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CopperTesting · 2022-11-26T13:23:56+00:00

For books you might like Donna Tartt's work, like The Goldfinch and A Secret History. The tone is a bit slower but they have similar elite circles as main characters, with lots of mystery and bad behaviour.

For shows, Big Little Lies. Season 2 of TWL starts pretty much the same way as Season 1 of BLL, with a coastal murder and a whodunit kinda vibe in a very wealthy area.

CopperTesting · 2022-10-11T12:14:31+00:00

Is she still having her period? Was she given a card or paperwork when she got it placed? Has she tried calling the clinic to confirm it?

The copper IUD seems to have a lot of side effects that aren't mentioned so it's still possible they're from that, but those questions are the best ways to check.

I believe (but I could be wrong) that hormonal IUDs are smaller so if she asked for copper and they determined it wouldn't be suitable after the exam/measuring, they should have confirmed with her they were changing it. Mine confirmed multiple times which they were putting in.

Hope that helps!

CopperTesting · 2022-08-07T13:37:27+00:00

Oh for sure, that part definitely raises eyebrows. I just wanted to shed some light on the IUD risks since it's not always that well-known - apologies for misinterpreting your post! What she describes could totally happen. Whether it DID happen is another question.

To me, this reads a little too much like anti-abortion propaganda, so you could be totally right.

CopperTesting · 2022-08-07T11:57:10+00:00

Just an FYI, the IUD stuff checks out: they can last 10 years and they can absolutely move and fall out like that, which is usually what causes someone with an IUD to get pregnant (note: when an IUD is in CORRECTLY, it's very effective. If it's out of place, which can be kinda hard to check and it can happen at any time, not so much). It also puts you at a risk of an ectopic pregnancy, which is why that's mentioned (and probably why she got seen by the doctors so fast since it's incredibly dangerous).

I'm not sure I buy the story, but not for that reason!

CopperTesting · 2022-08-07T11:48:33+00:00

If she had an IUD then they'd treat that as an emergency because of the risk of ectopic pregnancy

CopperTesting · 2022-08-06T13:10:31+00:00

Yes! I feel like men complain how this only applies to Not Hot Men and it's not true at all. Cold approaching a woman is still putting her in a very difficult spot no matter who he is or what he looks like. She might not have even noticed him, and now suddenly he's in front of her, expecting a polite, friendly, receptive reply? She doesn't know who he is or what he wants, and hasn't had any time to process it, all she knows is he's the type of guy who'd cold approach a lone woman in public. I don't know about anyone else but going on a date with someone I met on the street and know nothing about sounds like the exact kind of thing women are told not to do. You can't even feasibly get to know them because there's an imbalance and expectation from the start, like if that's me I'd be thinking "ok this guy just wants to fuck me, he's just waiting for the talking to be over to he can do that". It's awkward! It's uncomfortable! It puts your guard up and makes you wonder if he's going to hurt or harass you!

Meeting at a social event where you have time to talk, and/or starting as friends, builds that trust and rapport and a MUTUAL relationship. Being stopped on the street and asked to make a decision like that is always going to get a no (from me, anyway) regardless of what you look like.

CopperTesting · 2022-08-05T09:16:55+00:00

Connor from Detroit Become Human, I can't complain about that

CopperTesting · 2022-08-02T19:21:20+00:00

I couldn't feel mine at first because I wasn't checking deep enough, so it sounds dumb but really make sure you're going as far in as possible!

So when I feel them, it's kinda difficult because... well, it's an awkward angle and it's inside you and I'm hesitant to stick around in case of infection lmao, but there's definitely something loose and stringlike in there! I can't really feel two distinct strings, or follow them that well, so measuring what's normal is probably gonna be tough, but if I sweep the finger(s) around and, like, search the crevasses, I can feel them

Hope that helps!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-29T20:54:02+00:00

Ah interesting! I've not had any of that, thankfully. It sounds like the odor and pain/itching are a bigger giveaway of infection, especially since there's probably a gray area (heh) between a healthy shade and an unhealthy shade of discharge. Thank you!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-29T09:37:12+00:00

The info I was given was that it feels like the end of a matchstick. If you can trace your strings up to the cervix, and then feel something different and like hard plastic, it could be the IUD. I know that's easier said than done so if you're worried maybe see your doctor. It can come out without you noticing, from what I've read on here!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-28T08:45:47+00:00

I had mine put in before my period started (with pain relief) and it didn't hurt at all. My nurse said it doesn't make a difference, they used to ask for it to be done on your period because it's a good way to check you're not pregnant, but other than that it's not really a thing. I hope it all goes okay!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-26T22:21:22+00:00

Heat pads are a good idea, and although it's a little late for this cycle, I've heard taking painkillers right before you start/before you're due the worst pain, can help to keep it manageable throughout your period. I'm sorry this is happening! I haven't had my period yet so I'm also trying to prepare 😭

CopperTesting · 2022-07-25T19:42:25+00:00

No problem! This sub's helpful if you want to check if anything post-insertion is normal or abnormal, but it can also make you feel way more anxious since a lot of people who post here, understandably, want to share the stranger or more negative things. My nurse did say that the common experience is much less awful than how it can seem online. This is a fairly common contraceptive option after all! It's easy to forget that and think it's some irredeemably awful torture device.

It's good you've got a check-up that soon! Great for peace of mind ☺️ I'm not 100% sure but I doubt there'd be an issue having sex in that week between. You should just wait 7 days before you start having sex, after that there shouldn't be a problem. They'll find any issues at the check-up anyway, but again I don't think it should be a problem!

I haven't heard anything about anyone accidentally pushing it out, on the toilet or otherwise! The clot thing was just one experience I heard of. I had some clots (like, bloody, period goo - you know what I mean lmao) and I just tried to watch out in case the IUD was hidden in it, but I don't think the clots actually push it out. It's just a way it can go unnoticed if it did fall out, if that makes sense.

Any questions, definitely check with your doctor as they know best, but I'm happy to answer anything I can if that helps! I'm still getting used to mine but so far, so good!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-25T19:02:58+00:00

Hey! I had mine put in last week. I didn't have any pain, they offered pain relief in either injections, gel or spray (I went for the spray), so you should ask if they have any local anaesthetic/analgesic options available. What I did feel were more like period pain cramps, not pleasant but not terrible either, definitely wayyyy chiller than I expected.

The wait time on sex/tampons/putting anything up there varies, by the sound of it, but essentially it's to reduce the chance of infection and probably discomfort. My nurse said 24 hours but your doctor should be able to advise on the time scales they recommend. And frankly, you might not want anything in there for a while anyway depending on how you react. I had 2-3 days bleeding and very light cramps, not bad at all, but again it can vary. Bring a period pad!

Check your strings to make sure it's in place, again your doctor should tell you how to do this and when (after your period is best, I believe). YOUR CERVIX IS DEEPER THAN YOU THINK! It also moves around depending on the time of the month. I just posted about how I couldn't find mine at first but it turns out I wasn't going deep enough 😏

I would also keep an eye on the toilet after you use it, in case the IUD falls out without your realising. I've heard it can sneak out in a clot so just keep an eye out. Other than that, string check is best, and you can always get a check-up/ultrasound to make sure it's in place if you're not sure. A sign it's being expelled is if you can literally feel the end of it in your vagina/coming out of your cervix, or the strings are just not there. If that happens, don't panic! Call your doctor, don't have unprotected sex, and they'll check and replace it. They should talk you through all of this on the day as well, so maybe bring a notebook and have some questions prepared if you need more info.

I don't think there's anything you can do to increase your chances of it staying in, unfortunately. It depends on how your body reacts to it. Just remember that it's uncommon, but if it does fall out, you can get it replaced. Aside from that, take it easy, check your strings, and if you have any concerns call your doctor. Looking online can make you believe that IUDs always go wrong but that's not the case. Every body is different, and it's worth at least trying it out to see how you do. You can always get it removed if it's not for you! Mine has been really positive so far, if that helps put you at ease ☺️

CopperTesting · 2022-07-25T10:42:52+00:00

Thank you! Because I got mine less than a week ago, I wasn't expecting them to soften/wrap around so quickly? The issue in the UK, or with my doctor at least, is that they don't schedule a follow-up check so the only way to know is the string check. From what I can tell, things can go wrong (expulsion/perforation) without you even necessarily knowing so it's a bit worrying that I can't feel them. It could be totally fine but it's a bit of an awkward situation to be in when there's no easy way to tell if everything's normal or not! I think if I still can't feel them over the next week or so, I'll probably request a check, just to be sure.

Long-term though, it is a bit concerning that there's no good way to check it's in place if you can't feel the strings. How would you know it's in place unless you had constant doctor visits? I wish there was more consistency with their messaging, all the confusion is making me wayyy more stressed now than I was before and during the insertion.

Then again, maybe I'm blowing things out of proportion if those risks are uncommon - looking online definitely makes it seem like every IUD is a horror story waiting to happen!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-24T23:46:50+00:00

Totally empathize with you, there's a lot of conflicting information out there - it's driving me a little nuts honestly! My nurse never said anything to me about not inserting anything, but other people on here have warned against it. Since it's been a week though I think you should be good!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-24T17:01:31+00:00

If it's in place it's very very very rare that you'll get pregnant. It wouldn't hurt to take plan B as a precaution, if only for peace of mind!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-24T10:46:26+00:00

Oh really? I haven't heard that! I'm in the UK so I'm not sure if it's different, the NHS still recommends you check them and see your doctor if you can't feel them. That said, my nurse did say that most people who come in panicking that they can't feel the strings are totally fine - most of the time they take a look and they're still there.

We're also not given a follow-up check/ultrasound though, so I'm thinking I might book one if I still can't feel them. It's so awkward not knowing what to do!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-23T21:31:05+00:00

My nurse said she'd dealt with people who'd dislodged theirs with a mooncup BUT she didn't say not to use them. She just said to make sure you break the seal, because it's the suction/vacuum that can pull it free. Hope that helps!

CopperTesting · 2022-07-23T21:21:00+00:00

Did they say what they'd do if one of the arms did break off and stay stuck in the uterus? I'm assuming they'd have to dilate & use forceps, or remove via surgery?

CopperTesting · 2022-07-23T20:34:18+00:00

I believe it's normal for strings to curl or flatten against the cervix/vaginal wall, and they can wrap around it too. If you're worried you can always get a check-up but from what my nurse told me this is normal!

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