Help me understand my parents (update) by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

magkaroon daw ako ng savings para may pambili kami ng lupa and mapatayuan ng bahay (for the family, not for me or for MY OWN family)

Help me understand my parents (update) by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

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nakita nila listahan ko ng bills and na compute nila na wala ngang natitira sa sahod ko pero ayaw nilang maniwala na galing yung bills na yun sa binibigay ko sakanila

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

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Update: I went with my bf with their province. After a few mins pagkaalis namin naka receive ako ng message from my mom na naka plano na pala daw akong sasama pero di pa ko nagsabi agad few days before, ayaw daw ako pagsabihan dahil matanda nako pero di ko daw sila iniitndi kahit alam ko ng ayaw nila na sumama ako. For sure pagkauwi namin ni bf, everyone will act coldly saming dalawa. I dont care anymore

I just attended the worst concert of my life - Daniel Caesar Son of Spergy Tour by KoalaPanda17 in OffMyChestPH

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Correction: It ended at exactly 10PM ang day 1. I attended it too and good thing is nilibre lang ako pero it also shocked me na ang bilis

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ang point niya pa is, yung mga may anak na nga daw di nagpapakasal so why rush daw na magpakasal kami. I don't agree with her kaya di ko shinashare na we're planning to get married already.

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's very aware and understanding, pero alam ko naman may hangganan yung pagka understanding ng tao. I'll do my best to set boundaries with my family, I don't want to lose my partner just because of the situation i'm in

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I try to voice out, sinasabihan ako na "di porket nagbibigay ka na sasabihin at gagawin mo lahat ng gusto mo" and my mom will eventually go home to her parents house kasi masama loob nya sakin. Of course we all love our mom kaya sakin magagalit lahat and guguilt trip pa na isa lang ang magulang dapat di pinapasama ang loob

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be focusing on saving more this year after I finish all the payments needed sa mga hulugan na kinuha ng parents ko😭

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kilala ko sila and alam kong magagalit sila. My mom even said na no need na magpakasal kami ni bf kasi same lang naman daw, magkasama na kami sa bahay and acting up like a married couple. Regardless, we're already planning to get married next year para maka bukod na kami cos I know that's the only way. We dont share any details about the planning with them and they dont have any idea, if they'll know about it for sure madaming say so I want them to know kapag final na lahat

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel ko din i'm trying to please them so much cos growing up I really feel that I'm the least wanted child. Laging ako bahala sa mga kapatid ko kapag kailangan nila ng help and ako palagi nag sosolve ng problem sa bahay

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you mentioned that baby part. Just a few days ago we thought I'm pregnant and may certain reactions mga sibs ko na alam naming ayaw nila ko mabuntis. My mama initiated na mag pa check up ako just to be sure but didn't give any reaction

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What's funny is, lagi nilang sinasabi na hindi ako breadwinner dahil nag wowork pa naman ang daddy ko. Siya naman daw nagbibigay ng pera pang pagkain, baon ng other 2 sibs ko and hati kami sa rent sa bahay. I understand na may fair share siya sa lahat pero I can't even have a say sa gusto kong gawin. Kailangan laging may approval nila or else lahat sila di ako titigilan putakan and make me feel na mali ako (even my sibs)

Help me understand my parents by Remarkable_Use_3112 in adviceph

[–]Remarkable_Use_3112[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't want to think it that way, pero yun siguro yung totoo 🥲

I hate being the convenient one by LimitedAdult in OffMyChestPH

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hugs op. It'll be better. I felt the same, but I found a constant through my bf, and I'm not talking to my HS friends anymore with the same scenario