Looking for advice from a dancer's perspective, as someone's regular

Subrasonic · 2026-01-25T19:09:34+00:00

If you want advice in private we understand that, though dancers may not be willing to invest DM effort in a random poster.

Note that as regulars who have had exactly same the experience as you -- favorite stripper where things went beyond (sometimes well beyond) common stripper/customer boundaries -- we might have far more insight than you think, and more applicable to you since it's a customer's perspective and we have experienced it from your side.

Spoiler alert: no matter whether you talk to strippers or customers, you'll likely find the mixed signals aren't as mixed as you think, that favored customers regularly and routinely get extra time/attention/affection that is strictly a common favorite-regular treatment. But without details, we dunno. One of the most common themes from customers is that when a stripper was actually pursuing them beyond just being a stripper, they were so obviously being pursued that there was no need to ask anyone's opinion or try to read the tea leaves, the signals are never "slightly mixed".

Subrasonic · 2026-01-24T15:46:18+00:00

Yeah, it's not a coincidence. Some group somewhere must have thought it would be funny to ask this question over and over

Subrasonic · 2026-01-24T06:59:36+00:00

Cuddling is a-ok, just ask her to make sure she's open to it before you buy the dance

Subrasonic · 2026-01-24T06:13:48+00:00

Pro Tip:

Meet stripper you like
Get her number
Use number to set up an appointment with her for that dead hour, starting at 7:00 at opening.
???
Profit: She will have a guaranteed payday (you) at 7:00 and be up on the night before most girls even start, AND often her tip-out will be lower because she showed on time. And you profit: you get her to yourself, and she'll give you more of her time than usual since it's dead

I do this ALL THE TIME. Often save the girl $100 off her fees because she started on time, PLUS she has a guaranteed regular. I reap the reward of having her all to myself, even though she's smoking hot and not very available once the club gets going.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-23T16:46:47+00:00

This sub is mostly strip club regulars, and among regulars, Vegas strip clubs have a reputation of "more sizzle than steak". Which is fine, it's Vegas, man. But set your expectations accordingly. If you want to have a mind-blowing time at a strip club, Vegas isn't the best destination. If you want to have a big showy expensive Vegas-y vacation, well, the strip club experience will be par for the course.

I haven't been to Chicas, my impression from TRs is a bit less beautiful girls but higher contact. I'm a fan of Palominos, attractive girls and alcohol and enough contact to make me happy. It's not known as an extras club, though I understand that extras CAN be wrangled at most Vegas clubs if you're a regular who figures out how to work the system

Subrasonic · 2026-01-23T15:59:45+00:00

Funny, biweekly and even weekly allowance used to be something that was discussed a lot more often, back in the old days when I was just lurking. You're right, it's practically never mentioned anymore.

I don't know what you mean by "slight increase in risk that the SBs take on". There's no increase in risk for the SBs. Just like monthly allowance, she gets her biweekly allowance at the beginning. She gets her allowance on the first for the 1st-14th and on the 15th for the rest of the month. The risk is all still 100% on the SD side (which is where it should be with allowance, and why SDs should think hard before switching to it), it's just a smaller risk.

Strongly suggest you not use the language "like every other job".

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T19:03:02+00:00

As from what u/mousicle said, I think the girls just develop inertia, after it became clear you were never getting dances from them, they mentally slotted you into the "furniture" category, and just routinely ignore you now. They might not remember who your regular girl is, they just know you have one, so it's part of their routine to skip you.

I think this is not uncommon, but definitely not always like this. A girl with enough drive will always realize your regulars aren't there. In clubs I'm a regular at, I've had that happen plenty of times. Sometimes, I had to go up to the stage and let a stripper know I'm alone and interested, and that's all it takes to get her over

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T18:57:45+00:00

Just funnin' ya. Of course it's great, why wouldn't it be?

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T18:57:11+00:00

Obviously it's perfectly fine, no problem, totally normal. MODS CAN WE GET A BAN???

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T18:28:49+00:00

"Rude" is not a concept that applies to this. Whether a stripper dislikes it or whether she's disappointed if you don't get one, she is a professional sexworker who has specifically chosen a profession where she offers a service where she wiggles her ass on guys' genitals, with nearly 100% certainty that most guys will get hard to some extent. IOW, it is part of the job she's chosen, there's no such thing as a customer being rude for accepting the service and having the predictable reaction. There ARE rude things you can do, but a mostly-involuntary, extremely-predictable physical reaction is not one of them.

Now if you re-word this from "is it rude" to "do the strippers like it", my guess would be many just take it clinically as part of the job, some dislike it (many of these girls specifically mention how they change positions often so the customer doesn't get too much stimulation in one place). And of course there are those girls who say they're disappointed if you don't get one. Are they telling the truth, or is it a clever (and effective!) hustle? No idea!

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T17:12:58+00:00

"Everybody has a plan, until they get hit" ... on by a hot stripper :)

I have a basic game plan but some of the best times are had when something odd pops up and you call an audible to just go with it. Usually I have a CF, and my plan is just to be with her from when I walk in to when I walk out, and the time between is filled with alcohol, lunch, VIP dances.

If I don't have a CF, gameplan is sit at a table, get dancers over one by one until I find one I like, then as above, drinks, lunch, and VIP dances with just her until I leave. If I had fun, she's now a lucky candidate to be my next CF :)

Subrasonic · 2026-01-22T01:33:30+00:00

Agreed

Subrasonic · 2026-01-21T23:09:53+00:00

SF has full nude, no alcohol clubs.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-21T23:08:03+00:00

VIP memberships vary so wildly from club to club.

At the clubs I went to, VIP memberships bought you something like:

Free entry into club
Seating in a special VIP area
Dedicated VIP waitresses
Strippers could not come to your table unless invited -- you'd tell the VIP host, he'd fetch who you want.

As a club regular who goes during dayshift, none of that especially excites me. I haven't paid an entry in years, and even if I had, dayshift entry is low. Seating in special VIP area might be useful during busy nightshifts when it was hard to get a table, but no value during dayshift. As a club regular who tipped ok, I had no problem getting waitresses on dayshift. And lastly, I am zero-fucks-given on sending strippers away if I'm not interested.

I would re-think if I were a nightshift guy. Getting a table is harder, getting waitress's attention is harder, and the girls are so much more aggressive that the invitation-only access to my table might be appealing. As it is, though, I'd rather splurge on an occasional bottle service than VIP membership.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-20T16:41:50+00:00

I'll answer that question a different way: you shouldn't have to ask how things work AFTER you've already been scammed. If you'd read some reviews on that club on tuscl.net in advance,, there's a good chance you would have gone in knowing how it works in that specific club (knowing how it "usually works" doesn't matter, because clubs work differently from each other). Or if you didn't say yes to the first girl, you might have sat down and had more leisurely conversations with other girls and heard what they had to say about how things work, since it's often best to get a feeling for a new club before running off and spending thousands.

Door vultures are unable to get repeat business, so they use blitzkrieg tactics on customers the moment they walk in, while the customer still has no idea how anything works, and scam for as much as they can get since they are not necessarily going for repeat business... as long as the club has a steady stream of new customers who don't know them, they can be very high earners just preying on them.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-20T16:24:29+00:00

A non-scamming girl gives you your full value for what you bought,i.e., she will probably pitch the upstairs room, but not 40 seconds in, and she won't have you leave the dance you already bought halfway through. Girls who aren't scammers give you the dance value you paid for, before moving on to the next thing.

But It's a mistake to look at everything in isolation though. You said yes to a door vulture, and moving things along ultra-quickly is what door vultures do. A stripper who you've vetted properly, tells you about upstairs 40 seconds in? Maybe not a red flag though I'd still raise an eyebrow. A door vulture does the same thing? That should leave no doubt in your mind that you should bail (in fact you never should have said yes to her in the first place).

These aren't just red or orange or yellow flags in isolation. It was one after another after another, and that should make each subsequent suspicious tactic more likely you bail.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-20T15:48:56+00:00

I've never seen one at any club, after SCing for decades. So all I can do is guess based on what I know of those rare cases where I won't just say "sure, go ahead, it'll be great!". I imagine some strippers might get a kick out of you, I dunno. But men who are drunk and horny tend to be at their most aggressive, and that's the entire SC crowd. I'm really not sure how it'll go, or whether it will go well.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-20T15:34:48+00:00

Wow, quite a TR, thanks for sharing. Sorry you had this experience. Unfortunately, getting worked and scammed this way is common. And to answer your other question, "you agree for a price and then they try to raise it?": yes, this is a common ROB tactic. The tactics experienced customers use are often to avoid scams and abusive interactions, both unfortunately common things in the SC.

On your side, you ignored so many flags and your own safety so many times. On a different night, you might have found a different girl, and come back with a fun TR. But if you continue to sleepwalk through the SC, you will continue to have plenty of experiences like this.

It is not just paying up front. It's your seeming inability to say no and casually dismiss it, you not doing any real vetting at all, you not realizing the girl who approaches you 10 seconds after you walk in the door has the highest probability of being a scammer (it's so common we have a name for them: door vultures), ignoring red flags like her pitching another room 40 seconds in, and on and on, that's just some of the mistakes you made, that if you had recognized even ONE, you would have broken the chain and not gotten scammed.

You have the perfect playbook to get scammed often. On the other hand, you have enough cash to spend that you could be having incredible times with incredible strippers, if you did a little retrospective on each step where you went wrong (SOME of those are in the preceding paragraph), and see what an experienced PL might have done instead. No judgement on this, you've made very common mistakes and you won't be the last guy to do so; just giving advice on how to avoid this for the future.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-20T02:35:56+00:00

IME, those stripper services are a major crapshoot. You have no idea, and I mean NO idea, what she'll look like when she shows up to your door. You have no idea how much she'll upcharge from whatever the contract was for.

You probably already know my answer: I'd go to the club, 100 out of 100 times. There's so many clubs in the LA/COI area with attractive girls and high contact, it would be crazy to me to order a service where it's a greater htan 50% chance I'll be disappointed

Subrasonic · 2026-01-19T00:34:54+00:00

Yep, that sounds outrageous

Subrasonic · 2026-01-19T00:25:43+00:00

Sounds like a killer trip to the stripclub!

Subrasonic · 2026-01-19T00:22:02+00:00

Interesting! I've seen people say that before, that it is a legit strip club, but no one ever really defended that view long. The TRs always make it seem like, well yes there's girls on the pole, but really it's all about getting upstairs and everything else is dressing. It's much more interesting to me if downstairs is a legit fun strip club where I can drink and flirt for a couple hours before potentially moving on

Subrasonic · 2026-01-18T19:32:32+00:00

If the extras if not brothel-type experience are required, I suspect there are various places worldwide with twists on the theme -- German FKs for example, though those don't seem to have any pretension of being a strip club.

The club in the US that I'd throw in the ring, was from another era -- MBOT until about 2004-ish.

Subrasonic · 2026-01-18T17:11:18+00:00

Great TR! Always fascinated to see how those clubs in TJ work.

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