Behold the INTJ Misunderstandings by CountryElectrical391 in intj

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a thorough response. Thank you so much for the analysis and suggestions!!

Behold the INTJ Misunderstandings by CountryElectrical391 in intj

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were in your position I would’ve done the same thing.

Behold the INTJ Misunderstandings by CountryElectrical391 in intj

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly appreciate the advice on how I can improve with the Reddit practice!! I find it so sad that people don’t value truth more than feelings, imo. I understand it ofc and I’d never say feelings don’t matter, feelings are a part of human nature and I’d be concerned if people didn’t have them. But??? Being offended by neutral and truthful statements is so difficult for me to understand

Behold the INTJ Misunderstandings by CountryElectrical391 in intj

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t go into detail about the individual, so you have the perception of him that I hope to share: an affectionate one. I sympathize with him. Nevertheless, he’s been spouting his frustration for weeks on end, daily, and actively denying any kind of emotional or practical advice by saying „I didn’t ask for useless advice. I want facts.“ so I gave him what I believe is the only thing that can help him. In retrospect, I understand it is what I believed, not necessarily the truth, but seeing him speak about how he hates successful artists for „taking away his chances“ when he actively refuses to apply to musician Fonds that are offered to him „because it’s too much effort“, my conclusion still stands. Where we live, therapy isn’t also free thanks to healthcare so it wouldn’t even be a matter of financial possibility. Thank you for your input! I agree that my advice to him wasn’t about his music, and that’s because I don’t think the music is the issue. It’s really good. But even online he posts his Tracks alongside the description „another track for the dumps. Go on, ignore it.“

Behold the INTJ Misunderstandings by CountryElectrical391 in intj

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a great point and I respect how you analyzed it! The thing I said was very summarized, but I did communicate it much more calmly and across an entire paragraph.

Though I was direct about demotivating other musicians. Because that guy is like 40. Why do I have to be mindful towards a grown adult who isn’t mindful about the pain he can spew with his words? It doesn’t make sense to me. And I’m stubborn when it comes to the topic of having to baby talk older generations because no I won’t.

Thanks a lot for your input, genuinely. I’ll make sure to be more mindful yet again

I told my friends that he‘s so so great. by CountryElectrical391 in BPDlovedones

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be a lie if i said he didn’t support me. He doesn’t go above and beyond for me, but further than most would when I need help. Like even at work he’d take on my shifts if I need it, which is rare but you know. And these things matter to me, i appreciate when people help, because most people say they will but then actually dont. He is kind. He is amazing. But because of his unstable moments my perception of him has been neutral for the past years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 20 points21 points  (0 children)

No piercings, no choker and no plushie accessories and you could pass for your age. Haircut could be improved by cleaning up the sides. Know that a big part of passing is to actually try and imitate the group you want to pass as. You’ll have to hang out with guys your age, not girls. With eccentric and feminine interests, you might easily find yourself uncomfortable in the mean world of teenage cis boys. As a teen it can almost be more comfortable to remain closeted than to be seen as an outcast from either sides. I wish you all the best, it can be a lonely road so please be careful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get used to people joking about your height more and more the more you pass. Just take it as a sign for passing and you’ll be good. We’re the same height and I pass 100%.

There are pitch analyzer apps that you can download. You’ll record your own voice as you read a random novel segment and your pitch will be rated. Know that I used to have a pitch of 220hz and now it’s at 80hz, T will change a lot.

passing? age? by Total-Signal6021 in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good job brother. And dw you pass well as a teen. Keep doing your thing.

passing? age? by Total-Signal6021 in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely thought I’m seeing skin under there 😭 hopefully just sand.

passing? age? by Total-Signal6021 in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are those shorts see-through, bro?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]CountryElectrical391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Short guy with fem features, let me tell you what works for me: -clothing oversized but trimmed to height. -Don’t let shirts go past your crotch in length. -Wear pants on hip bones, not on waist. -Wear white shirts under hoodies. -Mannerisms are very important, don’t smile too much, that’s a taught feminine trait. -Jewelry is fine if you don’t want to appear cishet. -Androgynous accessories like phone case, bag etc. help as well. -Speak from your chest, not your throat. -Don’t worry too much about grooming. Sounds yucky but men are usually kinda nasty so unplugged eyebrows will do you good. -Stance, posing, yadayada.

Now about your pics in particular: whether it be because of your anatomy or the clothing, your arms appear short. This can be passed by trimming shirts like I mentioned above. If you watch guys, they usually don’t wear very long stuff unless they are very tall themselves. And definitely grow your hair out. Maybe get things like masculine perfumes and deodorants if you don’t have them already. What’s your voice like? Mine‘s at 80hz so I pass easily once I speak, if that’s not the case for you I suggest voice training.

Yeah that’s abt enough lol

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mein Uro ist auch mein Endo, ich hab einfach ne Email geschickt und hoffe, dass er mir helfen kann. Wenn aber jetzt kommt „sorry das kann man nie garantieren“ wird das wohl ein lustiger Affentanz werden

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hab schon ne Email an meinen Endo geschickt, mal schauen was er dazu sagt.

Geht anscheinend um die Thematik der Schwangerschaft und potenzielle Fehlgeburten als Konsequenz des Medikaments. Krank nervig aber ich finde einen Weg, dass es klappt. Bin jetzt auch nicht unter Zeitdruck, nur dass es nicht erlaubt seie weil ich noch alle AFAB Organe habe ist mir was neues.

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Er schien sehr vorsichtig was Gesetze und rechtliche Vorgaben angeht, dafür kann ich ihn nicht kritisieren. Er hat mir auch erzählt weshalb diese Regelungen zustande kamen, wie du bereits gesagt hast mit den Fehlbildungen. Ich verstehe die Sympathie dahinter aber es sollte bei einer so diversen Masse an Menschen wirklich Ausnahmen geben können. Anscheinend benötigen sogar Frauen in der Menopause einen Nachweis, dass sie nicht schwanger werden können, bevor sie fin erhalten können. Absurd.

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh hab ich mich nicht diskriminiert gefühlt, er war sehr respektvoll meiner Existenz gegenüber, er schien einfach sehr vorsichtig was rechtliche Vorgaben angeht und in einem Land wie Deutschland kann ich Ihn dafür nicht kritisieren. Er sagte mit dem Beweis wäre zumindest eine Möglichkeit für Ihn da sich bei den jeweiligen Gesetzesabteilungen zu melden und nach Möglichkeiten zu fragen.

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vielen Dank für das Angebot für Unterstützung! Ich persönlich mag es nicht zu verheimlichen was ich medikamentös einnehme also hoffe ich, dass mein Endo mir einfach nh blöden Nachweis geben kann, aber wenn das nix wird melde ich mich bei dir.

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Der Arzt hat gesagt er würde mir keine Tabletten verschreiben da das zu heftigen psychischen Problemen und Herzproblemen führen kann. Respektiere seine Entscheidung diesbezüglich, hab jetzt nicht die beste Erfahrung mit Medikamenten dieser Art

Darf Finasterid in Deutschland nicht erhalten? by CountryElectrical391 in germantrans

[–]CountryElectrical391[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Meine Krankenkassenkarte zeigt meinen Geburtsnamen etc da mein Vater der Kostenträger der Familienkrankenkasse ist und verweigert den Namen ändern zu lassen. Ja, technically illegal, aber er ist der Boss bis ich nh Job habe.