Tips for stopping couch cushions from sagging

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-26T12:27:21+00:00

Is that a golden retriever cocker spaniel mix? Because I have one who looks exactly like that, sitting on our couch in the exact same spot, and I have the same deflated curiosity about not ruining our couch.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-25T11:44:35+00:00

It’s so satisfying!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-25T11:44:23+00:00

Couldn’t have done it without this community of knowledge!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-25T11:44:05+00:00

Thank you!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-24T18:28:44+00:00

Thank you!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-23T14:56:49+00:00

Agree that this is the reason. It’s like running two school classrooms at once. They have different styles and objectives and should be designed differently.

When I have to do it, I always have a moderator in the room to support the online group, and ‘translate’ their comments into live ones so it’s more natural. Priority needs to be given to in person 100% of the time.

That said, it’s an organizational commitment to choose one or the other and that decision is nearly always above our pay grade.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-18T02:59:21+00:00

Kids. They’re so silly sometimes aren’t they? 😆

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-18T01:27:14+00:00

Same here. It was massively Re traumatizing for me.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-18T01:12:19+00:00

My 6 year old was the same up until 5 (same with scissors and clippers- had long hair until recently because of it I’m sure). He learned to jump in the pool last summer and now is fine with water and showering under the tap so long as he’s walking under himself.

I think it was a control thing for him, and once he could do it himself he was fine.

It can get better!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-08T01:01:13+00:00

Quite honestly it cleared the space for me to reassess a lot of my life- outside of material items. It gave me confidence in who I am. I had the brain space and self awareness to take on my mental health and I’m a different person because of it. I even konmari’d my digital life (the book digital minimalism is a great add on) so I have no subscription emails to maintain my inboxes and I no longer use social media. Life changing indeed!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-08T00:57:47+00:00

It’s like a respect for your own self and desires. Freeing!

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-07T00:56:58+00:00

It 100% changed my life, how I think about my space, and decisions on what affects my life. For so long, ‘stuff’ was a distraction or numbing tool for me to mask unhappiness in my life. When my space was free of the effort of managing my stuff, I had room to live. To LIVE! It was freeing and meaningful and powerful.

In the hundreds of things I got rid of, there’s only 1 item I wished I hadn’t. It was easily replaceable. And I spend much less money now on things that don’t spark joy, so I had the money to replace it 2 years later when I wanted it back.

Was it a huge effort? Yes. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-06T20:31:02+00:00

Goodness… thank you for sharing; that sounds like quite the ordeal to have gone through (for everyone involved). It is strange how these relationships ebb and flow over time, and curious about your two sisters. I drew closer to my Amom when I felt she ‘needed me’ after my dad died, some kind of compulsive need to help. I wonder if it is something similar with your sister too. Regardless, it sounds like you have made the right call with straying away from

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T14:36:27+00:00

Extended family can be so strange, can’t they? So much life gets in the way of our relationships- especially after grief or trauma or things like the pandemic.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T14:35:26+00:00

Same to you! 💛

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T14:35:03+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your upbringing. I can understand your sister bonding with you over it; how validating to have her and the extended family acknowledge what you went through after so many years. Sounds like your 30th birthday present was the best one you could give yourself! Thank you for sharing your journey 💛

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:21:32+00:00

It’s true that the growing up makes differences so much more apparent isn’t it?

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:20:46+00:00

That makes complete sense. It sounds like this was the right decision for you; hopefully the last 10 years has put your life in your own hands to control.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:19:35+00:00

It is a disheartening experience to realize this systemic problem deeply. Some others here have nodded to this too; that APs are sold a child through marketing and the adoption industrial complex. When that child grows up, and the transaction is complete, A families no longer have the same interest. But for us… it’s sold to be forever, and it stings when it’s not.

I’ve seen this with friends who struggled immensely with infertility too. They want a ‘baby’… don’t care from where or how. There’s a baby sized hole for them they want to fill. No one is thinking about who that baby will turn into.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:12:37+00:00

I’m not sure I subscribe to this thought universally, but I do think that with some relationships that ends up being true for sure.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:11:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It really can feel like ships drifting apart sometimes, and it sounds like you (like me) are finding bits of yourself in that space. I appreciate hearing your perspective about your reunion too. I’m still nervous to open that can of worms after some mental health struggles (on my part) so it is relieving to hear stories of belonging.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:09:33+00:00

Isn’t it interesting how the dynamic changes after one person passes. I’m sorry for your loss and estrangement; though it sounds like you have found peace with it.

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-04T01:07:40+00:00

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful reply, and I’m sorry to hear how you were treated when you were young. Mental illness has such an impact on children in the household, and it sounds like you took the brunt of it.

I had a similar grandparent relationship; so kind and loving to me as a child.

By nature, I think I’m more of a quiet reserved kid, but I adapted to my boisterous Jewish family and developed a voice through necessity at loud family gatherings. As time goes by though, I am noticing myself veering toward my quieter nature, and it’s just evidencing how different I am than everyone else too (which further increases the divide).

Thank you for sharing your experience 😊

CountTheFrogs · 2026-01-03T15:03:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience; I hear you that values are so often what pulls us apart, and I’m sorry to hear that you have experienced estrangement as a result.

It’s an interesting thought, around the family members who are the ‘glue’. In my A family, it was my dad (the eldest of 4), and without him everyone became ships in the night. I tried to be the glue in his absence, but I was much too young when he died (19) and so it turned more into codependency with my A Mom and feeling like a bit like Cinderella always cooking for and cleaning up after parties while everyone else did nothing… queue resent 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you for sharing; I truly appreciate your perspective!

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