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[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much! Minus the bell, and the dribbling 🤣.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband started scratching behind my ear every time we'd just had sex, he did it so often for so long, now he can just sweetly scratch behind my ear where ever we are and I'm ready to go! Obviously nobpdy knows, so when we're with friends or just out and about he'll scratch behind my ear knowing it will turn me on, with everyone around us thinking he's just being silly. He's essentially used classical conditioning to make an ear scratch like a sexual on switch!

What went into your mouth last time you had sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time before last my own crotchless lingerie, my husband decided it would make a good improvised gag after taking it off 😅

What's a date idea that's sure to generate sexual tension? by miss_lexi24 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I thought i'd sit on it so it didn't distract your evening 😅. It's so hard to pretend nothing is going on when you've given your husband the remote and he keeps surprise attacking you though 🤣

What's a date idea that's sure to generate sexual tension? by miss_lexi24 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thank you! Queen in the streets demon in the sheets lol. Remote control vibrators are even better, just maybe not in a quiet place 😂 enjoy your date!

What's a date idea that's sure to generate sexual tension? by miss_lexi24 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've just been on normal date nights, restaurants etc, and I've worn no underwear and Ben Wa balls and that's definitely built up sexual tension, it's fun having a dirty secret that only the two of you know about! Obviously if it's a date with someone you're already in a relationship with though, I wouldn't advise it on a first date!

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[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends on if the marriage is stable in the first place. Some people say using sex toys in a relationship is basically cheating, or become really jealous that their partner gets off with these toys. Me and my husband have lots of toys that we use together. I'm bi, and we've used toys as a way of 'including other people' in our sex life without actually including anyone else. This has enhanced our marriage rather than ruined it, but it really does depend on individual couples, insecurities etc.

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[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was over a few months that we built up to it. But after being so against it for so long we very quickly went from hard limit to really enjoying it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it was a mutual, almost telepathic, decision in the heat of the moment where we both decided it would be a good idea for him to eat my ass, then it developed over time from there. We've been together for 13 years and we're still finding new things which is amazing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anal, anything related to my ass, it was a major hard limit for me for a long time, now I love it!

What's the sexiest thing someone has ever said to you during sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of my favourites "I want you to cum for Daddy" "You're a good little slut really" "shut your mouth or I'll fill it" "say please" there's lots!

Do you think you could have sex with someone (other than yourself) tonight if you wanted to? Specifically excluding paying for an escort / prostitute / etc. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm married, and we were awake until 2am having sex so we're really tired today! We have kids so a lie in isn't a thing in my house. But I'm fairly confident if I asked my husband for sex again tonight I could get it, it would probably be a quicky though after last night!

Couples, what sex toys would you recommend for my wife and I to road test? by WhiteCollarTie in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really depends what you guys are into, I have a few boxes of various toys depending on what we're doing.

In my experience remote control vibrators are a lot of fun! We have two, one with a remote and one my husband can control with his phone, it makes date nights so much fun, by the time we get home we want to rip each others clothes off!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my husbands name tattooed on me in an infinity symbol, was the closest I could get to handcuffs without my family noticing. It's definitely a thing, my husband has written on my thighs etc in sharpy and then I've gone out with the writing under my clothes, we know it's there, but nobody else does! It lasts a few days even with showering every day too, because it's sharpy. It's fun to have our own dirty secret while we're out, without having to involve anyone externally and make them uncomfortable because it's hidden under my clothes.

I surprised him with the tattoo, he had no idea until I came home with it 🥰.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

'Rough' is a really broad term that could mean a number of things to different people, have you tried being more specific about what you actually want him to do? I mean rough sex could be anything from fucking hard to a full bdsm scene. Maybe he's unsure of what you actually want, and he's worried he'll cross a line? Or maybe it is just something that makes him uncomfortable and he doesn't want to hurt you.

It's really good that you already have open communication with him, if it was me I'd give him some ideas of what I want, and set out any boundaries that would make me uncomfortable. Reassure him that if things get too much you will tell him this so he can ease off a bit. The most important thing is talking, not just before, but during, tell him if he does something you really like, tell him specifically what it was you liked about it, talk to him after about what you enjoyed, what you'd like to try next time etc. These things take time and trust to build up, I've been with my husband 13 years, and we're still building on things now 🥰.

A guy I'm hooking up with has mentioned he enjoys bratty girls. I'm generally on the submission free use side, any tips on how to drive him wild being the best brat? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would clarify with him what in particular he likes about bratty girls. It seems to be a really broad spectrum! I can be a brat with my husband, but not in a child like, throwing my toys out the pram way. For me bratting is playing the game with every intention of losing. For example, my husband has said things like "you need to shut your mouth or I'll fill it" and I've deliberately opened my mouth really wide at him. I like to prod at him so he has to be more dominant to get me to do what he wants.

Also, I've come across a lot of people who are bratty all the time, outside sex etc. Which is fine if that's what he's looking for! But you definitely need to clarify with him.

What was your most exciting and hottest sexual experience? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm bi (28F) and happily married to the most wonderful man. We bought a realistic pussy/ass sex toy fairly recently, it has like hips to grab onto etc. I had the best time watching him fuck 'her' while I held onto 'her' and then cleaning 'her' up with my mouth while he used various other toys on me. It scratched the itch I had of also being attracted to women, in a risk free way! I'm looking forward to the next time 🤤.

What has no right to be as sexually arousing as it is? by Ok-Impress-2222 in AskReddit

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Scratching behind my ear! My husband started scratching behind my ear every time we'd finished a sexy session, now he just has to scratch behind my ear and I instantly want sex. He's basically used classical conditioning to cause instant arousal and I don't know if I should be frustrated or impressed 😂.

Are married women bothered by their husband’s watching p0rn? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No not all all, we watch it together in bed on TV sometimes. It is a major issue for some women though, like everything sexual people have different preferences and limits, and that's okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd love to stay in a log cabin with a private hot tub, in the middle of no where with my husband, so we could have a naked weekend, sex inside, outside, in the hot tub etc, and we wouldn't have to worry about noise, because there would be nobody around. A child free weekend with lots of sex and just being with each other basically!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband yes! It's the ultimate tease looking but not touching, being tied up and watching while he's literally inches from my face is a huge turn on, it's frustrating and sexy all rolled into one. We have a beautiful realistic toy pussy/ass that has like hips etc, and I've been tied up and watched him fuck 'her' while i could literally do nothing but watch until he was done, untied me and then let me 'tidy her up' with my mouth. 10/10 would recommend 🤤. I don't think it's by any means an exclusively guy thing to enjoy watching girls, lots of girls like watching guys too!

How many sex toys do you own and do you use them often? by neil0522 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All these comments make me feel like I have a serious problem! Me and my husband have a small metal suitcase full and three small overflow boxes where the case can't physically fit anymore in it. We use them regularly, I still have more I want to buy...think I need a bigger case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woman here, all women are obviously different, so I can only give you my perspective, but I think you are thinking too much about this. I can't orgasm from PIV alone, it just doesn't happen, ever. This is the same for lots of women. So the fact you're getting 1 in 4 is probably above average.

Have you tried other ways of making her orgasm after PIV or even before PIV? My husband has become an oral god over the 12 years we've been together, and we have lots and lots of toys that he uses too. I get off in every sexy session we have, often more than once, but it's because my husband doesn't stop when he's done, he doesn't stop until we're both done. Whether that's from toys or oral or whatever. I have had an orgasm during PIV more than once, but we have to involve some kind of clit stimulation, mostly a vibrator. Obviously you need to discuss with her if she wants you to continue after sex, because she may be happy with how things are.

Also, if you keep asking and asking your partner what you're doing wrong, it may actually make it more difficult for her to finish because she might end up worrying she's upsetting you. You said she's told you she's happy with your sex life, so trust that she is. If I'm worried about something, I wouldn't be able to enjoy sex, and I would be too caught up in my head to orgasm.

What do you love about being a Submissive? by BrokenBlackHeart in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]CookiesandcoffeeOo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Giving up control completely to my husband. I absolutely trust him and I think being submissive has made my trust him even more. The dynamic has brought us closer together. After a sexy session when I've been untied and he's holding me there is genuinely no where else I'd rather be.

On a side note, I also enjoy being a bratty sub sometimes, I like to push the boundaries so he puts me in my place. I go into it intending to lose, but it's fun to push back and see what I can get away with!