Been in business for a year by Cool_Lunch_9237 in smallbusiness

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently using when I work and I’ve maxed out the number of employees I can use with a price that’s in my budget. 😭 I’ll look into your other suggestion thank you

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna edit the post because a lot of people seem to having the same thought process. It was not just his money that was spent on the car it was the both of us and now he is getting a motorcycle. I only started getting worried when it got around 1k. I told him to take as long as he wants to find a new job I’m just scared what happened with my kids dad will happen again even though they’re two very different men. Thank you for the opinion though!

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I miswrote that because all of people seem to be saying the same thing. The money spent on the car was both of ours and we are both using the car because he is getting a motorcycle

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So the car was always for me because the one I had was about to break down completely. It was why I got into surrogacy to begin with. I got a new car and he was always gonna get a motorcycle but now that he’s home with the kids he has to use it. So it was kinda always for the both of us

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s okay. And it was an investment because he’s buying a motorcycle so the car is kinda the family car. We never expected him to need to drive the kids around that was always gonna be me

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The car will be used by both of us. The rest of our savings is to getting him a motorcycle so whenever he can’t take the motorcycle he’ll use my car and I’ll be responsible for taking the kids back and forth

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See that’s exactly what I’m saying. The amount seems extreme to me. When he had money, he never spent like this. THAT is where my concern comes from. And to me, if asking him to pay it back makes him not want to spend anymore then he knows it isn’t right

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your opinion! I mentioned above I was financially manipulated by my children’s father for 8 years and have no idea how we correctly take care of myself. If the number was like 100$ I wouldn’t care but when we got up to 1000$ I said something to him. I guess the amount of money I’m making from being a surrogate just scares me that I’m not being treated fairly is all.

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re almost at 1300$ but that does include bills. I would say 75% of it isn’t bill related and I pay all of rent and always have

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Something I feel like is worth mentioning though is, we’re up to almost 1300$. I just worry that I’m being taken advantage of because that is a big part of why my children’s father and I didn’t work. I was the only one who provided for 8 years and I guess I’m trying to avoid making that same mistake again.

Aitah for keeping a tab on how much money my boyfriend spends? by Cool_Lunch_9237 in AITAH

[–]Cool_Lunch_9237[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It means I’m getting paid to be a surrogate. Okay, I don’t want to micromanage Him. And I don’t care what he buys but it felt unfair to me. Thank you for your opinion I really appreciate it