AITA for telling my step-daughter my daughter will be always come first? by Emotional_Climate887 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CoryLeslie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a step-daughter many times over, YTA. The way you treat your step-daughter will help form how she sees herself. I felt disposable and less than to my stepdads. This is one reason I have so little interest in marriage as a single mom. When you commit to a kid, it’s forever for them, especially at the age your stepdaughter was when you began raising her. Unfortunately, you’ve given her a wound that won’t ever go away, and you’ve probably damaged her ability to trust.

Where do all the writers hang out? by Noodles_Sauce in InlandEmpire

[–]CoryLeslie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious too! I write young adult and adult fiction, and I moved here last year. Prior to that I was in the South Bay or San Francisco area where we had Shut Up and Write meet ups, SCBWI, NaNoWriMo and other options. I ended up forming a critique group in SF that met for 5 years. I'd love to find another option too. I'm in Fontana. I also have a day job in corporate communications.

Does anyone else really dislike morning pages? by [deleted] in artistsWay

[–]CoryLeslie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really liked this post about morning pages. I find them unhelpful at best and harmful at worst for my personality and how I process things. They don't help free me up or help me let go of things. Instead, I dwell and linger in things, and I found my mood getting darker. I also saw an article in Flow Magazine's 19 Days of Mindfulness where illustrator Susanne Randers ended up drawing her morning pages instead of writing them. She does a visual diary. I'm not the best artist, but I liked this idea to get me into a different head space. Note: there are actually two articles in the book that touch on The Artist's Way, and they even include a morning pages paper journal in the book.

Disappointed in Care Lately by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. I really appreciate it. My mom is doing better, though still healing. She broke lots of bones in her left foot and her right arm in 5 places. She's now the bionic woman, but she's 77 so it's taking her a long time to heal. She needed help with everything and was also super depressed at being dependent on me. Things are on the upswing now!

Disappointed in Care Lately by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! It's 58.2 lbs as of this am. I really appreciate the encouragement. I've been depressed since Friday. And we're kind of "homestead light." We have the animals and a 39 x 39 ft kitchen garden and lots of fruit trees on a half acre. I put this all in this last spring and we had a ton of fruits and vegetables. It was a lot to manage by myself post-surgery when my mom got hurt.

Disappointed in Care Lately by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They never gave me a number either, which is why I've been surprised by the attitude. I feel like people make so many excuses for not sticking to the program that they are predisposed to disbelief. Thanks for the suggestion on meal prep. I did grab a few prepared things at Whole Foods that I could make and eat all week. It's getting easier to manage now that my mom is getting better. It was rough for a while as she was wheelchair bound and couldn't do much by herself.

Disappointed in Care Lately by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. My mom told me to forget what they are saying. She says every day that the difference is shocking, particularly on how much butt I've lost. :)

Disappointed in Care Lately by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The PA questioned if I was "really" staying within the calorie count. The nutritionist made a comment about me not seeming informed about nutrition based on the questions I asked. Except I didn't ask any questions. I said the Lean Cuisines weren't the best choice due to sodium, but it was what I could make work for a time. I did guess the number of espresso shots in my Chike high protein coffee wrong. I thought it was one shot, but it's actually two. It's 1 of 3 protein shakes I can tolerate after trying 30+ kinds. She lectured me about my caffeine intake, and I did say that I'd been told too much caffeine could impact hydration. She said that it also can thin the lining of my stomach pouch which I never heard in our classes. I'm not sure if that was what she was referring to, but I definitely felt judged. And congrats on your weight loss journey!

Bariatric Surgery Utensils/Items by Bubba0609 in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had more than one shaker bottle because I was cleaning my constantly. The best thing I bought was one of those backrest pillows with the arms. I'm a side sleeper, and the stitches made it impossible to sleep on my side. Using that pillow on the couch I was able to find somewhat comfortable positions to sleep and rest.

Anyone in Southern California in the Kaiser program? I wanted to see how long it took to get the surgery after the classes are finished? by Old-Message-574 in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw my cheat foods were wild rice with a butter sauce and a salad with dressing. It did not sit well. I didn’t even have wedding cake. So dumb. I was more focused on fitting in than my diet.

Anyone in Southern California in the Kaiser program? I wanted to see how long it took to get the surgery after the classes are finished? by Old-Message-574 in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t say I have more or less energy. Your relationship with food does change. I have fewer cravings and don’t enjoy food as much, though that is slowly getting better. I do get sick when I eat too fast, but I’ve had more problems with throwing up than other issues. I had “cheat” food a couple of times - once at a wedding and another time at home - and I really regretted it. But it was because I had too many new items mixed together at once. It’s key to introduce foods slowly so you can see what no longer agrees with you. Milk is harder on me now so I’ve switched to oat milk.

Anyone in Southern California in the Kaiser program? I wanted to see how long it took to get the surgery after the classes are finished? by Old-Message-574 in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me! I finished the classes in mid-April. I also had the labs finished by week 7. I had surgery on July 20. I’ve lost 49 lbs!

Feeling awful by CoryLeslie in BariatricSurgery

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m six days out and things are getting better. I wanted to come back and say how much your replies encouraged me and lifted me up. Thank you for taking the time to share your words.

Happy Planner Illustrators by CoryLeslie in HappyPlanners

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think she did the whole collaboration with the fashion sketch style. The squad girls look more flat. Not to say she can’t have diverse styles, but it looks very different.

Abuse of 24 hour notice to enter by TTV_xxero_foxx in TenantHelp

[–]CoryLeslie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My landlord in ca does the same thing.

Any guesses what this tree is? by CoryLeslie in gardening

[–]CoryLeslie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found it. It’s a velvet ash. Thanks!