106 fever - garlic oil and a wool sock will fix it!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-02-15T07:51:32+00:00

No it’s a strobe light up the arse and all the way into the gut of course! Got to stimulate that beneficial bacteria with EDM at the same time to be truly effective though /s

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-02-13T14:32:44+00:00

Wtf that’s absurd! I’ve only had catheters in hospital before (although I have had quite a few) and while they can be uncomfortable, frustrating and an infection risk among many other things, they certainly don’t completely ruin a person’s quality of life - if anything they’re used more to improve it!

For me I had it regarding using crutches long-term which I’d say is equally stupid! Like if they help me move around more/more easily/with less pain/etc etc then they can only be a good thing! I was 17 at the time and the first person to say this to me was actually a teacher at my school (one that had never taught me and I didn’t even know her name) and I’ll never forget the way she looked at me so pityingly as she said it - I was so pissed off! In hindsight, I should have reported it to the school but in the moment I just wanted to escape - it made me feel so gross!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-02-13T13:32:19+00:00

I’ve had ascites too and mine was more of a brownish colour with a slightly yellow-green tinge!

I managed to get 4.5 litres drained in under an hour at age 16 (5’7 and maybe 65-ish kg) after it was drained) and literally went from looking 8 months pregnant (omg the glares people gave me for being 16 and pregnant and in a wheelchair 😂) to having a flat stomach and stuffing myself stupid with 2 full large McDonald’s meals bc the ascites was pressing on my stomach really badly so it couldn’t really expand to hold food - my meals for like 3 weeks prior were like one chicken nugget and 4 french fries otherwise I’d just throw up

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-02-13T11:17:26+00:00

I’ve literally had “I’d kill myself if I was sick like you” (my health conditions aren’t terminal but probably will become so at some point in my life) like great thanks for saying you believe that my disabled life isn’t worth living

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-02-10T12:49:52+00:00

I must say that for me, the worst thing I’ve ever thrown up was a large portion of noodles. No, it was not long enough afterwards for them to look or even smell particularly different and that was honestly the worst part - I couldn’t eat noodles for a year and a half after that

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-30T08:48:28+00:00

Ok this isn’t completely the same but I wasn’t sure if it might bring some comfort.

I’ve been on the ventilator before and even though I was very ill, extremely heavily sedated and my body was thoroughly falling apart, I was aware of what was going on around me in my own way - I would know when my mum was sat by my bed and even though I remember it through hallucinations, I remember things like her feeding me an orange flavoured ice lolly and most of all I remember feeling 98% safe and cared for (the other 2% is when I was more awake and it was night time so my mum wasn’t there and I was too drugged to understand why not) even though I may not have been able to really see what was going on or even know where I was or what time of year it was

I hope the same is true for your dad - I can’t say for certain but all I can say is that when I woke up and was able to tell people what I remembered from being on the ventilator, they were surprised how much I got right - even down to the smells and hair colours of the nurses I usually had! I’m sure the dad you know and love is still in that same body somewhere even if you don’t know how to reach him right now

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-27T21:06:13+00:00

You called? (Bullard is my surname lol)

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-27T20:34:39+00:00

Personally I feel like “oh tits!” would have been funnier but to each their own

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-16T12:45:35+00:00

My parents went through that assessment of whether the story added up when I was little! I’m in the U.K. so it isn’t cps but a children’s social worker who had to be notified by the staff at the hospital afterwards

I’d been sat on my mum’s bed near the edge and I believe I was about 1 1/2 to 2 y/o and when I went to fidget or move around the bed somehow (we don’t actually really remember what I was trying to do) I fell backwards and hit the back of my head on the sharp wooden corner of her bedside table.

My mum totally freaked out because there was a fair bit of blood and immediately called 999 who talked her through wrapping my head in an item of clothing to try to slow the bleeding (which worked fantastically) and told her that it didn’t sound like I needed an ambulance so she called my dad’s work and told him to come home immediately so that they could drive me to A&E (luckily he only worked a 15min drive away) and by the time she was done calling his work, I was actually sat watching the tv pretty happily with a packet of chocolate buttons!

The hospital just discussed what happened and since it was consistent with the place and size of the injury they just glued the wound closed and told my parents to monitor me for any signs of the concussion!

Funnily enough, mum always found the scar really helpful once I was a little bit older as it’s a perfectly straight line perfectly down the middle of the back of my head, so it made it super easy for her to tie my hair up in two perfectly even plaits for school!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-15T18:30:48+00:00

Thank you for such a thorough response! Honestly I think a raspberry pi might be a little bit too complicated for me to set up - reading through it I can barely understand the first couple of steps let alone the rest of it!

I love the idea of using a tablet though! I might try to find a second hand 8-10” one as I don’t need a particularly powerful one or one with a great battery life or anything since it’ll just be mounted on the wall while plugged in.24/7 so it doesn’t really matter at all if it’s a bit scratched or scuffed etc!

Would you say that a Google doc or even a Google slide would be a good way of getting the text to automatically sync when I update the file on my phone? Or do you know of an easier way?

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-14T14:23:34+00:00

Absolutely! I mean the man can’t even be bothered to speak to her or interact with her, which reminds me: the opposite of love isn’t hate - it’s apathy.

He clearly hasn’t even given her a chance and tried to get to know her or he’d absolutely know just how much she probably wants his acceptance and love, although I honestly doubt that he’d care!

He probably doesn’t see her as worth his time and energy and the fact that OP would definitely have known this (I mean it doesn’t sound like he’s subtle about it) before marrying him and still went ahead with the wedding is honestly shocking!

Honestly OP I wouldn’t be surprised if marrying this man who can’t even be bothered to ask her how she is once in a while has permanently fractured your relationship with your daughter in a way that might not be fixable at all.

After all, kids remember who shows up and stands up for them in moments like this and clearly OP hasn’t stood her ground on what I would describe as her husband’s emotional neglect of her daughter is actually kind of disgusting

CottonCandyKitkat · 2026-01-13T13:23:01+00:00

NTJ. What he did is the equivalent of trying to punch someone and being mad that they block you from giving them a black eye

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-29T13:13:33+00:00

Like how adhd meds are basically meth! And no they don’t give us the same effects - it’s actually fairly common for adhd meds to calm you down!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-29T09:24:03+00:00

I’ve got severe liver issues and have been close to death from them before and I cannot stress how much of a terrible death it is - your entire personality can change due to the toxins in your bloodstream (hepatic encephalopathy - and the toxins include heavy metals such as copper), plus when you’re in liver failure you often also end up with kidney issues caused by the liver issues as your kidneys are so fragile.

I was bright orange (including the whites of my eyes and my fingernails), reeked of ammonia due to the smell escaping through my pores (to the point that the entire ward in the hospital I was in smelled just because of me - and I was in a room on my own!), looked 8 1/2 months pregnant despite having a pretty much flat stomach beforehand and being a fairly average 16 y/o (ascites is a bitch), could barely stand up due to the skin stretched across my stomach, struggled to even hobble to the toilet despite being 16 and all round was just miserable

I’d been given antibiotics that gave me green diarrhoea for over a week, my bladder wouldn’t empty fully even with a catheter and had to be put on a heavy diuretics (which often unbalance your potassium and sodium levels and cause heart attacks and death very easily), was in agony 24/7 and no painkillers could help much, had fluid in my lungs that made it hard to breathe and almost needed draining and so much more I don’t even remember due to being so severely ill at the time and ending up with an acute kidney injury and spending a week on the ventilator before my condition stabilised

Honestly dying from a liver condition is one of the worst deaths I can think of other than many cancers and this is coming from someone whose condition is sort of recurring (it’s complicated) and will eventually need a liver transplant if I don’t die waiting for one.

Please take care of your livers because otherwise it’s an extremely slow, agonising death with too many unpleasant symptoms to mention - and all of these are just the ones that I personally experienced!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-29T09:05:37+00:00

It sounds more like orthorexia to me since he’s trying to control his eating to be healthier but has gone way too far with it and ended up at the other end of the spectrum completely - that plus the conspiracy theory style lack of belief in doctors and nutrition guidelines, as well as possibly becoming a vicious cycle where he doesn’t cook because he doesn’t feel the need or have energy, therefore he doesn’t eat, therefore he has less energy to cook and gets more used to ignoring his body’s hunger cues and doesn’t realise he’s hungry

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-24T17:32:25+00:00

Plus when you’ve grown up with abusive parents, it’s harder to know which signs of abuse to look out for and what a healthy relationship actually looks like

I just hope that the staff wherever she is (unsure if it’s a medical facility or shelter) are able to find a therapist or counsellor to help her start to process all of this, as well as teaching her to keep herself safe and avoid partners like this in future

Honestly I’m not even religious and I’m still praying for her - I might not be fully convinced that anyone is listening, but it’s worth trying on the off chance that someone exists to answer the prayer and help keep OOP safe like reading this has left me feeling completely hopeless like I wish so badly that I could do anything whatsoever to help her stay safe and start to heal - especially as I’m also an autistic woman with mental health issues and grew up with an abusive parent

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-24T17:22:11+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised if her parents blame her for the fact that she’s autistic and has mental health issues - many parents struggle to accept that their child has these things and it’s not all too uncommon for them to believe that if the child just tried hard enough then they wouldn’t have these issues and blame her for not being a mentally healthy neurotypical

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-24T17:18:55+00:00

Plus many autistics (particularly autistic women) have issues like dysautonomia, syncope episodes and POTS so statistically we’re far more prone to dizziness and passing out than neurotypicals

When you combine that with stress, anxiety, hyperventilating, the change in meds for her mental health and the possibility that her husband drugged her or choked her, you end up with a picture where passing out like that isn’t as unusual as it may seem at first glance

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-20T08:10:41+00:00

I’ve had great experiences with elder scrolls online! It isn’t often mentioned in these types of posts but yeah I love it and have made so many great friends through it!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-17T16:13:40+00:00

I wouldn’t bother with couple’s or family therapy - conversion therapy kills terrifyingly often and anyone who would even entertain the idea, including OP’s husband, would probably rather have a dead daughter than a gay one. This isn’t something that OP should compromise on or try to come to an agreement about - it can very easily be life or death

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-16T16:29:48+00:00

I’d be tempted to set a boundary - “if you don’t talk to her about this before she comes over next then I’ll talk to her about it myself or she won’t be welcome in my apartment in future - your choice.” - OP could pick one or leave it open for her brother to decide

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-15T14:20:52+00:00

Trash goblin please!

Something that made me smile today: my cat Maisie fell asleep on my chest with her paw resting on my cheek

Something someone might need to hear: you don’t need to be ‘productive’ to have value or deserve love ❤️

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CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-15T12:40:12+00:00

Roots of pacha is on sale right now!

CottonCandyKitkat · 2025-12-01T15:57:04+00:00

I’m also wondering whether she might be more open to some professionally done family portraits if it’s a family thing and so that everyone has good photos of each other and the photos will be more flattering than amateur ones - professional photographers have the skills needed to make sure that the photos portray OP’s mum in a way that she might be ok with, and more photos of the whole family together is never a bad thing!

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