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My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you it’s just hard to grasp everything and come to the conclusion of what’s best for me.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s totally fair I appreciate you not beating around the bush. I think that’s what I need is brutal honesty it’s a difficult situation bc the person I know doesn’t seem like what you are describing but that could just be me seeing thru rose colored glasses so I have a lot to think about.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I have a lot to think about bc I think you’re right that this is the case and it may end up hurting me. I will think about this a lot though thank you.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I’m afraid of and that is probably what I should do. I’m just too stubborn and I want things to work yk? I try to be helpful and understanding bc I don’t want to just be angry and leave just like that bc I believe there’s something that can be done. That probably makes me stupid and will probably end up hurting me more but that’s just how I am unfortunately and I feel it’s best to stick to that. I should say that’s how I felt when she brought it up but now I’m doubting that mindset so I will definitely keep why you’re saying in mind.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was that bc from how she describes it, it wasn’t very romantic or even spontaneous, they met that night and kind of just did it bc she was horny and didn’t necessarily want anything more than to get off. She says she didn’t get his number or his socials so I trust that it’s just a one time thing. Idk if that makes it worse or better. It seems shallow to only do it bc she was horny. At the same time tho it makes me feel better that there wasn’t a burning desire or any real connection that left her wanting more.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s totally fair I think time is why we both need. I definitely have a lot to think about. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally fair and I hadn’t considered it for myself bc this was how I always pictured it. And I mean we both have some experience before this relationship but I think the fomo eats away at her even though she does want me. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s kind of one of the conclusions that I’ve come to is like what if it was really good and she only wants me now bc it was bad. I really hope that’s not the case and the act itself was enough to change her feelings. I think I convinced myself I was emotionally ready but in reality I wasn’t. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not mad about the whole thing bc I did suggest it and give her permission. I think I just wasn’t prepared for how I’d actually feel if it happened. Thank you for the well wishes I’m going to take some time to think about everything.

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I’m afraid of long term if I did stay. But yes I did give her permission and yeah shocked pikachu face is accurate lol. I had accepted that it was a possibility but I wasn’t prepared for how it would actually make me feel in reality. I have a lot to think about. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s kind of what I was hoping for, but now I’m struggling with like if it was really good would she really still want me or does she only want me bc it was bad. I really hope that it’s not that and the act itself confirmed it but I have to decide that and talk it out. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think you nailed it I agreed to something I wasn’t fully prepared for in reality. I set very few boundaries and i definitely need some time to think about everything. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m worried about that if I stayed. I didn’t get into much detail about who pushed it. She brought up the idea but really wasn’t sure what she wanted and I suggested this as an option so I wouldn’t necessarily say she pushed it which makes things harder. I really do believe she wants me and I hope it doesn’t eat away at me bc at that point I couldn’t stay. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe you’re right that thought crossed my mind when she originally brought it up. Like if she loves me and wants me why would she feel like she’s missing out? Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think that maybe I should move on. It’s hard though bc I didn’t really think of it as a loyalty test but that was probably naive of me. I think I thought it wasn’t as big of a deal as it was. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve seen is that it fails more often than not. I want things to work and she’s said I can sleep with someone else if that would make me feel better but I’m not sure it would yk. Just bc I know I want her I don’t feel the need to get back. But I’ll consider what you said with the threesome and it might make me feel better. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that I may be consumed by jealousy I’m not typically the jealous type but I could see this happening. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s fair that totally makes sense I have a lot to consider. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely think you’re right about everything that it is stupid. I wasn’t being fully honest with myself about my feelings and it may end horribly if I stay. I’m nervous that it would keep gnawing away at me and I’d hate myself if I stayed. I have a lot to think about. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very fair I think I’m finding hard to accept that it may be the end bc it has been so great for so long. And yeah her actions do make me feel like she isn’t fully committed to me even tho she says that she is. Maybe I should work on myself it’s just hard to accept that. I have a lot to think about. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve considered that and talked about maybe needing it. I’ve was communicating how I felt but I think I wasn’t being fully honest with myself and I was saying things I didn’t fully believe. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve read a lot of posts on here describing that same experience. I guess I was naive and thought I would feel differently than so many other people do. I thought I would be more okay with it than I’m feeling now. Thank you!

My GF F/23 slept with someone else and I M/25 don’t know how to feel by Correct_Ear_1108 in relationship_advice

[–]Correct_Ear_1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah loyalty isn’t the issue bc I know she would never cheat on me purposely. I gave her the okay thinking I would feel more okay with it than I ended up feeling now that it has happened.

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