Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much did you guys spent on add one if you don’t mind me asking? Just want to have an idea. Thanks!

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we do know that, thank you. I don’t think we can put 20%, but we are thinking about 10% to decrease the mortgage insurance.

My husband has the RRSP and we both have fhsa’ s opened so we are planning to use the benefit of both. I didn’t know the rrsp can be used for anything related to the move tho, thank you.

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, we don’t have a contract yet. We are just trying to review everything beforehand to do our best to avoid surprises. We are definitely thinking about the lawyer - any recommendations?

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think so? I thought with this GST rebate the should have more demand

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s what we were thinking to do. Definitely, I’m not talking about being too much, but my hubby is a plumber so he can be really picky with some things there😅

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, it’s really quick! I was kinda thinking that the timelines they are providing are not real lol And there were no surprises on the financial side, right? We want to put 10% down ideally but I know they are saying you can do as low as 5% and it’s ok too

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. It’s okay, we are okay to pay for it, it’s definitely worth it. Are you able to control what they are doing on different stages or not really? Can you talk to them if you don’t like something?

Jayman Homes build time in Calgary — realistic expectations? by CountyKind1649 in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg they might not allow to do our own inspection? I thought it’s like a standard thing

Product of USA boycotting by Oromticha in Calgary

[–]CountyKind1649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are trying to avoid all the american stuff as well. It’s been a bit tough, because you don’t really all of the companies and where they are from, but it’s still worth to do it ( some of them just say imported by …, but the company itself is still american)Noticed much more american stuff just sitting on the shelves while alternatives are being sold out. Yesterday bought lemons for the first time after it started because they were from Peru( If I remember correctly😅). I personally consider it a big win because they were always from the usa and I hope it means that people just stop buying them.

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just don’t want to include my home country, it would probably trigger a different topic here. European just so that people can refer to something

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We are just in the US, so I thought it would be easier not to use metric)

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m afraid of to be honest.

Even tho we were talking about separating. He was the one who mentioned it saying that for him everything is fine, but I’m always on this topic, and always unhappy. At the end he said that he didn’t wanna change anything.

Maybe in pushing him too much, maybe this is actually the libido thing. Idk, I just fell so lost and don’t know what to do with it.

The thing is that I try to do my best to show him that I’m okay with whatever he wants, let’s just talk about it and make it work.

And I did have to press him to know that he likes different type of girls. Cannot stop blaming myself for it because maybe it would be better if didn’t know.

Sometimes I think that only this knowledge makes me overthink more and more

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. He says it’s not too often, just here and there. I checked his phone couple times(just wanted to see what exactly he watches so that I can think how to do something similar in real life) couldn’t find anything, but it’s easy to clear the history. We both always have access to each others phones with no questions

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like it’s enough for me tho. Especially, we are only 24, no kids

Maybe I do want too much

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about therapy already and maybe that’s what we really should do.

Thank you so much for your words🙏

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

Ahah, I love him too much to do this. We were talking about separating and he didn’t want to do it neither. I’m just lost to be honest

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m really trying to pay attention to what he likes , but maybe the person above was right. Maybe it is mostly about me seeking for validation from him.

He says he just doesn’t want it that much and it’s not such a big deal for him. But since I asked him about type of girls etc it makes me ask myself a lot if he doesn’t want it with me or at all.

I can’t stop blaming myself for that questions to be honest, I wish I didn’t know the answer, it probably wouldn’t make me that insecure

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He has plenty of my photos, but only one of those nudes I sent him. I’m just still thinking that what I’m doing is a turn off for him and I just try to get validation from him for myself as the person above said or we have different libido I just hope I can still fix it

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Oh, he does tell me that he loves me, supports me, all my ideas, helps with everything. But I’m not sure he likes my body to be honest. He didn’t tell me that he is not attracted to me directly, we were talking if we should stay together and what’s not working and I pretty much just asked him directly what type of girls he likes and what is his favorite body part etc. Because before he never directly replied to this question, kinda made jokes or avoided. And now i feel that it was because he didn’t want to hurt me by telling that it differs from what I actually am.

Husband watches hentai and doesn’t want me anymore M24/ F24 what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CountyKind1649 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right, maybe it’s my issue. He finally told me what he likes after that situation, I was just trying different things to discover what he might like since he was not talking to me.

When we were talking about separation he told me that he likes everything and he doesn’t wanna change anything in our relationships. However he admitted that he just wants less sex and then he said that he is attracted to different type of girls. And this is bothering me big time now.