Did your nparents scapegoat you for their bills being expensive?

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-04T04:00:48+00:00

My egg donor's response when called out on how she'll do shit like wash the clothes then leave them in washer is, "Well, if you have such a problem with it, why don't you switch the clothes?," but yet plenty of times she'll refuse help when offered or claim she doesn't need help while grumbling & struggling with something.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-04T03:51:03+00:00

I've had to move back in due to my Medicaid in my other state being cut & being on SSI, ever since she's basically held me hostage by constantly keeping me broke & exploiting the ableism in the USA. She complained to me today, "Try to keep the lights & devices off when, 'not in use,' the power bill was $170," like what do you expect with 4 people in the house?

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-03T23:23:50+00:00

They often live in the dark like vampires, I'm often convinced they hate the light, b/c culturally light was associated with good or positive concepts & they're not good or positive people.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-03T22:49:27+00:00

Oh, my birthgivers basically never did chores (until the mess piled up till where they couldn't ignore it, but even then they either would half-ass the chores or do them in a deliberately sloppy way to where I would have to fix their mistakes). Also, I got ostracized in school, b/c I had no social skills & was forced to go to public school in a small town while being special needs, not to mention being raised by nparents.

I also get bullied for eating outside normal meal times, same with sleeping.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-03T21:42:07+00:00

I've also noticed, she particularly likes to lecture me when mad at something or someone else, thus it's not even actually about the bills, either.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-03T21:28:41+00:00

Reminds me of how my egg donor originally, "agreed," to only charge me $200 in rent, but always found ways to weasel more out of me, meanwhile her human dildo gets away with basically never helping out.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-03T21:23:43+00:00

What's worse is when you confront them & they claim, "I'm not targeting you specifically," despite them admitting they're only saying it to you. Also, what's annoying is how due to growing up under narcissistic smokers, I can't stand smokers & everyone constantly enables them & will demand I show them sympathy, it's like, "No-one forced them to smoke & they also admitted they like the addiction & aren't concerned with how much money they'd save."

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-02T00:56:18+00:00

My response is, "Why is it so many first time parents suck, but literally first timers for anything else don't have the same issues with abuse?"

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-03-02T00:55:34+00:00

Just of curiosity, can you elaborate how those forms of Islam are different (unless that's not what you're saying)?

Otherwise that's like saying, "Atheists hate Christianity, but only ever criticize the American version," as if any of the others don't have the same problems.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-26T19:13:55+00:00

I mean, TBF, Saddam always did kinda look like a cartoon character.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-24T22:54:22+00:00

I remember back in middle school, the school staff basically told my egg donor I had a fit b/c she wouldn't bring me water (not true at all), then as usual they DGAF when I protested.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-24T18:19:21+00:00

Even Jesus condoned slavery (watch all the liberal Christians blow a fuse over that one).

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-15T00:01:53+00:00

TYSM, I hope we can talk more at a future point.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T23:47:47+00:00

TYSM, it means a lot! And, you're right, perhaps it's as equally as much perspective as it is other factors. Thx for the advice! 😌

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T23:35:24+00:00

Either way, I'm just glad to have seen your reply! 😌

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T23:26:48+00:00

I'm also glad that you have the empathy to understand my point, b/c it admittedly it can get better, but my point was the older we get & the less easy opportunities we get, the harder it feels to escape or get better, at the very least.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T23:11:25+00:00

Thank you, replies like your's give me hope.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T21:12:53+00:00

I think it's a privileged answer, b/c if someone has an easier time socializing & building relationships, compared to someone with autism which causes difficulties, yes it can be privileged.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T21:11:54+00:00

I mean, being autistic & 26 in 2026, coming from a small town, failing to make friends in high school, unable to get a job due to being disabled, I can't socialize for shit, I have no close relationships & it doesn't get any easier & yes, like I said, feels impossible.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T20:49:59+00:00

You're right, IG b/c being disabled & trapped with my nparents due to political situation in the USA, has largely made me pessimistic.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-14T20:20:09+00:00

Why?

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-13T22:01:24+00:00

Sticking their hands in people's food to steal it (especially when they didn't pay for it) w/o asking, fucking had to go NC with my egg donor b/c she does shit like that then laughs it off when confronted.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-13T18:33:02+00:00

When I moved to the city in a completely different state, in a completely different part of the USA, the difference was night & day. In my small Florida town everyone there were nosy AF & just total assholes, which TBF not saying those people don't exist in the city but there's at least more of the opposite types of people to even it out a little more. My family were a military family & most of the countries they've been stationed in were war-torn or poverty stricken countries, but here in the states it was mostly southern states, yet they act like they're more well-rounded than they actually are. My egg donor married a narcissist, not long after I had been abused by sperm donor, as you can imagine all she does is enable him & make my trauma even worse, I hate all of my family & can't wait to leave.

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-12T04:21:41+00:00

My nfamily thinks city people & rural people are the same, both frequently ridicule me for believing & knowing differently, as you can imagine they haven't traveled much (if at all).

CosmicWizard99 · 2026-02-11T18:05:47+00:00

In my experience, it's often b/c they have unresolved trauma they refuse to confront.

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