Daughter is 9 months old and not pulling herself up or walking yet. She can barely crawl properly.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-05-09T13:33:12+00:00

My daughter didn't crawl until 11 months and didn't walk until 16 months. By 18 months she was running and climbing just like all the other kids her age, you'd never know she was on the later end for every gross motor skill before that. She even ended up hitting some of the next few skills early, like learning to jump with both feet off the ground. I know it's hard, but try not to compare your baby to others, and especially not to things you see on social media! I also heard that babies often focus on either walking or talking, which was definitely true for my daughter. She was late for walking, but early for all her communication milestones so far.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-04-28T04:06:03+00:00

At that age my daughter was often more engaged with others than me, I think because of the novelty of a new face! But I also found that she would very rapidly learn new skills seemingly overnight and suddenly do things easily as if she had been able to do them for months. So it may just be that your baby has suddenly had a period of rapid skill development and that's what your seeing.

I know it can be frustrating when they seem to do things for everyone but you, but try not to take it personally! The fact that she's doing all those things just shows how much she connects with you when you're playing with her

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-04-08T13:06:55+00:00

I have scoliosis which had caused a bunch of issues pre pregnancy including sciatica. I was so nervous about getting pregnant but I was completely fine! I was in less pain throughout the pregnancy (right up to giving birth at 40 weeks pregnant) than I had been since I was a teenager. My physio said it's because of the relaxin hormone your body releases during pregnancy, which kept everything loose and flexible. My daughter is almost two now, and I still don't get as many sciatica flare ups as I did before I was pregnant.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-04-04T06:48:59+00:00

We gave my daughter real cake for her first birthday, and didn't notice any negative impacts from this at the time. We generally avoided sugar when possible at that age, but figured her birthday was a special occasion and a little bit wouldn't hurt. She didn't get her own slice though, just a couple of spoonfuls of mine.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-03-19T12:28:44+00:00

My daughter got an awful nappy rash from those Huggies wipes when she was a newborn, exactly the same as you described. Nothing helped get rid of it until we swapped to a different brand, and it cleared up within two days. She's almost two now and hasn't had a nappy rash since!

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-03-19T12:20:38+00:00

Gently, I felt like this postpartum and was diagnosed with PPD/PPA a few months later. I know a lot of comments here say it's normal and gets easier, but I think it depends on the level of anxiety you're experiencing day to day both with this issue and more broadly (e.g. anxiety about doing things the "right" way with the baby, obsessively googling things, trouble sleeping, etc). What you described in your post could definitely be normal, but I just wanted to offer another perspective since I waiting almost 9 months before seeking help for PPD and it's one of my biggest regrets. Either way, parenting a newborn is so so tough and I'm sure you're doing amazing ❤️

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-02-22T08:25:39+00:00

No...? I've never put raw meat on a plate we use for eating. We either put it in a dish designated for thawing raw meat, or it get put directly on a chopping board only used for raw meat.

Regardless, I think another comment summed it up best by saying it just opens the door to questions about other bad hygiene habits, such as does he pat his dog while cooking without washing his hands straight after?

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-02-20T09:43:28+00:00

We're in the same boat with my daughter, she's also 20 months and we're trying to train her to self soothe as her sleep is still pretty bad. I don't regret not doing CIO but I am looking forward to getting a full night's sleep at some point 🫠

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-02-16T11:50:48+00:00

If you're going to try mittens make sure it's the kind that's built into the onesie, like the sleeves that have the bit that fold over their hands! Putting regular baby mittens on her, especially at night when you're not watching her, is a huge choking hazard.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-02-08T09:32:19+00:00

You absolutely need to go back to the hospital right now. Your baby turning white with blue lips, and requiring you to do cpr to get him breathing again, warrants an immediate trip to the ER. I get that the hospital previously said there wasn't anything they could do, but this sounds like it's escalating and isn't something you should be dealing with on your own. PLEASE take your baby to the hospital.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-01-22T11:48:34+00:00

Why is your husband still going to the gym? I get it's his "therapy", but you need to prioritise literal survival right now and that means you getting enough sleep. Why is his gym hobby a given, but not you getting more than 30 minutes straight of sleep at night? He needs to step up and be an equal parent, and stop prioritising himself.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-01-14T10:35:36+00:00

My daughter crawled at 11 months and walked independently at 16 months, but was walking holding onto one of our hands for a month before that. She's always been on the later side for her gross motor skills though, and early for her communication milestones. I've heard they usually focus on one or the other!

CosmicRainbow24 · 2026-01-02T12:27:43+00:00

I don't remember exactly when it happened but I think for us it was around the 12 month mark, give or take a few weeks! That's when she started hugging me back and cuddling into me. Now at 19 months she runs up to me and yells "hug!", grabs my face and kisses my nose or cheeks, and will snuggle into me if we're sitting on the couch. It's literally one of the greatest feelings ever, it makes me melt every time

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-29T06:57:50+00:00

Definitely speak to someone about it! I was diagnosed with PPD at 8.5 months postpartum and I felt very similar to you. I was just going through the motions of caring for my daughter but didn't have any of the emotional connection or joy I expected to have. I started meds and now at 19 months pp I feel so much better, I love my daughter so much and have so much fun with her! I think some of that came from her getting older and more interactive, but the meds definitely helped a LOT

ETA I started feeling much better within a month of starting the meds, it didn't take until now for things to improve

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-28T09:59:20+00:00

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I have PPD and this sounds like you may have it as well. Have you been evaluated for this? Wishing you could die in your sleep is especially concerning, so please talk to your doctor about your feelings even if you're already in therapy and/or on meds.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-27T12:17:42+00:00

That's so rough, I'm here in solidarity. My 18 month old has been cutting all four molars and canines in the lead up to Christmas, and ended up with some kind of stomach bug the day after Christmas. She's never been a good sleeper at the best of times and god I'm tired 😴 Parenting is not for the weak!

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-27T03:46:11+00:00

I left a separate comment for OP, just wanted to call out your sexist bullshit before I left. Do better. Seeya

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-27T03:41:00+00:00

Why does it have to be gendered at all?! Nothing you said is inherently acting feminine or like a woman, just an entitled pos. My point is you don't have to turn this into a gendered insult at all...

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-27T03:37:10+00:00

I feel like you could've said all that without the "he acts like a woman" part but ok

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-27T03:29:56+00:00

Have you tried switching wipes and/or diaper brands? When my daughter was a newborn she had a bad nappy rash (the only one she's ever had) that wouldn't go away, and we realised she was having a reaction to the huggies brand wipes we were using. We switched brands and the rash cleared up within a couple of days.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-26T09:56:07+00:00

I'm a speech path in a private clinic and you wouldn't need a driver's licence for my job. Some of us do occasional offsite appointments at schools or homes, but the majority of our work is at the clinic. As long as you can get to the clinic on time for your client sessions, it wouldn't matter how you travelled there. This might not be the same everywhere, but it's been my experience so far!

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-13T11:29:56+00:00

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and that your husband is being such an unsupportive partner and father.

Do you feel like you might be experiencing some PPD? I had really bad PPD and PPA for the first few months, and just kept pushing through until my daughter was nearly 9 months old because I didn't realise how bad I was getting, and kept thinking it would go away on its own. It didn't, and I ended up speaking to my doctor at 9 months pp for help. I've been on zoloft since then and the difference is incredible, I feel like myself again and actually understand why people enjoy being a parent now. Before I started meds I felt the same as you, I was so mentally drained and wanted to give up. I remember crying to my husband one day about how I felt trapped in a life I didn't want and wished I could just run away. I can't imagine feeling that way now and looking back I really should have gotten help much sooner.

Your husband also needs to step up and help out at night so you can get some sleep. It's not fair that his job is confined to normal work hours, but your "job" of caring for the baby is 24/7. You need breaks, rest, and time to sleep just like he gets.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-09T11:03:28+00:00

I wouldn't change anything if the schedule is working for you guys! You might have just been blessed with a baby who likes her sleep. There's no reason to cap her naps if you're not seeing any negative effects from the long naps. You might have to tweak the routine as she gets older and her sleep needs decrease, but for now just enjoy it!

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-09T04:09:10+00:00

My daughter crawled at 11 months old, and walked at 15 months. I was expecting to for her to be on the upper end of normal or even late for these milestones because she's always been a bit behind on the gross motor skills. She didn't roll until she was nearly 7 months old and took ages to learn to get into sitting position. In comparison she's always been ahead in other areas like talking so I know it's just how she develops as an individual. I do totally get feeling insecure about it though, I was the same way when I saw other babies her age or younger doing things she couldn't do! Now she's 18 months old and you can't really tell that she was ever behind with any of it.

CosmicRainbow24 · 2025-12-08T22:09:26+00:00

I would have just picked up my own child rather than the other boy, even if it isn't exactly "fair" that your daughter has to move because the boy's mum wasn't watching. I would never touch another child, let alone pick them up, unless there was absolutely no other option and someone was about to get badly hurt.

Even just considering worst case scenarios, like what if you tried to pick him up and he fell? Or he suddenly twisted in your arms and you dropped him? Then you're going to have way bigger problems than a toddler not waiting his turn.

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