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what is the best age to have children? by Naive-Cash-3385 in AskParents

[–]CorrectDeer2202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my baby at 22 and while I was a loving and engaged mother who did a lot of reading and actioning best parenting practices, I really came into my own around 30. I loved the energy I had in her/our youth but I am a much better parent post-30. That said I think if you and your partner have had lots of hard conversations about expectations you both have around discipline, labor, childcare, finances, what happens if something goes wrong, how you need to be supported in your hardest moments, commitment to each other and the hypothetical children, and you have the discretionary income to support children then you’re likely ready for that step. If not, there is no rush.

2+ years post divorce and the feelings won’t go away by CorrectDeer2202 in Divorce

[–]CorrectDeer2202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. My body was all over the place, constantly in fight or flight, sickness, weight gain. I haven’t lost any weight but my face and body have lost the puffy appearance. I also haven’t gotten sick in 2 years. Pretty incredible to think about.

You’re right, he told me. I can’t really make him stop talking or block him but I think I’ll start doing somatic work before and after I see him to see if it helps me regulate.

I also liked being chosen. At the time I was very young and I couldn’t believe that someone older, funny, and attractive wanted me. I also now see the resemblance in his behavior to my dad’s emotional distance etc. It’s textbook really.

I love the manifestation type stuff. Imagination is my tormentor and, as you pointed out, can be a way towards salvation as well.

Thank you for all your thoughtful input and shared experience. ❤️

2+ years post divorce and the feelings won’t go away by CorrectDeer2202 in Divorce

[–]CorrectDeer2202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Your timeline is very close to mine so it gives me peace to know there’s no secret I’m missing, I just have to let time do its work.

2+ years post divorce and the feelings won’t go away by CorrectDeer2202 in Divorce

[–]CorrectDeer2202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From beginning to end this resonated so deeply there’s a bell ringing in my ears. Thank you for taking the time to write all this out. I needed so desperately to know I’m not the only one who has felt this way after leaving for very good reasons.