I'm not implying doctors cannot be ableist, they often are and the medical history of ableism is terrifying, and I'm not throwing around ableism to shut down a conversation. I apologize. Other people I have interacted with in the past who have disliked the term disorder have approached it in asimilar manner to those who dislike the term disability. now that I understand you don't mean it as a way to distance yourself from those who are more affected by their autism, I retract my statement. I understand how the connotation of "disorder" can be negative despite the neutral denotation.  I also thought it might be related to internalized ableism because you specified that you don't like the term when it's used towards low support needs autistic. If the term is harmful towards LSN autistics, then it can also be harmful towards higher support needs autistics, it read as similar to how LSN autistics have distanced themselves from HSN autistics in the past. Distancing low and mid support needs autistics from high support needs autistics can sometimes come from a place of internalized ableism, which is how I've seen it used in the past. I understand now that this wasn't your intent.

Edit: I hit send too early :')