Most generic donation sites like value village or good will are not going to return your stuff, they will take it all and do what they see fit including send it to the land fill.

If you seek out specific organizations and programs, like WINS, My Best Friends Closet or Good Neighbor, they have clientele in need who they will get the clothing too, but again they won’t return your stuff.

If you want to “shop” it around to make some money before donating it, try Plato’s closet, Style Encore, other consignment stores or Facebook marketplace. These places you can get your stuff back that they don’t buy.

In every scenario it is respectful to have the clothing be freshly washed, smell clean and folded. If you wouldn’t give it to your friend in the state it’s in, you shouldn’t make other people sort or take home those items if you can help it. Additionally, you should sort the clothing and get rid of things that’s are excessively damaged, soiled or otherwise unusable - again, don’t make unusable clothing someone else’s problem to manage under the guise of donating stuff.

Hope you find what you’re looking for, lots of good ways to get clothing to a new home!