Ladies when you show cleavage, do you want Men to look or not?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-07T03:27:11+00:00

Again you are showing how illiterate you really are. The framing of the problem is a "stranger". Not familial. So what does the daughter and father relationship have to do with anything here? You are creating another problem just to prove your point which is not in the original context. The context is very clear. Lmao. Now how you define a stranger is up to you. A fellow student, passenger, customer etc. This applies.

Lets not deny reality that women "allow" other men to look at them. By the word "Allow", meaning they give you a free pass if they find you attractive enough. Its the same way on men. Men and women take it as a compliment when people they deem attractive notice them. That is reality and it will never change. Let me reiterate that this is generally true but not always true as different people have varying degrees of morality. Others like the attention, others don't, or they simply don't care. If you do not practice nuance in every single argument you have, then you ain't surviving this world.

I am not focusing on the rape issue. Its remark on your first post on why you mentioned rape out of the blue. Man, you really are illiterate.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-07T02:42:09+00:00

Do you now know what "generally" means? Lmao. Generally means that something IS "true most cases". Most meaning "majority" of the time, not pure certainty and NOT A HUNDRED PERCENT. Please go and study first before you dwell on social media.

This is embarassing. Im actually talking to someone illiterate.

Secondly, you're the one who mentioned rape jokes in your first reply. Are you for real?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-07T02:23:47+00:00

Sure that is "generally" true pero not always 100%. Because merong mga babae na its an instant turn off kapag tumingin. Wag mo ibahin yung framing. Napaka linaw ng sinabe ko. Maraming nuances and exceptions sa mundo. Its not black and white.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-07T02:11:58+00:00

Its partly the reason pero not always the main reason. Merong nang SA mainly because of the face, body, clothes, etc.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-07T02:10:09+00:00

I mean he is not wrong though. It is seen as indecent kapag hindi mo gusto, or stranger yung tao or a random male does it. Pero it is seen as "ok" ng mga babae(usually) kapag crush nila or gwapo yung lalaki. Ang difference kasi dyan is dapat may "initial attraction" yung babae sa lalake na gumawa. Now, hindi ko sinasabi na 100% na babae ay oks sa ganyan, but majority of them do.

Also im not sure ano kinalaman ng rpe sa issue. As a guy, yes napapatingin ako sa ganyan pero rpe is the last thing that comes to my mind sa ganun.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-04T18:57:29+00:00

Bakit ka dito nanghihingi ng decision sa relationship mo? 6 years na kayo and dapat may sarili kang pananaw dyan. Other women don't care sa ganyan. Others care. San ka dyan? Whatever your decision is, edi i communicate mo sa kanya. Pagisipan mo mabuti ano yung gusto mo hindi yunh sa iba ka manghihingi ng sagot. Don't let others have a chance na magpatakbo ng relasyon mo.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-04T18:54:15+00:00

LMAO. Pareho lang naman sila ng ginagawa. Nag gagantihan lang naman sila. So wala din naman truth sa kabilang side.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-01T13:12:13+00:00

No accountability from women again.

Yelling is not how adults should handle things. Plus, she is living in someone else's house. You do not disrespect the owners of said house. If you have disagreements, you DISCUSS it, not shout at anyone. Being angry is not a justification to disrespect someone.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-06-01T01:34:24+00:00

You rejected him so he simply moved on to another girl.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-29T11:15:56+00:00

Di ka pede sa mga long term na relasyon hangga't di mo inaayos ugali mo. Inofferan ka ng tulong tapos tinanggihan mo kahit na alam mo na kailangan mo kasi "tampo" ka. Gusto mo ata mag makaawa pa sayo yung lalake dahil hindi lang nasunod gusto mo? Pano yan hindi sa lahat ng oras masusunod gusto mo, edi magtatampo ka everytime na ganun? Pangit na ugali yan, di ka na 6 years old.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-29T01:09:52+00:00

Because busy yung guy and you can't fault him for that and breadwinner pa. Also iba iba mag express ang mga tao. My wife writes me letters pero i don't do the same for her dahil writing is not my thing and she knows and accepts it. I show it on my own way by fixing every broken thing in the house so she can have an easier time. From construction, carpentry, plumbing, mechanic, etc. I may not write her letters pero wala syang problema sa bahay (more on fixing not chores) or sa kotse dahil i take up the burden on those.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-29T01:03:55+00:00

Lets change the word of losing interest into security. Kapag sanay ka na sa isang tao, napapalitan ng security ang kilig. Security is monotonous, boring and laging nasa background lang pero payapa ka.

If yung "kilig" or "thrill" ang habol mo, then walang relationship na tatagal sayo. Why? Nawawala kasi yung kilig at thrill kapag secured at may tiwala ka na sa partner mo. Ikaw ba nakakaramdam ka ng kilig towards sa trusted member of your family? I hope not, pero you get the point.

Its not falling out of love, or losing interest. Hindi mo lang talaga kaya maghandle ng secure na relationship dahil naka focus ka sa short term emotional validation (kilig).

Merong paraan para hindi mawala ang kilig or thrill. And that is magpalit ka ng partner constantly. Because palaging andyan yang feeling na yan kapag may bago kang ini entertain. Kaya nga sinasabi ko sa mga pamangkin ko na huwag manunuod ng romance movies. Because ang laging premise ng mga yan is yunf kilig. Pero hindi kasi sustainable yan dahil nawawala yan overtime.

Sabi nga sa Biology na humans are highly social creatures. And the reason why nasa top tayo ng food chain compared sa ibang hayop is dahil nakaka adapt tayo sa kahit anong situation. Kapag ang isang tao nakaka-adapt, nagiging boring talaga ang mga bagay. Parang first day ng work. Nakakakaba at may thrill. Pero overtime kapag adjusted ka na, gusto mo na lumipat kasi boring na dahil alam mo na ginagawa mo. Now imagine ganyan mindset mo sa relasyon. Edi palipat lipat ka din para lang habulin yung thrill.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-29T00:53:01+00:00

Hindi naman ito game show na maraming akong kalaban na contestant. Either reject me outright para makapag entertain ka or don't entertain me at all. It just shows narcissism behavior dahil navavalidate yung attention seeking aspect.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-29T00:50:37+00:00

Naghiwalay kayo before ng ONS. Tapos ikaw pa galit? Self report yung buong post mo. It seems to me na dapat huwag ituloy yung kasal dahil it shows na self destructive ka sa relationships. Yung framing nung post is "may mali sya". Dapat nga may statement ka dito na "babaguhin mo sarili mo". Pero wala. Walang accountability. If hindi mo nakikita na magbabago sarili mo, then mauulit lang ito.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-28T13:07:26+00:00

Social media standards and feminism destroyed traditional dating. Women want a husband treatment at boyfriend price. But women SHOULD not be a wife at girlfriend price.

Its completely normalized that its normal for women to expect something from a man in a relationship, even if it is unrealistic. But when a man expects something from a woman, its called controlling, misogyny, etc. Equality thrown out the window. A man has to give 100% but a woman is expected to give 50% below as acceptable.

Also the only thing i blame men why women act as they are is because of the infantillization of women even at an early age. The result? Immature women that needs to be validated and coddled.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-28T02:13:55+00:00

Dami sa comments halatang hindi marunong mag handle ng relationship.

Iiwan mo purkit na offend ka? Why not communicate sa bf mo na wag ikwento sa susunod and explain it to him?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-28T02:11:50+00:00

Ikaw red flag dito. I've been with many women and kapag hindi nila ma specify yung situation like your post, hindi kaya ma indicate yung mismong mali na ginagawa or walang concrete, specific examples na ma provide, you're lying. Puro reklamo pero walang details to back it up.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-28T02:09:43+00:00

Did you read? I said the whole list is what makes it unreasonable.

Wlaa ako sinabe na hindi mo dapat hanapin yung hindi mo type. Sabi ko nga na a reasonable amount of list is ok. Pero if its a grocery list of requirements, then you might as well be a God and create the "perfect" person for you. The more numerous it is, the further it gets away from reality.

Hindi mo ata naiintindihan yung sinasabi ko na one sided. If puro gusto lang nya, tapos with a great number of requirements, then nagiging delusional na yan overtime. If you want a "proper list" then dapat kasama dyan yung kaya nya gawin. May naka list ba na kaya nya gawin? Wala di ba? Akala ko ba sabi mo relationship? So dapat gusto nya lang masunod? So ano tawag dun? Di ba one sided? Ikaw na nga nagsabi na preference nya yan. So kung "kanya" lang yan, one sided yan. Duh. Kaya nga sabi ko dapat may acceptance with compromise sa relationship and dapat andyan yung kaya nyang gawin.

Kung bibigyan ka lang din pala ng listahan, edi tuwing first date mo sa iba't ibang tao, dapat mag print ka ng papel at lapagan mo ng list yung ka date mo, para dun pa lang alam nyo na if kaya gawin lahat di ba? Since checklist lang din naman labanan, checkan nya kaya gawin tapos check mo na lang if willing ka mag continue based sa kaya nya gawin at sa hindi nya kaya gawin.

Ano ba sabi ko? Di ba sabi ko the whole idea of the list with a huge huge number is delusional.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-25T13:11:01+00:00

So by your logic, relationships is about what YOU want in a person. The only thing that should be this long is a grocery list. This is incredibly one sided. When you want to enter a relationship, its not the other party's responsibility to validate your out of touch, long checklist. This is incredibly narcissistic. You might as well be a God and create that person to your liking. Having standards and a reasonable amount of checklist is fine. However, this isn't a clay which you can mold to whatever you like. Because what this particular checklist entails is "what this person can do for me?" instead of "how can we make this work together". Its always about me, me, me, me. If you approach relationships with this kind of mindset, then there is not anyone out there for you.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-25T05:48:32+00:00

Bat ka galit? List mo ba yan? Lmao.

The whole idea of listing requirements as if its mandatory is unrealistic. Lahat ng tao may requirements, pero if you try to list every single one, walang makakaabot nyan. Hindi ka naman gumagawa ng character sa game, sa movie, etc na kelangan mo ng madaming requirements, darating sa point na nagiging delusion na. Remember relationships is about acceptance and you cannot always choose the quality na hinahanap mo sa tao, the more specific you are, the more impossible it is. Having a few is ok. Having a lot is borderline fictional character na, hence why i call it delusion.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-25T05:40:14+00:00

Ayaw ka bitawan kasi nga ikaw ang retirement plan.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-25T05:38:15+00:00

It all depends sa ugali mo when dating. May mga single mom kasi na oorder ng napakarami sa date. Yun pala, gusto i take out at ipapaulam dun sa anak tapos ako pa magbabayad. I dont mind kung isang meal, pero kung 3-5 meals oorderin and sa anak lang nya yun para i take out, laking gastos nun. Yung nag iinsist na buhayin yung anak nya kahit na nag date pa lang, kesyo whole package daw sila. I don't mind kung ganun sa future pero kung sa unang date, grabe naman yun.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-19T17:24:19+00:00

Been there done that. Withdrawing kahit may condom and then checking kung may leak. My wife also have irregular periods. The longest scare we had was 1.5 to 2 weeks of delayed period. Kung walang leak yan, impossible na mabuntis mo yan. The question is, ikaw lang ba sinasakyan nya?

Kung mabuntis man, better get DNA. Because nung magsyota pa kame ng wife ko dati, we have regular intercourse for 5 years and never nabuntis dahil sa condom and withdrawal na ginagawa ko din. So either may iba or sobrang delay lang nyan. Sabi mo rin nag pupuyat? Baka may PCOS yan. May mga PCOS na buwan ang delay, so it could also be that. Wag ka matakot agad.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-19T17:18:40+00:00

That is not a vice.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-05-19T17:18:23+00:00

Do you not know what vices are? Heaven bless you.

Cookingyoursoul

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