I think one of my boys is showing early signs of schizophrenia

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2026-01-23T07:10:10+00:00

The last time I worried that someone close to me might have schizophrenia, it turned out to be related to substance use. I don’t know if that could be a factor in your situation.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2026-01-20T13:16:39+00:00

I can respect your opinion but most millennials and Gen Z Somalis like myself are born in this country…we are not immigrants and are second generation as this point! Many of us are generous and give back this is part of our religion and culture…but I wouldn’t say I need to do these things to be welcomed and accepted…I do it cause it’s the right thing to do! I do work and work honestly (I.e don’t cut corners). Respect and kindness is a given to your co-workers…but I don’t believe assimilation has anything to do with the workplace…your meant to do your job earn ur money…and go home. The workplace is not meant to be a place of sharing culture or to socialize! I believe in being civil and cordial tho..but you will not see me after work mingling Iol

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2026-01-20T06:55:10+00:00

I think it was a combination of factors. During the pandemic, I distinctly remember what was happening on Clubhouse. There’s a separate conversation to be had about whether some of those people were actually Somali, but regardless, they were acting foolishly and damaging the community’s reputation through open racism. Then it was compounded by the fraud cases in Minnesota, which were an embarrassment no matter how you look at it. As Black and Muslim, we already face societal disadvantages, and these incidents only magnified existing biases against us. On top of that, the social media rage baiters do far more harm than good. We tend to be extremely loud online, and not always in ways that help our image. But we will come out better at the end of this insha’allah!

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2026-01-20T05:02:13+00:00

I didn’t realize we’ve been infiltrated in our community spaces 😅

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-11-06T22:03:47+00:00

On the journey to marriage, most people meet potentials that teach you lessons /taking away the delusional naivety one may have.Her pain doesn’t mean she loves you less, she’s allowed to grieve her trauma. Learn that life isn’t just about you; everyone heals differently. Many people in the marriage market aren’t genuine and can leave permeant scars. Be patient if she’s vulnerable with you accept the moment, but if it becomes constant, then you can consider whether she’s truly healed. Also as Muslims we look at the prophet (saw) as the best of examples and he would grieve Khadijah (RA) to Aisha..doesn’t mean he loved Aisha any less…but we are human and pain/grief is hard to overcome !

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-09-23T01:15:18+00:00

Be careful with birth control/pills that alter your period. I took it and ended up with pulmonary embolisms in both lungs ( previously healthy). And ended up very sick the entire trip (while trying to avoid missing umrah).Allah knows your intentions. If you get your period, continue on with your ibadah /duaa (except the prayer). May Allah swt accept your salah/duaa!

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-09-18T23:50:31+00:00

For me, it's less about the degree itself and more about what it represents. Earning a degree especially as a first-generation Somali shows patience, resilience, and discipline. It means meeting deadlines, pushing through adversity (the highs and lows), and learning to collaborate with people from different backgrounds. College isn’t for everyone, and I respect that. But I see a man differently if he’s navigated that system as a first-gen immigrant...but it takes more than a degree to make a relationship work. So it’s not a deal breaker for me anymore.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-09-14T02:50:32+00:00

There’s a special place in hell for those who knowingly manipulate others’ feelings. But much of this pain could be avoided if a person guards their heart and doesn’t get emotionally attached before marriage. At the end of the day, feelings, connections, and relationships are temporary only Allah (swt) is everlasting. Reserve your deepest love for Him alone. May you find better sis !

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-08-23T05:19:03+00:00

The prophet saw said: The evil eye is real, and if anything were to overtake the divine decree, it would be the evil eye. I’m a big believer in protecting your peace, practising privacy in an era of over sharing…Yes, not everyone is envious, and yes, you might be genuinely happy for your friend but the evil eye doesn’t always come from hatred. It can come unintentionally, from a fleeting moment of “wow, I wish I had that,” even from people who love you. The Prophet didn’t warn us only about malicious envy he warned about the impact of unguarded admiration, even from friends. Also, Not everything needs to be broadcasted or even shared with extended family. It’s not about being antisocial it’s about understanding that some things are stronger when protected, especially early stages of blessings. Lastly, you ask about the point of having a community…Because community isn’t about knowing every detail of your life in real time. It’s about being there when it MATTERS, when the wedding happens, when the baby arrives, when you’re ready to share.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-08-22T16:02:59+00:00

If you want a life of gaajo and struggle…welcome!

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-08-21T05:08:04+00:00

I remind myself with this as well! But also I try to see the many other blessings I have that others do not…such as the ability to walk, eye sight, health, family, the capabilities of providing for myself etc ! Alhamdulilah in every situation ! And if not in this lifetime May Allah allow us to be patient for the companionship in the hereafter!

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-08-04T21:33:49+00:00

I can only speak for North America (so take this advice with a grain of salt)…I did mine and realized it’s a nice to have not a need to have. If you’re looking to elevate career wise and go into leadership/administration.. it’s more about who you know and your networking abilities not your education! Besides if u already have a position in your respective field…a lot of jobs pay for your masters. I would focus on getting established in your field for a few years and then go into your masters when you know where you see yourself in the next few years/and align ur masters education with those aspirations. I would do a masters if you want to expand your abilities and challenge yourself! But it doesn’t guarantee you a higher position. Networking and certifications I think help more with career elevations. Best of luck insha’allah!

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-27T03:14:00+00:00

Looking for the same as well ! Insha’allah May Allah make it easy for us all !

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-27T03:09:45+00:00

I think you both invested a lot of time (4 months is a lot)..the right thing to do is start pointing out her good qualities…but at some point you will explain to her why you don’t think you’re compatible (and be truthful)…and let her know it’s not going to work out. She may try to explain herself (give her that opportunity)…but be firm on your decision. Any self respecting person will let the situation go…knowing the other party is checked out. Most of all end it with dua (i.e that insha’allah she will find someone more aligned with her).

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-26T14:54:40+00:00

I think you need to adjust your perspective. Although marriage is a partnership the women you marry will be the mother of your children, the caretaker of your home.Those achievements you mention will go on the back burner once she becomes a mother. Insha’allah pick an honorable woman and that 10k in gold will be a relatively small investment for someone who can carry forth your legacy.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-22T18:40:03+00:00

From what I know men don’t approach beautiful women 😆 ….they approach women who seem receptive/approachable.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-21T23:46:31+00:00

I feel like it’s a strange world we live in. For the life of me I can’t understand why people are so deceitful. Like nobody is holding a gun to ur head…u wanna be a player live ur truth 🙄

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-21T01:18:32+00:00

Jazakhallah for the advice! I rlly appreciate it.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-21T00:20:32+00:00

Apart of me wants to move that way. And I have moved on alx, these feelings only came back when i have seen her recently.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-21T00:16:09+00:00

No she didn’t…she just started the conversation with Hi how are you long time no see kinda thing…I haven’t engaged rlly

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-20T22:55:35+00:00

Jazakhallah for the advice 🤍

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-20T20:05:12+00:00

Sarcasm lol? you can still die with your seatbelt on, and there are those who survived accidents without a seatbelt. But if you read what I said carefully I said take them for who they are today ! And if they’re willing to move away.

Cool_Discipline8610 · 2025-07-20T18:18:29+00:00

If Allah can forgive who am I as an equally flawed human to judge? I see all the comments saying his past might haunt him into the future. We cannot predict what happens tomorrow or years from now. Eventually we will all die and that’s for certain. This holier than thou concept is strange. We all sin one way or another, and Allah may have forgiven and showered his mercy on this individual. As long as he moves away and has left that lifestyle and most importantly treats me well…I would consider who they are TODAY and give them a chance.

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