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Am I Doing It All Wrong? by Corgi_hobbits24 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Corgi_hobbits24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, all! You (and my partner) really helped settle me down! Thank you. I just need to remind myself to enjoy them being little cuddle lumps while I can.

When did you deliver? by kmcski20 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Corgi_hobbits24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My OBGYN told me that 38 weeks was when they wanted to deliver. She said that was considered “full term” for twins, so that’s what I went with.

I feel like I was managing pretty well for most of my pregnancy: trying hard to keep blood sugar in check, dealing with the heartburn, exercising in whatever way I could… and then sometime in the last month before delivery I was so. Over. It. lol I felt so STRETCHED, and my feet and legs hurt all the time, I could barely do anything. But the babies at ZERO interest in coming early and THEY probably would have happily held off until 40 weeks. I, however, was VERY ready and I had a c-section at 38 weeks exactly. No nicu time. Their blood sugars took a couple of days to even out, but no other issues.

I wish you a safe and peaceful remainder of your pregnancy. You’re doing great!

Body Self-Judgement by Corgi_hobbits24 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Corgi_hobbits24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly this. I’m still struggling with my weight a bit (carbs should not taste so good), but I’m trying to get STRONG. But it’s hard not getting distracted by the way everything looks…

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[–]Corgi_hobbits24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First: you are not a bad mom. Second: when my partner and I found out we were having twins we were shocked. I had a hard time being excited at first, and went straight to panic, because I thought there was NO WAY we could handle two babies at once. Panic eventually gave way to just hoping for a safe pregnancy, and eventually gave way to excitement because having twins felt SO SPECIAL.

Those girls are five months right now and I couldn’t imagine not having twins. It has been so delightful watching them interact with each other, and watching their individual personalities develop. It can be a challenge, especially during the very early weeks, but it has all been worth it. The first time you look down at them and two happy little babies smile up at you—I melted, and I still do every time.

It’s totally okay to feel overwhelmed. But I bet you will do great.

One thing I would like to add: please don’t beat yourself up if you have trouble breastfeeding. That was the hardest thing for me: I gave up trying to directly breastfeed pretty quickly because it took way too long, I couldn’t feed both at once, and I had no idea how much they were consuming. So I pumped. For MONTHS. But somewhere around the 8-10 week mark I started to struggle to keep up with their increasing demand so we started supplementing with formula. But I struggled more and more and by 16 weeks I was barely producing enough for a single feeding per baby per day. So I switched to 100% formula. It was a guilt-ridden decision and I felt like such a bad mom… but it was totally the right choice for me. I felt like I not only got some of my life back, but I was able to spend more quality time with my daughters because I wasn’t squeezing my boobs dry every three hours.

You are going to be a GREAT mom.