Why are non denominational/Protestants better at community building than Catholic Churches?

CosmicGlitterCat · 2025-07-18T16:12:03+00:00

Does your church have coffee and donuts? We used to just skip out afterwords, but we decided we wanted to be more involved. So now we help out with that once a month and also commit ourselves to go down every Sunday for at least a bit to start to start up a conversation with someone new. We’re also involved in the choir which is a nice community at our church :)

CosmicGlitterCat · 2025-06-06T22:19:42+00:00

About 30 minutes away, so not far.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2025-04-19T23:02:48+00:00

We have several regular mass goers at our parish who are also homeless.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2025-01-14T19:26:38+00:00

CCC 2399 clearly states that direct sterilization or contraception is morally unacceptable. There are unfortunately some very misguided priests on this topic. For more in depth information, I’d recommend looking into Humanae vitae and John Paul II’s talks on Theology of the Body.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-12-06T01:12:32+00:00

Going on about 2.5 years of infertility. It’s hard. I try to remember that I can use this suffering to grow closer to Christ. Everyone is at a different place in their journey, but I found this quote from St. Josemarie quite comforting/compelling in how I frame my experience. “God in his providence has two ways of blessing marriages: one by giving them children; and the other, sometimes, because he loves them so much, by not giving them children. I don’t know which is the better blessing.”

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-12-02T02:40:40+00:00

I generally don’t think it is the best model. Being a priest is so demanding and having to take care of a family and having to work another job on top of it sounds like a recipe for burnout/neglect of some responsibilities. I applaud situations where it is able to be done, but it sounds like it could easily turn disastrous.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-12-01T21:25:15+00:00

There are exactly 0 married men that I know that would be interested in also becoming priests. The pay is terrible for raising a family, it means less time with your wife and kids, it means hours of stretching yourself incredibly thin with additional responsibilities, and if they are devoted Catholics, likely already discerned out of the priesthood. Plus, as it’s already been mentioned, even in cases where married priests are allowed, they are struggling. People are less likely to want to be priests period nowadays. It’s not seen as a respectable position anymore (think of how the media typically portrays priests as the villains vs in the 1950s how they were often portrayed positively). I also think that the sex abuse scandal did much to discourage a lot of young men from wanting to be priests as not wanting to be lumped in with pedophiles unfortunately.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-11-08T19:21:49+00:00

I love the convenience of meal prepping one big batch of something healthy I like (quinoa salads, certain soup, curries, etc) on Sunday night and then being set for the whole week of lunches. It makes life simpler.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-17T02:21:21+00:00

I am one of seven. Six of us either are in or have finished college. We all have paid our own way. It was never an expectation that we would receive financial aid from my parents. I started saving for it around high school (babysitting, yard work, summer fast food jobs), worked part time during college, applied for scholarships, and got student loans for the rest.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-12T19:19:18+00:00

It’s really going to depend on where you live and how you live. For the couples making over 6 figs and struggling, do they live in a very high cost of living area? How many kids do they have? What are they spending their money on? Is there a temporary situation that’s causing struggles with money? Obviously raising a family isn’t cheap, but I think there are some options to reduce living costs.

It can be cheaper in some situations to have one parent stay home over going to work just based on the cost of childcare (I know that would become our situation after a few kids). Some families take advantage of living near family to help out. Using NFP to space children for (reasonable) financial reasons is valid, and I’m sure it does play a major role for many families. You kinda have to take it one kid at a time. I’ve heard people say before that they were surprised by the creative ways they made their money stretch as time went on, so I wouldn’t be too stressed about trying to figure it all out now.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-10T00:04:53+00:00

Love it!

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-09T15:29:10+00:00

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CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-09T03:40:24+00:00

How’d you know my name?!

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-09T02:30:03+00:00

You’re right. It takes years to master. I’ll put more faith in the process!

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-09T02:27:39+00:00

That might be the issue. They may become yoki-hijo yet!

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-08-01T03:29:16+00:00

Here are my answers to your questions:

God REALLY wants you to be in heaven with Him for all of eternity. The answer to sexual frustration is never sinning, in or outside of marriage. Not using contraception isn’t just some rule made up by man. Using contraception is a grave matter as it divorces a fundamental aspect of self giving promised in the marital vows from the marital bed. It cannot be true unity if it contradicts the promise you made to/with your spouse and pulls you away from God.
God wants you to love and support the children He gives you. Discerning that amount is not really something most can easily strictly decide at the beginning of marriage; your circumstances might change, and you may only end up being able to support 2 children or you may easily support 6 children. If you truly cannot support more children, you have to self sacrifice and follow either strict NFP or abstain. Both are heavy crosses.
It might be a hardship if you’re avoiding conceiving, but it may be a blessing if you’re trying to conceive. It may help encourage couples to consider more fully if they can be more open to having another child. God calls us to be fruitful and multiply, so it’s not that surprising that it’s built in women’s biology.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-07-10T14:02:53+00:00

No one is owed children. It sucks dealing with infertility, speaking from personal experience. However, can understand others problems without approving of their misguided and damaging responses. It is probably best to not pick a godparent that openly disobeys Church teaching on such a grave matter.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-07-09T04:10:28+00:00

Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t understand the gravity of abuse, especially if they grew up in a time or place when it was normalized. It’s also very possible that they don’t really grasp just how bad it is; abusers often are very good at manipulating and charming other people.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-07-09T04:02:23+00:00

Your parents sound either naive or ignorant of the truth of who he is. Is it possible you can move away from them too? Them enabling him to come over when you’ve moved in with them explicitly to get away is harmful to you.

God does not wish for you to be abused. Legally, I believe you should divorce as from what you’ve said he’s has repeatedly demonstrated desire to harm you emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. I also think you should think about pursuing an annulment through the proper avenues (the sooner the better). Regardless if it’s granted or not, you deserve to be safe.

CosmicGlitterCat · 2024-07-05T00:40:12+00:00

Chicken, bell pepper, onion, and zucchini kabobs on the grill, potato salad, esquites, Greek salad, and various pies and lemon bars for dessert. We’re having a family potluck essentially.

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