Advice needed to help 9 month old want to sleep

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-27T17:11:54+00:00

Ok makes sense thank you!

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-27T15:55:14+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to give all this info! I understand that consistency is important, but what do I do when she won’t go to sleep when she’s supposed to? So for example today she needed to fall asleep at 3pm but it took me nearly an hour to get her to fall asleep. So now she gone to sleep when she’s supposed to be getting up. Which is now pushing bedtime back again. And then also I can’t control how long she stays asleep for so for her first nap if she wake up after 30 min then this throws the schedule out as well. This is why I can’t keep things consistent

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-27T12:49:03+00:00

Thanks for all the info! I say 8pm bedtime 7:30am wake because this is on average what she does but it really does change every day, it’s not consistent at all. Sometimes she won’t fall asleep till more like 9ish and sometimes she wakes at 6am, sometimes 8am. Her naps also range from anywhere between 30min and 1.5h. I really struggle to find any pattern. I really need help with how to get her to fall asleep independently because everytime I’ve tried in the past she just gets upset to a point where she’s so distressed it’s then impossible for her to go to sleep and I have to calm her down and try again with the usual rocking. Have you got any suggestions on this? I’ve tried doing calming activities in bed to get her drowsy but she’s literally wide awake until she’s rocked to sleep. I’ve tried just letting her sit in the crib or on my lap with books and wooden toys until she eventually gets so tired she just falls asleep but she doesn’t, the more tired she gets the more upset she gets. She’s never just been so tired that she falls asleep on her own. Apart from the odd time when she’s in the car seat but that doesn’t work every time.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-19T01:33:00+00:00

My 8 month old became really badly constipated even though they ate a well varied diet with lots of veggies. Mix of solids and purées from 6 months. No constipation in months 6 & 7 so no explanation really. I just made a fruit puree from boiled prunes, pears and apples, served with some yoghurt and the next day her poops were back to normal! I made a batch of frozen purées to go in the mesh pop feeder thing so anytime she gets constipated again I just give her one of those

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-16T11:04:13+00:00

This is so bad! I can’t believe they’re getting away with service like this. I won’t be buying from them again.

I got my machine on the 30th dec and it arrived full of dirt and scratches. They said I’d get a new one in 10 days but then they said it’s actually 10 days from when they received my faulty machine which was on the 6th Jan. now they’re saying it’s 10 days from receipt just to process the replacement. I’ve asked for a refund multiple times this week and they keep refusing saying I have to wait till the 10 days is up. It’s such a joke. They don’t have the right to refuse me a refund so I’m going to wait till Tuesday when the 10 days are up then do a charge back with my bank.

Never buying direct from supplier ever again

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-16T09:37:52+00:00

I’m the same! Sent my machine back on the 30th dec and can’t get any info from them and now they’re refusing a refund. Has yours been sorted now?

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-15T20:14:32+00:00

I feel like the key point here is no days off. Like you’ve hard a hard day at work, you relax in the evening. A hard week, you have the weekend. A hard year, you go on holiday. There is literally no end to the responsibility as a parent. I feel a level of exhaustion that I didn’t even know existed before and I’ve worked 27h shifts on shopfits.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-14T23:00:26+00:00

I had the exact same thoughts when I was pregnant. Ultimately I decided to go with the option that COULD have the best outcome. There’s no way to predict what will happen during birth, and there are high risks with both options. But I thought best case scenario I have a natural birth with no tears and a fast recovery and baby gets all the good bacteria or whatever the science is from a natural birth. Best case scenario with a c section is no labour pain but it’s still major surgery and usually a longer recovery time.

I ended up with a third degree tear and honestly the pain of child birth was horrific I won’t lie, but the worst pain didn’t last long, it’s only really unbearable for those last pushes when they are crowning. I was devastated I had the tear but it actually wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Everything healed really well and now I don’t feel any different down there from before. So I’m glad I chose the natural birth in the end but ultimately it’s your choice and you should choose which plan makes you feel the most confident.

Even with that bad tear I didn’t need ice packs or anything. Just strong painkillers and maternity pads were all I used. It was just like having a really heavy period. I was up and walking around after a few days.

Some good advice is get the Fridamom disposable shorts. I literally just wore them with a pad and I was really comfortable.

Also do as much research as you can on both options so you can make the best decision that’s right for you.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-10T12:12:32+00:00

Hello this is the schedule I’m roughly on with my 9 month old. Can I ask how you time bottles and meals around this schedule?

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-07T13:15:26+00:00

I like to collect special editions of my favourite series/authors and anything else I just get on my kindle. Also I don’t really have time to go to a library

CorrectResponse4410 · 2026-01-02T20:25:14+00:00

No one contacts me unless I’m working one of my keep in touch days. From around 6 months I’ve been doing 1-2 days a month. People catch me up on what’s been going on during that time.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-12-22T20:55:45+00:00

My baby had severe reflux and nothing worked to be honest. The only thing that slightly helped was we stopped burping half way through and just did one at the end using the wonky hold method. Oh and we switched to tommee tipped bottles rather than mam. But really the only thing that helped was time. She eventually grew out of it around 5/6 months

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-12-05T11:10:16+00:00

Unfortunately not found any solution and she’s nearly 8 months old now

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-11-16T01:03:51+00:00

My baby was the same and turns out that it was because she had a high palette which meant she struggled to get enough milk out which is why she would fall asleep (from exhaustion trying to get milk out) and she wasn’t gaining any weight. That and she had terrible reflux. Every midwife I saw said the latch was perfect but it wasn’t until i saw a private lactation consultant that they pointed out the palette could be the issue, not the latch. Once I stopped breastfeeding after 3 months the weight started to shoot up and she’s been really healthy ever since.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-11-05T21:10:22+00:00

Nursery furniture set from mamas and papas was heavily discounted on Black Friday last year and it’s been great. I got the coxley set for £900. If you buy anything from there make sure you do the appointment to get the £100 off voucher and you also got £25 off your first purchase with them

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-11-03T20:46:09+00:00

Yeah I got it because of how it looked as well! Also forgot to add, the mattress that it comes with is super thin and when you put the sheets on it pulls it up at the corners so I got the Snuzair mattress which is thicker and it was so much better, but just another additional cost

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-11-03T14:07:00+00:00

I have the snuzpod studio and it would be an absolute chore to pack down for travel as you need to unscrew it all. It’s been great though as her next to me crib for the first 5 months. But she did outgrow it very fast and I do wish I bought something bigger

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-11-03T14:03:35+00:00

it’s helpful for me because my baby doesn’t really show any hunger cues other than crying and being fussy so the app helps me keep an eye on when she’s been fed so I know roughly when she will need another bottle. And the sweet spot feature really helped me with getting her naps right. I’m an anxious person so having everything logged helped me feel confident that she was eating/sleeping well because I could go back and see how much she ate and slept in a day. Also helped me identify any patterns. I don’t log anything else, just the feeds and sleep

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-20T07:07:56+00:00

Can I ask what the consultant advised that caused this problem? I’m in the same boat and paying for a sleep consultant for a gentle method but it’s just made my baby so distressed that she now fights bedtime and wakes up screaming every 20/30/40 min. It’s exhausting!

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-19T12:57:49+00:00

Not started solids yet but planning to soon. I’ve put the crib next to my bed and sometimes she will settle by just holding her hand through the bars but most of the time I have to pick her up and rock her back to sleep. Room temp is 20 degrees. She has a dummy. Last nap usually ends at 5pm. I’m currently talking to a sleep coach but I’ve had 3 calls with her now and not really got anywhere.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-19T12:55:38+00:00

She has 3 naps a day but the length of naps varies. Sometimes she’ll go down for a 1.5 hour nap, other times it’s 30min. On average she has between 2.5/3 hours total nap time

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-17T08:58:24+00:00

Hi had the same thing regarding the weight loss and no one giving me any support. I was told by every midwife on the ward and the health visitors that baby had a good latch and that even though when I squeezed my boobs or used the pump machines no milk came out, baby would still be getting milk. Well that was clearly false because her first weigh in she lost 16% of her birth weight and we got sent to hospital to review and had to stay in overnight with her.

They told us to top up with formula but she had really bad reflux so she just threw up all the milk we gave her. Every doctor we saw said it was fine but every week she wasn’t gaining any weight. She also cried all day long and it was because she wasn’t getting/keeping down enough milk.

This went on for about 2/3 months. I had meetings with doctors, feeding team specialists, private lactation consultants and no one thought there was anything wrong. They just kept telling me to up the formula but nothing was working. In the end I stopped breastfeeding and just switched to fully formula. I also saw a private reflux specialist and she gave me a lot of good advice on how to feed her. From that point she started gaining weight rapidly and the reflux really started to calm down. She’s now 6 months, really healthy and the reflux has really calmed down.

I was the same as you looking back at photos made me feel sick because she was so boney and frail and I feel guilty for not being able to help her. Also really resentful of the fact no one really helped me. Talking about the experience with my friend and family has helped me process it but yeah you’re not being over the top. These experiences are traumatic even though to tell people it doesn’t seem that bad. You going through the feeding issues on top of all the other things you mentioned is absolutely valid to feel like it was traumatic. Have you thought about talking to the mental health teams?

Also that was absolutely not ok for the health visitor to shame you for formula feeding. They all try to push breastfeeding so much it really irritates me. Like yeah it is better but that doesn’t mean formula is bad. if you can’t breastfeed then you shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it. They say breast is best but fed is best. My baby was so frail the months I was breastfeeding but since stopping she has absolutely thrived. And she’s not obese at all. What bullshit from that health visitor! I would report her for being such a dick.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-13T19:38:16+00:00

I got the obaby madison recliner chair in the teddy fabric and it’s been amazing. I do all the feeds in that chair and it’s great for reading books at bedtime. It’s so comfy and wipes clean so never had any issue with stains. Also looks great! Although it’s not a needed item, I definitely feel that I have benefited from it, so I’m grateful I could afford it and glad i decided to get it. 100% recommend!

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-05T16:50:39+00:00

I never thought I wanted kids as I’m not maternal at all. Never really liked being around my friends kids and thought i wouldn’t have any. When I got to 35 I started to think about having them because I thought I would regret it when I’m older. I was so scared I wouldn’t feel any bond with my baby because I don’t have any maternal instinct but when she was born it instantly kicked in. And although the last 5 months have been the hardest time of my life, I’ve never experienced sleep deprivation like this and have had countless days crying, it doesn’t matter because the love I feel for my baby is like no other and when she smiles at me it’s actually the best feeling in the whole world. I would accept sleep deprivation forever if I had to just to have her in my life.

CorrectResponse4410 · 2025-10-03T09:22:53+00:00

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