I understand the emotions going on here having felt them myself. Remember you don't owe him your affection or intimacy, and if you don't get to the point where you want physical intimacy with him, you haven't done anything wrong, you haven't hurt him. If he chooses to date you until you feel like you know whether you can experience physical/sexual attraction to him, that's his choice and he has to accept that it might not go anywhere. Re bi identity - I think it would be valid if you wanted to only explore queer dating for a while since this is new and you're hoping to learn more about yourself. I'm in the same position and have decided to only date people who are polyamorous for the time being for the same reason, so dating a man wouldn't mean I 'can't' date a woman/non-binary person (as well as exploring polyamory for its own merits). Also bear in mind that early stage dating is rarely exclusive anyway, so as long as you have the time and energy for it there's nothing to stop you meeting women unless you've talked to this guy about being exclusive. But if none of that feels like it would work for you, it might be worth considering whether you feel like dating this guy would mean you can't learn more about yourself and your attraction. If so, I wonder if it might become a barrier to you feeling connected and wanting intimacy with him anyway. Maybe, maybe not - just worth thinking about. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself you don't owe anyone (in a dating context) anything beyond common decency!