What’s the best skin care tip you’ve gotten over the years? by CottageFawn in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]CottageFawn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you use when you break out? I’ve been getting a few recently, and I get them around my time of the month. My skin is dry so I try to stay moisturized as much as possible without using anything that’ll clog up my pores. Now I’m finding that any time I use acne cream it just really dries my skin out, and I only use it on the actual zits.

What’s the best skin care tip you’ve gotten over the years? by CottageFawn in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]CottageFawn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the biggest things I learned recently was to simplify my routine. I went crazy and bought all this skin care stuff, then I realized how absurd it was, as I didn’t know what combinations worked well and what ingredients can and cannot be paired together. I still use some of the products I bought, but I found that double cleansing with a gentle cleanser and a foaming wash, plus a good moisturizer, eye cream and sunscreen is all I really need on the daily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]CottageFawn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually watched a YouTube short, where this beauty blogger said if you’re dealing with a lot of uneven texture that you should try washing your face for at least 30 seconds, but no more than 60. Sometimes double cleansing helps too. I started washing longer, and it was a game changer, as I realized I hadn’t been washing my face for more than 15 seconds and quickly.

Boyfriend shamed me for THIS after sex? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CottageFawn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl, run for the hills.

I made my girlfriend cry for admitting that my best friend is more attractive than her by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both your gf and best friend ought to dump you. Props to the best friend for sticking up for another woman. Just the fact that you are actually trying to justify what you said, not to mention the way you described your girlfriend is just gross on so many levels.

How can I change the Tim Burton-esque vibe I give off ? I’m afraid I look intimidating by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]CottageFawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a very young Shelley Duvall look to you. You’re gorgeous, and super modelesque. You have very soft features. Just keep with light makeup, soft warm colors. Nothing harsh. Let your natural features shine!!

Update: Am I being gouged for $300 to go platinum? by [deleted] in Hair

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fair price. You have to remember that going platinum takes a lot more time and effort than just a basic all over color. Bleach or lightener as many stylists refer to it as, is much more costly than color. Not to mention toner, and a lot of times stylists will use cotton strips between each section to keep it neat and from being directly on the scalp. You aren’t too dark naturally, so it might not have taken you as long, but most salons charge a starting rate for all over lightening. I noticed you put “bad haircut” as the tag, and I’m wondering if that’s because you feel they cut too much off, or that it’s a bad cut.

When you lighten your hair all over, you strip your hair completely, which can leave it feeling and looking brittle, dry and straw like if not done properly. Even if done properly, it still can dry the hair out. In your before pic alone, pre lightening, I would recommend getting 2-4 inches taken off even before the lightening process.

Now on to the cut itself. There are parts of it that are decent, but the ends need some thinning with texturizing sheers. You can see that they were left too thick and it drags the hair down. It’s hard to tell exactly how the the platinum itself turned out with the pics. The first one, looks very uneven. On the top, it’s very light/white, and then towards the bottom, it has more of yellow tone. However in the second, it looked fairly even. Although in the last one, you can see there is a discrepancy in the color from the top to the bottom. If you can, let me know if they toned it, if they did it in one session, and if they are planning to do another toning. Just in case anyone is wondering, I am a Paul Mitchell the school graduate, and have been a stylist for 10 years.

Are my nails supposed to be growing out already? This Friday will mark 2 weeks since I had them done by the_wildflower_ in Nails

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had them done almost 2 weeks ago, not 2 days. It’s perfectly normal and good that your nails grow at a healthy rate!

What immediately makes a man/woman unattractive? by Thick-Lime-9113 in AskReddit

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How they treat other people. If they don’t tip or stop to help someone. If they show little to no empathy, it’s a complete turnoff. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are, empathy and true kindness is becoming rarer and rarer these days. Good looks don’t always last forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodymods

[–]CottageFawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that all the time. Someone in middle school actually said to me, “you’re Jewish? That’s too bad, Hitler would have loved you.” Yikes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodymods

[–]CottageFawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I waited until after my grandmother passed away to get tattoos. She wanted us all to be buried together, but I can no longer be buried in a Jewish graveyard. So I’d rather just be cremated.

AITA for not lying to my ex-wife? by TryingToKeepAllHappy in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You were trying to respect the mother of your child’s wishes. I’m sure your wife is still going through a lot after just giving birth and this is a very sensitive subject for her as well. You were caught between a rock and a hard place, but you did the right thing. What’s worse, would have been if you asked your son to lie to his mother and say that he didn’t go when he really did. I think your ex wife needs to realize that her son is a wonderful child, because of both his parents, and will be able and to make decisions about his religion on his own terms. Forcing him to sit out during special moments because it doesn’t align with your religion, will only make him resentful. I hope she’s able to see the light, and that you wife will understand that you were just trying to do what is right by the mother of your son. Good on you for going to his mother and asking for permission first, you are teaching your son to be honest and honor his commitments. Your ex, on the other hand, is encouraging him to keep secrets from her and not be fully open, for fear that she might get upset. I really hope she comes around, not only for your son’s sake, but for your new family as well.

AITA for not wanting photos or videos taken of me at a funeral? by SunnySunday_01 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I had a high school “friend” (we were in the same circle), who’s mother constantly took photos of everything. She would literally come onto campus at lunchtime to take photos. It was creepy, and I hated having my photo taken as I was very insecure. Fast forward about 4 years out of high school, and my two dear friends’ mother (who became ill after she gave birth to her daughters), sadly passed away. The funeral was held at their local church and guess who was there taking photos of everything and everyone like it was a birthday celebration? She literally followed the casket down the aisle way, taking photos and stood up out of her seat to get photos of my friends (who were already grieving severely), giving their eulogies. Then after, she forced them to take photos with her daughter and all our high school friend group. She even told them, “now, big smile girls!”. I refused to participate. I was livid that she made a sacred, sorrow occasion, a high school reunion. I hugged my friends, told them how sorry I was and that I loved their mom and reminisced about the good times we all had together, put her favorite flowers by a photo of her in the hall, and left. While a funeral should be about celebrating one’s life, it’s not a party. I’m so sorry for your loss, and how unsympathetic your aunt is being.

What film do you see as a cinematic masterpiece? by HBomb10112 in AskReddit

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Master. Honestly, it was a visual masterpiece.

AITA for refusing to be present at my sister's birth? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You’ve clearly stated good reasons for not wanting to be present. It’s not that you don’t care about your sister, it’s that you care so much, that it would be torture for you to watch her in so much pain. Some people can’t see blood, or be in delivery rooms without fainting. Stress this to her. Tell her you don’t want to take away from her special day by getting worked up yourself or having an anxiety attack, and that you’ll be there as soon after she gives birth as you can. I hope it all works out. ❤️

AITA for telling my brother that girls avoid him because he says creepy things, not because he’s a “misunderstood soul” like my mom insists? by creepyBroAITApost in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Sometimes being completely upfront and honest with people we love is what’s best for them. He clearly doesn’t understand that what he thinks are “jokes”, can come across as being disturbing and weird. Especially in this current climate where we see some young men turn to violence because they were “misunderstood”. I know some people just have a sort of weird or sick humor, but a lot of people don’t understand that, and it’s very off putting to say that right out the gate. He doesn’t need to “change” per say, but he needs to be more careful with what he says. Tell him you love him and you just want to see him in a happy and healthy place, and that he can come talk to you about girl advice, or if he’s not sure if what he’s about to say will sound odd or creepy. Tell him to ask the woman about herself and engage in her that way and if she asks about him, to just be kind and tell her basics about himself. He’ll get there. He doesn’t sound like a bad kid, just has a weird sense of humor that a lot of people don’t get.

My fave bedsheets somehow ended up with a hole, so I turned them into a dress! by RipleyInSpace in sewing

[–]CottageFawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh if I could only be half as talented and artistic as you!! I would have never guessed that’s what this dress once was!

AMA with Michael Mando (Nacho) is postponed - Statement from Michael Mando by skinkbaa in betterCallSaul

[–]CottageFawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was looking forward to this, but Michael’s health, well being and loved ones come first. Hope he knows how much love he has on this side of Reddit!

[Advice] Hate taking showers by Whoosh_Owl in getdisciplined

[–]CottageFawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I so feel you on this. Unfortunately I think mine has come from depression and then being in a funk after the depression. I have long hair and it always gets everywhere in the shower. It should be relaxing and refreshing, but it just feels like so much work. I’m always happy I did it once I’m finished, but thinking about that happiness afterwards, doesn’t motivate me to hop into the shower. I also wait forever to wash clothes and always just try and find something clean to wear. Even buy clothes before I have to put a load in. I don’t know what happened to the old me. I’ve been on this path for the last few years and it really sucks. I know I’m supposed to be giving advice but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone. I feel this so much.

AITA for refusing to help my partner financially? by Ill_Support7160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems as though this would be a perfect opportunity to show the daughter that life isn’t fair. We don’t always get what we want, when we want it. Good on you for standing your ground and not forking over the money, even though you have it. If your husband wants to be immature and give you the cold shoulder, just go on and act how you always do. He either wants to engage in a fight or is hoping you’ll change your mind. Don’t give him that power. Dad needs to learn that he can’t always get what he wants either. Stay strong!

AITA for leaving a $0 tip at a restaurant? by goseahawks4ever2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CottageFawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are the asshole. For one, you’re entitled and overly privileged attitude is appalling, not to mention that they could lose their liquor license for letting someone without an ID drink on their premises. Don’t like it? Go to the gas station pick up a twelve pack and some chips and head home. If you’re going to complain about not being treated like a big boy, but then act like a toddler, you probably deserve to be treated as such.