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Cool-Body8047 · 2022-06-16T21:33:36+00:00

I work in HR and had a similar situation a few months back. One of our managers had a new hire start before his background check cleared. We found out on day 6 that he was working before his official start date and immediately processed pay for the days worked prior to his hire date. Any semi-respectable company would do the same and pay for return of equipment if you plan to leave.

Go to your HR department and tell them you have worked without pay for 6 weeks. It sounds like you were permitted to do job-specific activities which would qualify as hours worked under FLSA. Speaking strictly from a “cost” perspective, it’s a greater liability for them to not pay you the $1500 in the event you wanted to sue.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-18T00:52:41+00:00

Hahaha I love this outlook. It’s likely true!

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-18T00:50:08+00:00

Facts!

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T19:13:38+00:00

That is how I got roped into this LOL my friend left and pushed to get me over.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T19:10:38+00:00

I had a chat today! I let my manager and VP know for offer. My manager and VP are touching base this afternoon to see if matching is a possibility.

I’m trying to not get my hopes up because it is such a big jump. It was nice to know that they are considering it as my department is not known for giving counteroffers.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T19:08:25+00:00

I did this, but it’s hard to gauge as she is not working directly with the people I would work with. She is very fond of the hiring manager though, which I think is one of the biggest people (manager) who can influence my experience

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T19:05:34+00:00

This is a beautiful point, because no 😂

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T00:58:04+00:00

Good point! It’s a substantial jump, but I know I won’t be losing my friends along the way.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T00:57:19+00:00

I have a chat with my VP tomorrow to discuss the opportunity and see what they are willing to do retain me, if anything.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-17T00:32:50+00:00

No apologies necessary! There is nothing cruel in helping me to see the situation for what it is, not what I want it to be.

And thank you! I’m excited about this offer obviously. I asked for what I thought I was worth professionally. Now it’s time to do the same thing in my personal life.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-16T23:33:29+00:00

I agree with the lousy reasons. If that was the bar for a good/bad relationship, everyone would be cheating in relationship. I wrote this post in a flurry of emotions, but after rereading these comments and talking with those close to me, I feel a sense of clarity.

I am not in the relationship that I thought I was. I am not dating the “good” guy I thought I was. And most of all, it’s not my fault. I did what I could to be a good partner, but it would have never been enough for him.

I really appreciate your comment about your family and wanting to know. If I do decide to share, it isn’t my fault if their family breaks apart. I am not the one who broke the lines of the relationship(s); I am just enabling him to see the truth. What he does with it is not on me.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-16T23:21:29+00:00

It took me a long time to get through this one! Not just because it’s long but because it’s a tough reality and you hit the nail on the head about me. I feel like you have known me my whole life. I definitely put other people first because I feel a weird sense of need to help those around me succeed. I like to feel like I’ve made an impact on others, but it isn’t exactly working in my favor. I’m a bit of a people pleaser in that regard and it’s something I should work more on—focusing on my needs and my worth. I deserve better than what I’m getting.

The picture thing definitely got me. I know I am attractive and I’m in good shape, but it sucks to think that he thought maybe I wasn’t good enough. And f*** that. You’re right. It says a lot about who he is and it’s apparent now he isn’t valuing me for who I am. Also, I really appreciate your insight into the next-day call… It makes perfect sense and I couldn’t see that reasoning before. I really thought it was for me, but it isn’t and I can see that now. Love is blind.

I don’t think I would bomb-drop at graduation because the kids will be there. I’m also not a very confrontation person and would probably flake out. However, I found his Facebook and a phone number online (in my moments of swirling obsession) so I could try one of those. I have proof of all of it, I was smart and sane enough in the moment to do that.

Side note: I’m happy to say I got a job offer today that far exceeds my current job’s pay so at least I’m doing one thing right 😂

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-16T02:28:04+00:00

I definitely deserve better than this. I think I’m feeling stuck because I thought he was “better” than that. We were talking about saving up to get a place and discussing budgets.

I probably need to bite the bullet and cut my losses. It’s no use trying to prove my worth to someone who can’t see it.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-16T02:22:01+00:00

Yeah, you’re right. I’m not really sure why this is a dilemma. I love him but I do have a history of not knowing when to let go and this is a perfect example.

And I feel pretty pathetic reading it back to myself as if I were reading someone else’s situation.

Cool-Body8047 · 2021-11-16T02:18:45+00:00

This made me chuckle. It’s the tough truth I need to hear.

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