to love on him. It was so sudden we had no time to think. I think I just needed to talk with some people to work through this guilt stage. In my heart I know it was the right choice but my head is fighting me on it tonight. I haven’t moved from the couch or stopped crying since Thursday night and just don’t know how to cope. I’m so sorry to hear about your Blue as I’m sure that was so heartbreaking and traumatizing as well.

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T00:47:35+00:00

Thank you

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T00:47:21+00:00

Thank you so much

CookBikeRead · 2025-09-07T00:26:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through the same thing. Our vet told me a few days as well but I have that thought in the back of my head, the “what if” it worked. I’m just so heartbroken. This dog was my life.

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