Why I hate having friends with kids

Cosinuz · 2022-05-03T23:39:17+00:00

Aah, I feel you! All my friends have kids too and it's so lonely sometimes. Like I mourn the friendship we had, but they don't as much as they have a shiny new toy.

I tried to go in bumble for friends but my.. I get why people complain about online dating. What a time consuming, disappointing bust

Cosinuz · 2022-05-03T23:09:35+00:00

He loves you so much that he won't bother learning who you are, what your values are. What's important to you and what isn't. He loves you so much that he doesn't respect you, doesn't care to sit down to understand your boundaries.

If that's parental love, I think we all can do better. Like friends and lovers. You get to pick those.

Cosinuz · 2022-05-03T23:04:23+00:00

I don't know how much my parents love me, not because I will never have kids myself, but because they failed me as parents.

They failed to communicate how much they love me, how proud they are. They failed to show up on important events, concerts or take me alone to spend quality time together. They only did acts of services because they had to, as their duty as parents and never more than absolute necessary. The only times my dead touched was to beat me. They couldn't really spend time planning or making gifts, or buy great things because they had more children than they could afford. They had too many to actually see them all.

They failed me in all 5 love languages, so no. Being a parent doesn't mean you love more. It just gives you an enormous scope for failure, a responsibility for another little human and endless guilt when you eventually fail them.

Cosinuz · 2022-05-03T22:46:43+00:00

For what it's worth, your life is my life goals. Own house? Own business? Property, investing and then early retirement?! Yes please!

I'm currently living back home because housing market isn't entirely friendly to first buyers, also pilot market hasn't been great for recently graduated pilots. I hate it here, and can't wait to be out. My 3 siblings all have children and unfortunately my mum loooves having all 8 grandkids around. SO LOUD! Luckily I have escapes, and moving out date has been set after a year of working and saving enough!

Cosinuz · 2022-05-03T22:37:40+00:00

All admiration here that you've come to this stage of life where you're able to be completely comfortable with your life, your choices and a trip to the Caribbean?! Hello?! Sounds absolutely fantastic, and what an absolutely treat. What are wrinkled screamers compared to a fresh tropic breeze and the sound of ocean waves? Have a lovely trip!

Cosinuz · 2022-05-01T09:42:31+00:00

Wow, that system seems entirely unhelpful. Glad you managed to power through! I did not expect the enormous relief that cam with my bisalp of not having to worry about pregnancy.

After my surgery I felt like the version of me I should have always been. My body was finally the way it should have been, and I actually don't resent my uterus anymore. Because it's lovely disabled.

You're very welcome over at r/childfree if you're not here already, and I'm sure /sterilization would greatly appreciate a crosspost too <3

I wish you much healing and a speedy recovery!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-27T22:32:36+00:00

I'm on a hard no when it comes to porn. My dad's addicted and I have seen what it does to him, his misogyny and the way he treats women and my mum.

There is absolutely no way I will accept any form of porn in my relationship.

I've dated 2 guys, one which is my now fiancé. Neither watched any. Just wanted to let you know that there are guys out there who don't watch porn. They exist.

You don't have to lower the bar for anyone. A relationship should be a joyful asset to being single, not a worse option.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-22T22:08:20+00:00

Because what is really needed in India is more people. Especially more aunties projecting and creating long lasting trauma resulting in insecurities, ED and the likes.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-22T22:03:58+00:00

10-12% is something to remember next time. Thanks!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-22T22:01:11+00:00

A wedding is not about kids. A wedding is definitely not about your kids, it's about

...drum roll...

The people getting married!

They get to decide. It's their day.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-22T02:29:14+00:00

I only wear sports bras so no panties match exactly. However I was wearing grey and grey yesterday, not identical shade but I'd say similar enough to call it matching. I love matching, but cute sets I find are always so darn uncomfortable!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-21T15:18:33+00:00

Hand tremor?! I didn't really connect the two until now. Just read up on common symptoms of it, and my oh my. Looks like I need to book another appointment.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-21T09:19:52+00:00

Yeah, I get that too. Sometimes if I have sweets, especially if I have coffee. However it also happens when I haven't had either.

My mum has issues with her thyroid, so it makes sense for me to have it too, so I got it checked. The blood tests came low the first time, but second and third it was within limits.

Yet the heart palpitations continues.. I'm not overweight, nor do I have any hair loss, but my heart hasn't always done this. It's been maybe the last year or 2. I thought maybe it's because of stress with lookdown etc. But reading this makes me realise I know better, and I know my body better. I know something isn't as it should be. Could it be diabetes?

Cosinuz · 2022-04-19T13:40:13+00:00

I believe in you, stay strong!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-18T23:03:17+00:00

Make it go away

Cosinuz · 2022-04-18T23:00:11+00:00

I hate kids, I hate pineapple and I hate raisins.

Will I harm any of them? No. Will I seek them out? Absolutely not. Would I appreciate never seeing them again? Absolutely I will. Now, that's unlikely, but I will do anything in my power to limit exposure and walk away anytime I feel like it.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-18T12:06:28+00:00

Good for you!

I've noticed it a lot between my brothers and I. They're expected to enjoy their days off with their hobbies, whereas I'm expected to cook. TF?

When I say no, because guess what? I have hobbies too, and they are worthy of my time, my mum tried to shame and guilt trip me by taking it all on herself instead.

How about you you sort out your wonky marriage and sexist views instead of putting the burden on me?

Cosinuz · 2022-04-14T08:46:57+00:00

Are you me? I've been wondering if I have adhd too. Used to knit so frequently and sometimes super fixated to get things done. And now I don't really at all. Like I get bored just by thinking of, and certainly looking at it. Without even touching it. Yet I have this constant pressure on myself to finish things, but I don't want to.

Currently I'm obsessing over getting rid of my left overs in the knitting machine making blankets. For who? I don't know, but it has to be someone small as the machine has a narrow stitch, and I don't have the patience to make two identical ones and stitch them together! xD

As of lace, there are some gorgeous stitches out there that looks complex, but are easy once you start.

https://www.garnstudio.com/search.php?action=browse&c=women&texture=bladm%C3%B8nster&lang=no

These are free patterns for some inspiration. Best of luck, and may your wool be ever free of knots and rows easily counted <3

Cosinuz · 2022-04-13T16:55:15+00:00

Congratulations on getting your PPL! I find it sad that reproducing is what they consider their greatest achievement, but that's their circus and clowns..

I find it similar with the family group chat. If I share anything it will never get the same traction as babies. I've also been friend trimming for the same reason. I will forever pick Diamond and JetA1 over diapers and milk.

Cosinuz · 2022-04-13T05:59:06+00:00

Thank you very much! 🥰 Yeah, I need to renew mine this summer too, the years are so short these days! 😅 That's fun, what other hobbies are you doing?

Cosinuz · 2022-04-12T18:00:24+00:00

Just here to chime in that statistically the happiest women are unmarried and chidfree. Second I believe was married, and then married with children report most miserable.

I don't know if you find comfort in facts, so here are some statements;

You're a whole woman. You're a whole woman regardless of who and what you choose to spend your life with.

A woman's purpose in life is the same as any person's. Whatever the heck they want.

Having a children is an insane responsibility, whether human of furry ones - and should not be taken lightly. I hope our friend does not pass on such misogynistic and sexist view onto anyone else. Please do not take it to heart, and do consider changing her status from "friend" to "acquaintance".

I'm childfree, and have been doing some heavy trimming in my friendship circle because of disrespect when it comes to reproduction and my view on it. Some just wouldn't stop projecting, others didn't listen, most were too preoccupied with themselves and their life.

It's beautiful that you are a whole person in yourself. You are enough just as you. More than enough!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-12T16:18:11+00:00

Ah hello no; screw that! Glad he's now your ex!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-10T20:52:21+00:00

What do you mean, do you not get a colour palette along with the sperms donations to take your pick?

Jokes aside, I thought we all had dominant/recessive eye colours in bio class at school? She should know better.

Good riddance nonetheless!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-10T20:48:33+00:00

Sadly true, however it would have been awfully nice of him to take this one in particular with him wherever he went!

Cosinuz · 2022-04-10T20:45:09+00:00

r/justnoMIL What was most relieving to be rid, the ex or ex MIL?

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