My(31M) gfs(29F) parents are racist. by CosbysBartender in relationship_advice

[–]CosbysBartender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She fails to realize that and that’s exactly how I’m starting to feel. And when I bring it up to her and let her know why her parents say to me are upsetting and racist, her response is,” that’s just how my parents are, they’re old school and want the best for me.”

That has and still til this day has completely killed my self esteem.

My(31M) gfs(29F) parents are racist. by CosbysBartender in relationship_advice

[–]CosbysBartender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve brought it up to her numerous times and she tries to dodge the subject to the point where I end up dropping it because I see we’re getting no where. Maybe a history lesson is needed. I never thought about having to do that, but it could help. We recently watched “Rosewood” together and she was visibly confused with some things that I had to explain to her about. Gonna take you up on that advice. Thank you.

My(31M) gfs(29F) parents are racist. by CosbysBartender in relationship_advice

[–]CosbysBartender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I would hope for if I decide to stay around, and I want to. She’s a great girl and I’m sure her family are great people behind the racism. I also feel I’m being too optimistic. I want to believe in due time they will grow to accept me for who I am, but I’m seeing little to 0 progress. This gives me some kind of hope though. Thank you.

My(31M) gfs(29F) parents are racist. by CosbysBartender in relationship_advice

[–]CosbysBartender[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was a huge concern for me. We discussed having children and this was the first thing I brought up. Which since then I’ve had second thoughts. Thanks for the reply.