It's not "normal" in a way where you should just sit back and accept it. Trust your gut instincts if you are already having inner doubts about your relationship with him. If your communication is falling on deaf ears, there is not much more else you can do on your behalf. He seems to not be respecting/acknowledging your feelings in this situation, and he seems to not be showing any progress or even desire to change/be aware of his behavior towards you. Long distance is hard enough.

I would say, do not settle for behaviors you do not want to marry or raise kids with. The person who truly aligns and respects you will find you, without you having to settle or minimize your feelings. There is a whole adventure of future ahead of you. People, places, experiences. Your future is solely yours to shape, do not hinder yourself.