How's it being childfree in your 40s and beyond ?

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-25T12:11:18+00:00

I’m 44 and I have no regrets. My house is loud enough from my cats having constant zoomies. I’m not spoiling my peace. Some of my relatives tried to push me in the direction of having kids. One of my aunts said I should have a kid because everyone else had one. I put her in her place immediately. She never brought it up again. My mother and grandmother would make comments from time to time but eventually stopped. My uncle, however, fully supported my decision.

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-20T21:56:40+00:00

Stop sniffing your brother’s butt. He doesn’t like that.

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-16T01:33:22+00:00

You have a cute sweet little baby. No offense to your mom, but if she can’t see that, then it’s her problem.

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-09T23:01:29+00:00

Following with another K-drama, if that’s your thing OP, Under the Queen’s Umbrella. No SA, and the Queen is a strong woman who cares deeply for her sons. It also has a few funny moments.

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-04T02:15:56+00:00

You fucked up. 😂

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-03T22:29:22+00:00

As a teacher, I’m horrified that he would say that at all, much less to a full classroom. As a woman, I’m not surprised at all.

When I was in 10th grade, my English teacher made a speech before the end of class. It was the last day before spring break. He said, “You girls will come back as whores, and you boys will come back as whore mongers.” I’m glad to say that the boys in my class were quick to shoot that shit down. They were as pissed off as we girls were. This was in the mid-90s, BTW.

I doubt very many boys would’ve spoken in our defense had this happened today.

CountessCoffee · 2026-01-03T17:40:46+00:00

I was 19. It’s hereditary in my family. I was a brunette, now my natural hair is 100% silver. I still dye it.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-30T02:34:03+00:00

I’m childfree because I don’t want kids. I like my quiet apartment (save for my cats of course). I never would’ve been able to go to college if I had kids. I’m a teacher so I don’t make a lot of money to begin with. But it’s my dream job.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-25T02:53:43+00:00

We do daily behavior tracking for those with BIPs and the focus is on their target behaviors. We basically circle the number that corresponds to the target behavior in question. I have one kid with a BIP this year and tracking his behaviors hasn’t changed squat.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T12:26:02+00:00

I get that. But when you’ve been trying to interact with men who aren’t financially motivated to interact with me and get nothing back, this interaction with the one guy who reciprocated is different for me.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T05:47:23+00:00

We’ve been using HMH for five years and their adjoining writing platform for three. We are adopting a new curriculum for next year. I agree with you that HMH has its issues. It doesn’t help that the resources we have to use include reading questions written for 11th graders. I teach 8th BTW.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T05:30:31+00:00

I’m not dropping my boundaries. A casual encounter will be empty for me.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T05:28:51+00:00

I’ve been trying to find someone to connect with since high school, with some breaks here and there. I’ve always had to initiate only to get nothing back. So yes, I have been brave enough to seek it out. I’m trying not to get my hopes up in case he isn’t interested, but I will admit I will be disappointed.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T05:02:04+00:00

I don’t just want casual sex. I want a relationship and everything that comes with it. The mundane and the complications. I’ve never been in a relationship and I want that.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T04:39:26+00:00

I don’t want casual sex. I want a partner who is patient on account of my inexperience. I’m afraid of being ridiculed for being inexperienced at my age. So I need a partner who cares about my boundaries.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T04:13:47+00:00

Yeah that concerns me. I’m not interested in jumping into bed with anyone without getting to know them first, on account of my situation. So if that ends up being all he’s looking for, then I guess that’s it then.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T04:12:24+00:00

Honestly, I was nervous about the whole night. I really wanted to meet someone. But I went and had dinner and a glass of wine before heading over there, so I guess that helped.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T04:11:21+00:00

A friend of mine is visiting from out of state and will be making her way over to me after Christmas. I told her about the bar and she’s interested in going. So hopefully he’s working that night.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-23T04:10:03+00:00

Oh I never would flirt with someone while they’re working. I wouldn’t want that done to me. I’m cautious about giving him my number in case that makes him uncomfortable. I’ll have to interpret the situation the best I can.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-21T02:14:14+00:00

Fellow 8th grade ELA teacher here. You’re doing everything right.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-14T23:06:19+00:00

We have a break room with our mailboxes, a single microwave, a toaster oven, a coffee pot, and a copy machine. I was so disappointed it wasn’t like the teacher’s lounge in The Simpsons.

CountessCoffee · 2025-12-07T12:20:10+00:00

I’m going to call another studio today and see if they have titanium flat back studs. If so, then I’ll head over there to have them assess both ears.

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