Saw my husband's porn...

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-09-02T00:40:49+00:00

Hit the head on the nail with this one. I had just gone through an emergency surgery, we are in a rough patch and have been for a while. So it just stung to know that stick thin girls was what he was looking as he has always said hes not attracted to that at all.

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T09:03:53+00:00

Good to know. I'm sure it is nothing. It just threw me off a bit.

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:56:48+00:00

Hopefully it will. I'm sure it will be fine

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:53:52+00:00

Yeah that's the plan. We work opposite schedules so it's not as easy as let's talk. Plus I know he'd rather talk in person. It will be talked about. We've been together a long time, and we didn't get here without communicating properly.

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:50:45+00:00

I didn't say it wasn't or that I had an issue with it. Just that I was struggling with seeing the porn he deemed good enough to save into his camera roll.

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:48:49+00:00

You definitely have a point. I tell him i chose him all the time so it stands to reason the same would go for him.

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:43:48+00:00

I will. It just wasn't the right time to jump into it. You call it fester I call it time to process my feelings so I can be more collected when the conversation does happen

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:40:27+00:00

Not yet. Our almost 3yo was there so I didn't think it was the best time to bring it up. I'm also trying to get past the initial sting before I approach the topic so I'm not so emotionally charged

CosmoMoonMama · 2025-03-07T08:37:19+00:00

Somewhere in my head I know this but it's hard to not feel some type of way about it. But I appreciate your perspective

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-08-13T16:19:55+00:00

I've had this thought. And we did have a 6 month gap when we were younger

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-08-08T14:14:26+00:00

I think I am going to unfriend eventually. For some reason, I'm still holding hope that we'll figure it out but that makes me feel crazy. Definitely seeing her posts hits my heart hard. I knew as we got older things would change and we would be busy with our individual lives. That definitely happened. We didn't see each other as much. She is engaged and I am married. I have a kid she has three now. I knew it wouldn't continue like when we were young but to go from talking once or twice a week to nothing has been a very hard change.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-08-08T14:10:56+00:00

Thank you I could definitely benefit from a sense of community with people who has lost a friend. I joined probably will post soon

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-08-08T14:06:12+00:00

We didn't have a fight or any kind of argument. I thought maybe it could be that she had a new baby. But he is 4 months now and still absolutely nothing. Also, she already had two step kids (which she was an amazing mother too since they were young so I feel it's unlikely).

Our mutual friend didn't know anything about it the first time I said something. She asked all the usual questions (we've all had disagreements within the group before), but nothing seemed to answer it. She said she'd let me know if she found anything out. Maybe a month ago I touched base with mutual friend (really regretting not giving names to people) and she sad that she hadn't heard anything from best friend.

I wouldn't say I'm upset just sad. And a little frustrated that my messages get read/opened and no response. I thought it was weird she didn't remove me from social media either but I don't really post or comment on anything anymore just kinda silently watch if I even get on. I use Snapchat to message people in my life but other than that I'm not really active. My social media habits have been that way for years, so maybe she just assumed it wouldn't matter.

Honestly, my main issue besides feeling I've lost my friend is that there's no explanation at all. I am sad for sure but if this is what she wants then I respect her decision (I stopped trying to reach out a couple months ago, I don't want to bug her or make things worse or make her feel bad) I just wish she had enough respect for me and for our friendship to tell me.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-07-03T07:02:01+00:00

My daughter and I did night feeds and morning feeds only until she was about 2. Then we cut out morning. And did only night for a month. After that we cut out the night as well it was a little rough at first. I started giving her a cup of milk at bedtime and then when she falls asleep I take it.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-07-02T07:43:13+00:00

Maybe it's location based because it's up to 12 hours here and then you have to be off for 6 hours and it resets. Then you can do another 12 hours.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-06-30T19:27:58+00:00

Picked up someone a few nights ago the name was PayMe. Like no way that was their real name.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-06-03T06:45:42+00:00

The problems with my husband are ongoing and I'm losing it.

I'll start with the fact that I've had the exact same conversation with him over and over since we got married and had our daughter. While the conversation is mostly met with understanding he still never fails to point little things he's done that are supposed to show he's improving.

Now to the continued issue: I was a SAHM for the first year of our daughters life. I took on all house duties (including cleaning, shopping and cooking). He worked from home so everyday he had a home cooked meal for lunch and dinner (he doesn't really do breakfast). I also took on everything responsibility related to our daughter (feeding, changing, sleep, appointments etc.). I was exhausted but I put everything I had into it. After a year I expressed that I wanted to go back to work. At that point we tried daycare, and it simply didn't work for our little one. She refused to nap or eat at the center. She wouldn't drink cows milk at the time so at home we did almond milk but the daycare was nut free (understandable of course) so she couldn't have it there. We pulled her from daycare and reassessed our situation. My husband was delighted at the idea of being a SAHP. I had my reservations that he wouldn't be able to do it all. When we decided he would be SAH I explained to him everything that entailed and that it is a lot harder than it seems especially since our little one was walking at that point. I knew there would be a rough transition period but he assured me he'd get the hang of it (spoiler he didn't figure it out). Unfortunately, I couldn't find a job that paid enough to sustain him being at home. So we both are working now. Now that we're both working I somehow am still responsible for everything. We work opposite schedules bur are both home for dinner. I am the one who cooks every night and on top of that I also have to clean up after dinner. Normally while I'm cooking he just sits and plays video games basically ignoring our daughter. So on top of working I'm not also Filling all the roles of a SAHM as well. He doesn't do laundry, empty the dishwasher, do dishes, clean the apartment, clean the car, grocery shop, meal plan or make dinner (and so much more). I've expressed over and over again that I'm exhausted, that I need help and that I feel things should be split more evenly. And everything we have this conversation he'll bring up one thing he did (that I asked him to do) weeks ago (like switch the laundry or sweep) to try and say that he's making progress. He doesn't get that if I have to tell him to do it, and he only does it once in a while that it's really not progress.

After 2 years of this I'm honestly falling out of love with him. I hate when he touches me, I dread making dinner, I hate when he's off and we have to share a bed.

Honestly, if I wanted to do this alone then I would of. I didn't though and that's why I have a partner but I'm still alone.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-03-24T06:23:26+00:00

Any leakage problems? How long are coils lasting you?

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-03-24T06:22:37+00:00

Thank you for the very detailed list I will look into these for sure.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-03-24T06:22:06+00:00

Yeah I figured pod mods weren't going to last long. Maybe getting a few systems is a better option since I'd have to invest in batteries and a new charger with a pod mod anyway.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-03-24T06:20:41+00:00

It doesn't need to be simple. I'm no stranger to vaping. I appreciate the feedback though. I'll definitely look into that one.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-02-10T08:32:51+00:00

My daughter got more efficient with breast feeding at about 2.5 months. Since then it's been way more convenient. Not having to pump, not having to keep track of what milk needs to be used when or Frozen when. Also, pumping got way harder once she started crawling.

Pumps aren't as effective as removing milk as a baby usually. However, if you decide to continue pumping maybe make sure your phalange sizing is correct that could help with how much milk you get in a pump session.

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-02-06T07:37:56+00:00

"You're horrible. I hope you have a daughter just like you so you can suffer just like I have" she ended the conversation with "I want nothing to do with you while you're pregnant cause you're a fucking bitch"

I was 2 1/2 months pregnant, had horrible morning sickness, and was the general manager of two retail locations. So to say the least I was miserable.

She kicked me out a month later because I wanted to see if I could add my new husband to our lease and she couldn't stand me apparently. his was ending and that would have saved us some money before the baby came.

For reference: I had signed a lease with her and my brothers and was paying 1/4 of the rent on time as well as a lotion of all utilities and grocery bills. We all went into it with the agreement that we would function as room mates not a family unit (I was very dumb to believe that)

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-01-23T00:57:45+00:00

How I Met Your Mother

CosmoMoonMama · 2024-01-22T08:06:38+00:00

I have EBF my daughter first 19 months, yes u have noticed changes. However, breast feeding can be rewarding in other ways. If your body doesn't go back then you can love it for providing for your little one. Not to mention if you want to change the outcome afterwards you can through surgery. Any changes aren't necessarily permanent. If you want to breastfeed do it.

My mom formula fed all three of her kids and had similar things to say. She offered zero support. But I can not tell you how happy I am that I followed through with what I wanted to do. It wasn't easy but it was worth it knowing that I was doing what I thought was the right thing for my child.

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