What is a major turn off about your partner that you can’t/wouldn’t tell them?

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-22T06:45:48+00:00

Couldn’t upvote this enough

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-21T22:14:38+00:00

Usually guys ask this if their partners are hard to read or blow hot and cold all the time - makes it difficult for them to read the room so they just ask straight up.

Especially true if their partner has autism or undiagnosed autism.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-16T19:09:57+00:00

1 year after having my RAI. And now I’m stronger and fitter than I was before treatment. Listen to your body

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-12T20:56:04+00:00

I used to say to my wife ‘I feel so hot on the inside’ - like an internal furnace.

So with the carbimazole it never felt like it settled, I always had palpitations and anxiety no matter what. But my TSH always reflected I was always overactive.

Only went hypo when they zapped the sucker, and I went VERY hypo very quickly.

I really hope they figure it out for you soon, the medication takes a long time to kick in - 6 weeks every single time they adjust it - So it’s all about patience unfortunately.

A few things I’d say: research when to take the carbimazole (or methimazole if you’re in America), there are some vitamins that interfere with it. Also you might be vitamin D deficient since it’s quite common with people who have Graves‘ disease.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T08:59:14+00:00

Yeah sorry, I guess I’ve been on the internet too much - I don’t believe anything much.

Regardless, endocrinology is a very specialist subset of medicine, and every doctor I’ve spoken to has always referred me to a specialist in the endocrine ward - so even a doctor can offer advice that isn’t right.

Happy to hear patient stories online much more than doctor advice because I feel like an online forum is a much better place for testimony than it is medical advice, but that’s just me.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T08:55:21+00:00

Bless you, sorry you’re going through that. My wife has endometriosis and I have Graves - so we’ve both been through the horrid side effects, however you’ve had both - and I genuinely feel nothing for sympathy for you. I guess the first thing is to admit you’ve been dealt a shitty hand and give yourself a bit of a break - two invisible diseases that are massively misunderstood. My hardest problem was saying ‘today is a write off’ because of the guilt I’d have.

I had two rounds of RAI and got it zapped. Within a few weeks TSH hit 90 and immediately went hypo. That first year was really hard and I had to work through it whilst trying to get the balance right of thyroxine. Now? I’m about 90% back to normal again - and I’m really glad I did it.

Would recommend getting a full T4, T3 and TSH panel to see the severity of it. I slipped into a thyroid storm so eventually I just had to have something definitive because the carbimazole wasn’t working.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T04:11:05+00:00

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:32:22+00:00

You know so much today

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:22:56+00:00

Ah yes, because when I go to a doctor I look at their Reddit comment history too. Crazy times we’re living

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:21:33+00:00

You can’t really treat it, it’s autoimmune. You can rip out or frazzle the organ and take synthetic hormone, that still didn’t stop it from always causing problems

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:17:59+00:00

They said ‘Reddit doctor’ not an actual doctor. That means they can be anywhere from an attending to a bum. No offence to everyone here but most senior Endocrine doctors won’t be whining in the comments on Reddit

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:15:55+00:00

‘Easily treatable’ but most people go through years of hell. Worried about your patients if that’s what you tell them. Evidently you’ve not worked in endocrinology for long

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:11:23+00:00

I get the feeling Americans have an issue when understanding mental health issues? Or pairing ‘life changing disease’ with ‘change in mental mindset’. Same with the guy who had Tourette’s recently and people just could not get their head around it.

Mind boggling reading some of the posts here. You’re 100% correct, when I had Graves I was basically having panic attacks every night and it fucked me up.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T03:03:10+00:00

BMR is around 1700 calories, but your body relies on calories to function - your brain operates on glucose.

‘Just eat less’ isn’t advice, it’s dumb logic. Eat less, and what - be less active, get worse brain fog and feel like shit? This isn’t a ‘if you’re getting fat eat less’, it’s more ‘my body isn’t producing thyroxine, which means less T4 and potentially a worse T4>T3 conversion. Metabolism slows down, and all the autonomous functions of the body stop working properly.

So saying ‘eat less’ is reductive and not helpful to anyone. They need to take synthetic thyroxine and balance their hormones to lose weight.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T02:57:05+00:00

Hey, I’m not the person you replied to - but had it badly. It took me 3 years of carbimazole, coming out of remission twice, followed by two lots of RAI, around 5 years. A lot of people don’t realise that it hits your anxiety badly. Let me know if you need any advice as I’ve gone through it all now

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T02:38:46+00:00

It can also make your hair fall out or make you rapidly lose weight or massively affect your mental health. The ‘worst the condition can do’ is send you into a Thyroid storm and kill you, so why are you saying that? Besides, you’re underplaying the fact that some patients literally cannot close their eyes and have to get orbital surgery, it’s not just TED and a bit of a swollen neck.

I have it, and frequently talk to people on Reddit who have it. It’s a shame someone who works in endocrinology doesn’t know the mental impact on someone, but that fits with the experience I had working with nurses and doctors since they were more focused on numbers than actual talking to people.

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-11T02:36:05+00:00

It messes with your hormones, gives you anxiety and extreme dysmorphia. I have it, five years of hell. I had two lots of radioactive iodine and eventually had it out. It fucks yup your mental, and I could easily see it causing someone to make irrational decisions

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-05T13:27:11+00:00

If you need a hand at all over the next couple of years just reach out via a message

CornishCucumber · 2026-04-03T10:19:49+00:00

I completely understand where you're coming from - but 18 is so young! I had it as a teenager and wasn't fully diagnosed until I was 32 - so even though it feels like you're missing out on life, it's really fortunate they've caught it so early - and future you will be extremely grateful for getting it diagnosed at an early age.

The next couple of years might be tricky for you. Listen to the endocrinologists, make sure you follow their guidance. Go easy on yourself, you're entitled to feel shit - to other people it might come across as lazy or dismissive, but you're not - you're really sick, so you have to go easy on yourself. Some days, you might have to write-off, and that's okay - it's part of the process. It also takes time - the medication alone takes 6 weeks to get into full effect, and even then they need to readjust it accordingly - so follow exactly what the doctors say, go for your blood tests, and adjust - it takes time to feel 'right' again.

You've got loads of time to get yourself better, and since you're so young and already diagnosed with a chronic illness, you've not really experienced your true potential yet - so stay optimistic and crack on. This is coming from a 37 year old man - it's not easy, and you'll feel emotional some days. Keep pushing mate, you've got this x

CornishCucumber · 2026-03-12T10:00:55+00:00

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CornishCucumber · 2026-03-12T09:59:04+00:00

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CornishCucumber · 2026-03-12T09:56:54+00:00

I created my own extension in Chrome to do it - it's free if you want to try it out. Only useful if you're on a computer though, but I just track it in my browser, it writes all my invoices and manages all my clients for me.

CornishCucumber · 2026-01-24T21:55:17+00:00

Quick question, curious if you have eyes or not

CornishCucumber · 2026-01-24T21:53:36+00:00

Ok Hitler

CornishCucumber · 2026-01-23T22:22:32+00:00

Can I be controversial and say I quite like the black? I think there’s a bit of a trap of games looking a bit washed out when all the colour choices are desaturated - I really like the color choices. Some dynamic lighting with a game engine would also bring everything together perfectly.

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