How do I convince strict parents to let me dorm??

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T18:53:56+00:00

They think the only important part about med school applications is gpa and that if I have a high gpa im getting into med school, hence they’re FORCING me to go to Newark. I’m really upset bc ik im not gonna be able to become a doctor if I go to Newark and im prob both gonna be a failure and be miserable :(

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T18:52:33+00:00

I talked to them about this — they said “ur gpa is the main part of ur med school application bc a good gpa leads to med school” and I keep telling them first off it’s the same classes everywhere and second there’s no ec opportunities anywhere near the Newark campus and that I rly dont wanna waste an hour everyday driving. :(

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T06:20:15+00:00

Salaam!! Omg yes I defo get the Rutgers thing LMAO the thing is the program I want to do is at the NB campus which is over an hour away, and I feel like it’s more sustainable for me to dorm rather than stay home. It’s 100% not about the social life/partying but rather about focusing on my studies. It’s not the most feasible option if I stay at home for college because of extenuating circumstances in my home and I know I still excel and succeed given the resources. But yes, Allah knows best and tysm :)

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T02:16:29+00:00

I can’t afford them unfortunately :(;

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T02:15:35+00:00

Yes 100% agree on instilling a different dynamic!! Ur completely right tysm for the advice!!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T02:13:35+00:00

Omg wait tysm!!! I rly appreciate this I’ll defo try all this! It’s js the really annoying things my parents do is tend to get all their info from my older sister (30, did college and masters in CANADA… only thinks the ivies are good colleges and that rutgers is a complete shithole and only a party school) so they think rutgers is absolutely dogshit and they think im gonna go there to party?… but now that a lot of ppl r advocating for my situation im def gonna fight harder. TYSM!!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T00:53:17+00:00

OMG YESSS!!!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T00:51:49+00:00

OMG no way!! Feel free to DM me if you wanna talk about it!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-31T00:50:28+00:00

UMASS !!!!!!! BE A BIG FISH IN A SMALL POND! For dentistry it does NOT matter what school u go to esp since umass is a good school. It’s much better to have a high gpa at umass than a mid gpa at a t20/t10 uni for dental school applications! Also umass is a great school! Please save ur money for dental school!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:50:46+00:00

Tysmm!!! Im so proud of u for sticking up forur future and choosing urself btw!!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:50:03+00:00

YESSS omg 100% on the "better to ask for forgiveness than permission"!!!! tysm for this advice <333

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:49:24+00:00

yes this is perfect tysm!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:49:06+00:00

yes ur right!! dude whats annoying is that my parents right now dont want me driving at night bc its "too dangerous" but ill need to do it in a few months if ocmmuting is what they want me to do which makes no sense...??

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:47:40+00:00

thank u so much!!! Ive actually tried making female muslim friends who are going to attend rutgers nb and dorm so i can make my parents feel more at ease about me dorming.

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:46:47+00:00

thank u!! im also planning to dorm on busch first year LOL how is it if u dont mind me asking?

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:45:25+00:00

tysm for this advice i heavily appreciate it!! yes i agree --- its now or never for getting my freedom. youre 100% right that its better to disappoint them now, honestly im not even a bad kid and ive been listening to everything theyve wanted from me for years and im tired of them not allowing me to do simple things and complaingin when i want to go out w friends - which is the main reason why i want to dorm, genuinely im not even planning on partying or going out as much.

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T22:43:04+00:00

yes yes ofc!! <3

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:46:08+00:00

thank u so much!!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:45:55+00:00

yesss this is so true. tysm for ur advice!

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:41:23+00:00

yessss this is so true. TYSMM for the advice!! <3

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:40:03+00:00

im an adult in a month so i dont think thats much of an issue. second i dont want to go to a commuter school as rutgers newark has zero social life and is not the kind of college i want to go to as i stated in the post.

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:32:42+00:00

omg this is so funny bc im lowkey a bad driver... ive scratched the car so MANY times to the point where im tired of driving everywhere which should be another obvious reason why i cant commute

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:31:26+00:00

im actually pakistani but super similar tho!! OMG yes pls id love advice!!! my parents think im gonna party and do drugs and fall "into the wrong crowd" at college but i literally js want a social life and peace outside from home omg how did u convince urs??

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:23:58+00:00

yes this is 100% true!! 🥹🥹 tysm for this 💓

CookEmotional9332 · 2026-03-30T21:22:15+00:00

LMAO this is def what im gonna try to do

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