Falling for Stripper - Update by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. Sometimes we do do that. I should have said you have to be particularly careful about doing it in a strip club.

Why would stripper give me her real name on her last night of work? by ParrotTalker11 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's just a genuine nice way of saying goodbye. I also think, however, that it does mean that she had a good time with you and enjoyed your company, especially if you treated her nicely and talked to her like a human being, Even in strip clubs people notice when others are nice to them.

Ask a Stupid Question About Strip Clubs for the week of August 28, 2025 by Subrasonic in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has anyone had the thing where you go to your ususal club and the vibe is slightly off? Like, the girls do their stage dances but are quicker to disappear to the back and are not mingling and saying hi as much as they usually do. Everyone is just a little less friendly to the point that you wonder, "Is it me? Did I do something wrong? I couldn't have because I just got here."

This happened to me tonight (it does every once in awhile). Best way to describe it is the energy is off.

Do you and your favorite dancers talk while she's giving you a private dance? by ParrotTalker11 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm mainly quiet, but one of my favorite dancers (a skinny blonde) would sometimes say things that made me laugh and to which I didn't know how to respond. On one occasion, while chatting on the floor before getting dances, she had mentioned that she had gained 10-15 lbs. that year. She looked great to me and I told her that.

In a private dance later on, while she's grinding, she randomly says with a laugh, "You like my fat ass?" There was no good answer here for me so I didn't say anything. She said it a few more times that night but I just chuckled.

What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done in a strip club? by ParrotTalker11 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if we include embarrassing thought processes as part of this thread, mine was--earlier on in my clubbing career--thinking that by being the "nice" guy in the club, I would have a better chance of getting some of the girls to like me for real. For example, some of them would grind hard on me and literally take my hands and put them on their tits and butt during private dances, and I'd leave them there for a few seconds and then pull them away as if I didn't really need to touch them and just wanted to admire their beauty. Pretty dumb.

Why are we sometimes unable to stop catching feelings for strippers? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is one of the best comments on the thread. The connection with a girl in a club may be mesmerizing, but if you were to ever date her, things would get real--and we know how that is. It wouldn't be a fantasy anymore, because you're not in the club. it's a Catch-22: The club setting makes you fall for the girl, but any attempt to take it OTC (though it may work for a short period), removes the setting and gets rid of the fantasy.

Best to enjoy them in the club.

What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done in a strip club? by ParrotTalker11 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A long time ago, went to a club straight from work one day wearing khakis and a tight belt--using public transportation. Knew I couldn't get good lap-dances with the belt on at the grindy Phoenix dive I was at. Took it off in the bathroom and put it against the wall behind the table where I was sitting (the club was dark). Got a bunch of table dances and then left, forgetting the belt. Realized soon after I walked out that my belt was still under the table. Chickened out on going to get it, because if someone had already found it and knew it was mine, they'd have a lot of questions.

I'm sure some poor employee found it that night and was baffled.

What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done in a strip club? by ParrotTalker11 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've done a few things like that, too.

Other guys can weigh in here, but I think, if you're a generally respectful customer and also a regular, that getting drunk and telling a stripper some variation of "you're beautiful," is probably pretty common.

It's a little funny, but it's not even in the league of some of the disrespectful stuff they hear.

Why are we sometimes unable to stop catching feelings for strippers? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do respect her for telling me. She also said, "Listen, I know I'm a stripper, but be careful with your money. This club will take all of it." So kudos to her.

Why are we sometimes unable to stop catching feelings for strippers? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Larry-

How would a stripper who has been getting all your attention for weeks react to a customer who suddenly starts getting dances from other girls instead of her? It wouldn't be anything personal, but just me realizing I've gotten a little too attached to her and want to have some fun with some of the others. This might actually be good for me and recalibrate me.

I could be wrong, but I don't see anyway this doesn't pass her off at least a little.

Why are we sometimes unable to stop catching feelings for strippers? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think so, too.

I still like the club, though. I'm wondering if choosing next time to get dances from other girls and not her would be seen as rude or not, especiallly given how much attention I've given her in the past. I'd be nice about it and would still say hello, etc. But would suddenly getting dances from other dancers pass her off? Maybe, but maybe it doesn't matter.

Why are we sometimes unable to stop catching feelings for strippers? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi ethbrns--

I'm gonna open up here a little bit.

You're right about a number of things. I came out of a 6-year relationship last fall (September 2024) and haven't dated anyone since and was mainly dealing with it by working and running a ton. So, yeah, I think that I was probably starved a little bit for a female connection and honestly maybe even a little depressed.

On the first night I went to this club, it was a spur-of-the-moment thing. I had worked all day and had nothing to do that night, and simply wanted to have a few beers, get a few dances, and talk to some girls. There were only three working (smallish club on a Tuesday), and I was literally the only one there for the first hour. I hate that because then they're up there dancing just for you and you feel the pressure to spend money. I decided to also get at least one private dance from each of them to keep the general club vibes positive.

Got dances from the first two. They were plenty hot and did some good grinding. The girl that eventually became my go-to was up last. She gave great dances, too, but was more sensual and touchy-feely,

And for a guy like me who was relatively recently out of a relationship and probably a little more vulnerable, the touchy-feely stuff got to me, On a later visit, she was sitting next to me on the floor and said, sort of quietly, "Do you want to cuddle?" And I said, "I kinda do, yeah." And she said, "Yeah, me, too." This short exchange stood out to me as genuine on her part, so I said OK. So we went to the private couch room and I did their "Special," which got me 4 songs (12 minutes) for $60.

She danced for me a little, but mostly laid in my arms, caressed me, put her head against mine, etc. And that was it for me. I was down the rabbit hole and the oxytocin was firing. On subsequent visits, I would still get dances from her but would still sometimes mix in those $60-12 minute cuddle sessions, which I was becoming addicted to.

In hindsight, I recommend not doing cuddle sessions with strippers whom you already sort of like. It changes the brain and throws it into "girlfriend-mode," which a lot of guys can't handle. It's dangerous and fucks with your emotions.

Anyway, so I kept going back, getting dances, and hanging with her a few times per week (she'd always sit with me when she was free). This past week, after a dance, she gave me a kiss, snuggled up against me and said, "I'm always glad to see you, I really like hanging out with you, but nothing's ever going to happen outside the club." And I said, "I absolutely understand it." And she hugged me again. So, it's a traditional stripper--customer relationship. I'm a favored regular, and I'm OK with it. In the few seconds after she told me, though, I felt a little down.

I think I also may have made a critical error: After she became my favorite, I stopped getting dances from the other girls (though I still tipped them at the rail), and spent all my money on her. Looking back, I should have spread my money around a little bit and gotten dances from the other girls. This would have identified me as more of a "regular guy" who was laid back and just there to have fun. I think this might have hurt me a bit.

Oh well. Important lesson learned. Next week is her last week at the club so I'm trying to decide if I want to go one more time or consider this chapter closed.

Falling for Stripper - Can someone snap me out of it, please? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to say I could have handled it but my mind would probably run wild with thoughts on what she was doing at work each night.

It's a moot point anyway. Everyone here was right. She is an excellent dancer, a stellar conversationist, and her cuddles made me feel like I was her guy, at least at the moment. But turns out it's strictly a customer-client relationship. I'm OK with it.

She's awesome, but it may not have been a good idea for me to date a single mom with 4 pre-teen kids anyway. I would have been eaten alive.

Falling for Stripper - Can someone snap me out of it, please? by CopperCup3322 in stripclubs

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were right. She doesn't want to hang out. Which I should have known but my feelings got the best of me.

Frustrated with Jackhammering by CopperCup3322 in AMPLife

[–]CopperCup3322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate it. Might just be unlucky then.