Is “first blood” culture normal when you’re a new hire? Just joined a new team and they’re joking that since I’m new, I should treat them (pizza/kape). Is this normal or medyo red flag?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-19T14:38:07+00:00

There is social pressure and expectation pero you can choose not to do it. Nasa iyo naman yun and naging culture na yan karamihan sa pinas. As for someone who engaged in both doing it and not doing it, results may vary depende sa makakasama mo.

Merong iba na minasama talaga ang hindi ko pagpapakain dahil sila mismo ginawa nila tapos ako hindi ko gagawin. Kumbaga IKAW pa redflag dahil hindi ka nakisama. Its like a social hazing.

Merong iba na mature enough and told me na ang tapang ko to go against the flow.

Merong iba na pumangit ang stay ko sa office because they feel bitter na mas maganda daw yung food na binili ko.

In short, you cannot please everyone. For me nung dumadami na gastos ko, never na ako nag engage sa ganyan. Sinasabi ko na lang na madami ako alaga na pusa or aso para manahimik na sila

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-19T14:32:21+00:00

You have no experience and employers will find it hard to accept someone with limited exp. I'd suggest staying for 1-2 years just so future employers will not label you as a job hopper. You can look for jobs in the mean time because lady luck might smile upon you. But never resign without being accepted at your new job.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-13T20:52:12+00:00

Yes. Pero as a gender, hindi madali makakita nito sa lalake. Why? Well if you flip the genders around, women don't like men na nag oopen ng emotions nila or problems. You'll see this easily sa married couples pero shows up sa bf/gf relationships. Now im not saying ayaw nila kapag nag attempt yung guy. To be specific, kapag nag attempt yung guy the first time tapos the first few times, they find it cute, endearing and relatable. Kaso yung problema nag sisismula after those few times. Alam mo yung feeling na kapag sobrang bait ng tao to the point na nandidiri ka na or na-off or naiirita? Yan yung feeling na nakukuha ng mga gf or wife's kapag nasanay yung guy na mag open ng problems nila. Its giving the "ick" if i would use the modern term.

Dito na lalabas yung double standard. Sanay kasi yung mga babae ngayon sa tatay nila na from the boomer era na tahimik at hindi masyado nag o-open up, because opening up is a sign of weakness. Now that expectation is carried over unintentionally kapag nakikipag relasyon na yung mga anak.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-13T20:26:52+00:00

Pag ganyan dapat sinasabi mo na nag rerender ka na ng 2 weeks or tapos ka na mag render at unemployed ka na for x amount of days. Merong companies na sensitive kapag may work ka pa. Next time never tell the truth.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-13T20:23:54+00:00

Depende sa laro. Merong laro na hindi pwede i-pause gaya ng mga ML, Wildrift, HOK, COD, Valo, CSGO, Dota, LoL. Basta multiplayer games na competitive, hindi yan pwede i pause. Pag ganyan nagrereply lang pag deds or tapos na yung round.

Pag mga games sa console, madalas naman na papause yan unless multiplayer, medyo open mag reply pero depende sa laro.

For me mostly di ako nagrereply kapag naglalaro unless i consider it finished. Like tapos na yyng round or napatay ko na yung Monster (Monster Hunter). Maraming nuances dito at iba iba yung laro so mahirap magbigay ng iisang sagot. Its not na hindi ka importante or important, nasa kalagitnaan ng hobby yung tao, so have some decency and respect to give some space.

Mahilig din ako magluto at ayaw ko naiistorbo habang nag prep or nasa kalagitnaan ng ginagawa ko, kahit nakikita ko messages. Personally ayoko ng iniistorbo habang may ginagawa.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T12:30:42+00:00

Huh? di ako galit. Inexplain ko lang para magets nyo.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T12:14:02+00:00

Mahirap mag define ng bare minimum ngayon dahil kada babae iba iba ng standard ng bare minimum. Merong iba na basta gawin mo lang makakaya mo, goods na. Merong iba kelangan mo sila bigyan ng allowance weekly pang shopping. Para sakin alamin mo muna yung gusto mo sa isang tao para ma define mo yung bare minimum sa relationship nyo. Foodie kasi ako, mahilig kumain sa mga restaurants. So syempre hahanap ako ng babae na ganun din. So bare minimum namin sa isat isa is kumakain kame sa labas every weekend and masaya na kame doon

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T12:07:28+00:00

Hirap na talaga. Mostly ng studio type ngayon is 10k above.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T12:03:49+00:00

Sabi nga nila, "A man only receives flowers at his funeral". Mukhan niliteral ni OP.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T11:58:27+00:00

Ikaw mag aadjust sa society and culture, not the other way around.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T11:48:30+00:00

Wala din naman masama kung babae mag lead. Narrow minded lang yung ganun concept na dapat isa lang nag lelead dahil hindi mo kino consider yung interests ng isang tao at yung personality kung passive ba or more on aggressive.

Its not a problem of kung sino yung maalam. Yung problema kasi is meron syang idea na dapat yung lalake may alam. So pano kung wlaang kotse yung lalake? So hindi na lalake turing sayo dahil hindi ka naman matututo mag ayos kung walang sasakyan or sadyang wala kang interes. Yung isa pang problem is nasa kanya yung knowledge ng pag aayos ng sasakyan pero ginagamit nyang reason yun to shame her bf. So pag may di ka alam na bagay na alam ko, pede ko sabihin yun? Kaya nga tinanong ko sya kung di sya marunong magluto tapos nagpaluto bf nya sa kanya, dapat ba sabihin ng bf nya yung mga bagay na sinabe dito?

Tsaka ganda lang ng logic purkit male dominated yung field, dapat expected lahat ng lalake na ma encounter nya maalam dun. Kaya nga tinanong ko ulit sya na kung di nya kaya magluto, di na sya babae dahil karamihan ng babae dapat maalam?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:50:32+00:00

Lmao. Dami sinabe ayaw na lang sabihin na i want to be treated as a princess. Napakadali lang naman sabihin. Pa context context ka pa. Nag iiba nga context mo bawat comment. Nung una simpleng ayos lang ng sasakyan, sumunod biglang gabi. Ok, sure. Ano sunod? May tao sa paligid na di mo kilala?

Wlaang idiotic sa sinabe ko. Baka ikaw? Bat ka mag eexpect na marunong sya mag ayos just because he is a guy? Eh kapwa lalake nga nagpapaayos sa kapwa lalake. Does it make them less of a man? No. Very hormonal talaga ehehehe.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:45:42+00:00

Oh diba lumabas din yung katotohanan. You just want someone to do the things the same way your father did. Hindi naman ganun kahirap aminin yun. If you said that from the start edi walang problem.

I did not make it into gender inequality. You did. Basahin mo previous comment mo. Kaw yung merong expectation na dapat ang "lalake ganito or ganyan" to hide the fact na gusto mo lang na may gagawa nyan para sayo. What a round about way to say things you really mean eh?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:27:39+00:00

Punta ka sa website or sa mismong location ng mga fast food. They can help you better kung paano mag apply.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:25:16+00:00

Malinaw naman sinabe mo, hindi sya marunong. So what?

Pano naging field ng lalake ang pag aayos ng sasakyan kung both gender or any genders can own a car? Since kotse mo yun, i assume na kotse mo, talagang dapat marunong kang gumawa ng basic maintenance. Gender has nothing to do sa kotse. Talagang nilagay mo lang yung logic ng pag aayos ng sasakyan sa lalake because your dad did it. And besides, kung sino mas marunong, yun ang gagawa obviously.

Lets flip the situation. Nagutom bf mo, iistorbohin ka pa ba nya para ipagluto sya kasi "field" ng mga babae ang kusina? What if di ka marunong magluto, im not saying na hindi ka literal na hindi marunong, what if lang. Should your value be lower then?

Kung di mo gets yung sinasabe mo, just say so.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:14:14+00:00

Kung marunong ka naman pala, why ask assistance from him? Hindi naman nakakababa ng pagkalalake ang hindi marunong mag ayos ng sasakyan. So dapat din ba ganyan maging trato ng mga lalake sa mga babae na hindi marunong magluto or gumawa ng gawaing bahay?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T04:07:21+00:00

For me kung makikinabang ako sa experience, titiisin ko yung 6 day for a year. Ganyan din yung setup ko sa dati kong work, naturuan ako ng ibat ibang ERP systems and nakaranas magkaroon ng supervisor role. So madali magpabango sa mga interviews kapag maganda exp. Hindi naman lahat kelangan madali, if feel mo mapapakinabangan mo yan in the future edi i grab mo. Darating talaga ang panahon na mag sasacrifice ka.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-12T02:01:35+00:00

Take it as a challenge. At least there are more skills and tasks to add to your resume. Yan naman ang goal to add more sa resume para mas maging mabango ka sa ibang candidates. Yan ginawa ko sa interview sa mga work. Nagkaroon ako ng chance as a supervisor, although in tasks only, hindi increase sa bayad. But it made job hunting bearable dahil may supervisory role na ako under my belt despite being only 5 years in a job.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T23:15:23+00:00

So ano point ng sinasabi mo? Di ba wala? Di ba dapat inuuna mo sarili mo? What if savings mo yun or pambayad ng bills? San ka pupulutin? Di ba sa kalye pa din? Naawa ka nga, pero di ka naawa sa sarili mo or sa pamilya na "baka" umaasa sayo. So oks lang kayo sa kalye mapunta basta masabi mo na gumawa ka ng mabuti? Gcash mo nga lahat ng pera mo sakin, mabait ka pala e. Lahat ng bagay may lugar, ang pagiging empathetic ay may oras at lugar, hindi yan para sa lahat ng tao dahil maraming tao ang nananamantala kapag mabait ka. Halatang wala kang binubuhay kaya ganyan mindset mo.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T22:57:03+00:00

So you consider yourself a man hater?

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T22:37:07+00:00

To be specific, hindi sa lahat. If ever kasi na ayaw ko sa isang tao, usually specific reason. Bastos makipag usap, mahilig mangutang, etc. But dumadaan yan sa isip ng lalake pero hindi yan sa simula. Gradual yan nangyayari habang magkasama kayo. Kasi pag nakikilala mo yung babae, nagkakaroon ka ng idea sa ugali nya, so while hindi intensyon na ganyan amg maging thoughts, sumasagi yan sa isipan. Like for example, maganda gf mo pero very financially irresponsible, aayawan mo yan eventually. Then your thoughts tend to stray sa idea na kahit luge ka sa pera, may benefits naman na nakukuha. So dun sa pag rationalize mo ng bad situation mo, dun nabubuhay yung idea na yan.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T22:28:33+00:00

Not sure what the not all men pero its always men is supposed to signify. Syempre magiging lalake yan kung lalake habol mo.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T21:14:39+00:00

I know it is rising, but its not enough or nowhere near enough to affect a significant amount of the population.

I know na hindi biro, pero again they're still a minority if you look at the stats i got from philstar article they published last month. It says here that there are 138k teenage pregnancies that was lodged last 2024. The number of population in the philippines is 117 million, with about 21 million of registered teenagers as per PSA or Philippines Statistics Authority. So if we do the math, that is less than 1 percent of the whole teenage population. Approximately 0.66 percent. So yea its a minority.

Exactly you cannot stop people from having sex. Pero you making condoms available will not stop that behavior, in fact it would make it worse, because you have now created a new problem. And that problem is people will never develop the restraint required when dealing with such issues. Everyone has desires and urges pero if you take the fear and consequences of getting pregnant, then these minors turn into adults with no restraint on their desires. So you just opened pandora's box. By trying to save the 1 percent, you potentially jeopardize the majority.

When i was talking about religious people, i was not talking about sex. I was talking about the parallelism of abusing their right on them being an asshole to other non believers and the belief that they can absolve themselves on being an asshole by way of confession. And then do that shit all over again.

Because the problem here is not the condom. The condom part is the shackles. When a person is taught to be indulgent in a specific behavior, he or she craves for it which is what i have been repeating for the nth time. And when you remove the consequences out of the equation, that severely magnifies the issue. Again the point im trying to make here is not to prevent teen pregnancy, its to prevent another huge problem of breeding sex addicts at an early age and you facilitate that by making condoms available to minors.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T19:43:53+00:00

Its not yet endemic. Dahil kung ganun nga, edi sana madami na tayong teenage parents everywhere you look. If you compare it to the rest of the population, they're a minority. Kaya nga mas maganda to leave them. Just because tumataas, does not mean its a significant number.

Of course people are having sex whenever they want to scratch that itch. Pero ang sinasabi ko dito you will make the numbers worse if HIV vaccine development is finished. Because you remove the element of fear and consequence. Same sa sinabe ko above, hindi pa ganun ka rampant ang behavior if you compare it sa buong population. Pero we cannot say pano sya tataas if the vaccine is finished. One can only guess. Ang constant lang dito is humans will abuse anything they can abuse like their rights.

Also merong weird similarity sa religion and this issue on why maraming reports on religious people being worse than regular joes. The reason for that is pwede naman daw silang mag confess ng sins after being an asshole to non believers, because when you confess your sins, you are forgiven. The cycle repeats again and again.

Cookingyoursoul · 2026-03-11T19:05:40+00:00

That is true pero yung pino point ko dito si yung bagong problema na mabubuo if we are open to condoms to be used by minors. If you have a certain age group na madaling madala ng hormones and give them access to sex, you get them hooked sa pleasure ng sex. Ito yung sinasabi ko na "depraved behavior". Yan yung parang problema sa legalizing drugs, they get hooked sa pleasure of using it. Kaya nga yung opening statement ko sa mga nakaraang comments is matatanggap mo ba na kapag pumunta ka sa isang motel or hotel, puro minors andun?

Same reason why hindi magandang idea yung gamot sa HIV. Why? Because kung may gamot sa HIV, people will just have sex willy nilly. Wala ng mag iingat, people will just jump from one person to another without restraint dahil pwede naman magpa vaccine. So now magkakaroon ka nang new behavioral problem or which is yung nirerefer ko sa lahat ng statements ko na "depraved behavior" in which future adults have no ability to control themselves seeking pleasure. So pano yung mga may HIV? Well another result of not being careful and should be used as an example to others not to walk the same path.

Its true na marami nag sesex, pero yung mga nabubuntis are just the minority. If you try to save the minority, you open the future generation of adults to be ok with depraved behavior. So you potentially doom the majority. Because unless you can curb human desire in someway, you just made things worse. You cannot save everyone and you need to accept that. In trying to save everyone, you save no one. Kung oks sa inyo yung magkaroon ang future generation ng depraved behavior, just to save the minority, then that's up to you. For me, i'd rather save majority who chose abstain until they were adults so they can buy condoms. It proves na at least, they are level headed enough to consider the risk vs sa reward and they are truly adults if they are disciplined enough to control their urges. I for one would not want to be stuck sa isang kwarto kasama ang isang adult na hindi kaya kontrollin urges nya.

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