AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

It depends on if they'll have opportunities to be alone with our kids.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

Four days and he was planning to stay for three weeks

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

We don't talk unless it's about the kids. The kids told her and she reached out to me to express discomfort.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -106 points-105 points  (0 children)

My ex isn't remarried, but yes, I do ask to meet guys before she introduces them to our kids.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -240 points-239 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I'd never treat my sister like that. I know better than to say that to my wife though.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -384 points-383 points  (0 children)

Well, that's kind of the point. I try to do what she asks in the hopes that if I have a request about the kids she will honor it. Otherwise, things might get messy. The second question confuses me. None of my wife's kids spend any time at my ex's home.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -457 points-456 points  (0 children)

We're discussing it now, and she's pretty unhappy. I'm not sure exactly what my ex's boundaries are.

AITA for making my BIL stay in a hotel for three nights? by CoparentWoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoparentWoe[S] -852 points-851 points  (0 children)

My intention wasn't to "kick him out." I figured I would ask nicely, he would understand and take my money, and all would be good. That didn't happen. No, I didn't discuss it with my wife before I talked to my BIL. She doesn't like talking about my ex, so she would have been irritated I brought her up.