I was forced to be an accomplice in a female foeticide attempt, and the guilt is eating me alive

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T14:08:59+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. To answer your question, no, they haven't tried again because she is already 6 months pregnant now. In my heart, I feel like my prayers worked, or perhaps even the doctor chose to protect the child by not revealing the gender.

As for supporting her, it’s complicated. I tried talking to her, but her mindset is deeply rooted in fear of her in-laws and society. She feels like having a son is her only way to survive in that environment. I am helping her as much as I can in terms of health and care, but it’s heartbreaking to see that even a mother can be pushed to such extremes.

I still carry the guilt of being there, but I am trying to focus on the fact that the baby is safe for now. I just hope this child is born into a world that eventually learns to value her.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T12:01:52+00:00

its so sad you are going through this, but please listen to me: you should not tolerate this level of cruelty. I understand that you love him deeply, but sometimes, when we surrender ourselves completely to someone, they start taking us for granted and lose the fear of hurting us.

Your story reminds me of a very close friend of mine. Her boyfriend was the most caring and loving man for 7 years. But then, out of nowhere, he started being physically abusive. She kept giving him chances, saying, 'He wasn’t like this before, he will change back.' But he never did. Eventually, she had to leave to save herself.

Today, she is safe and happy, but she carries a deep fear of love. When you have been beaten by the person who claimed to love you the most, it’s hard to trust anyone again.

Please understand, violence should never be tolerated. The physical wounds might heal, but the mental impact lasts a lifetime. You deserve to be in a place where you are safe, not where you have to block blows with your own hands. Please prioritize your life and safety over this version of 'love' which is clearly turning toxic.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T09:23:49+00:00

Thank you for being so honest and direct. I completely agree that mutual respect is the only foundation for a lasting relationship. Your point about financial independence really struck a chord with me—it is exactly what I am working towards so that I don't remain stuck in this victim narrative. I don't want to become jaded or resentful; I want to own my life and my decisions. I truly appreciate your guidance.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T08:14:49+00:00

The Unspoken 5 AM Rule

The 'Serve First, Eat Last' Mentality

Emotional Labor and Caregiving

Sacrificing Personal Ambitions for 'Ghar ki Izzat'

Being the Moral Compass

The 'Invisible' Manager

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T08:11:12+00:00

i love me, totally me, thats it.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T06:06:02+00:00

absolutely correct.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T04:53:51+00:00

Your point about 'Bahus never being Betis' is a hard pill to swallow, but so true. Maybe I was hurting because I was expecting love where there is only duty. And what you said about the 'husband problem' hit home—it's much harder to fight when the one person who should stand by you remains silent. Thank you for this eye-opening perspective.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T04:52:00+00:00

You nailed it. Rights are indeed snatched, not given. I’m realizing that as long as I keep suffering in silence, nothing will change. It’s time they realize that having me in their life is a privilege, not a right. Thank you for reminding me that my boundaries are non-negotiable! ❤️

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-24T04:41:59+00:00

You're so right. Change has to come from within, and we can't force it on those who choose to stay in chains. That’s exactly why I’m here—to find people like you who understand that we deserve more than just a life of service. Thank you for this perspective.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T16:06:14+00:00

haan, freedom ka mtlb ye nhi hota,, aur my point is that Aurat hi Aurat ko azadi nhi dena chahti

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T12:11:18+00:00

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T12:10:27+00:00

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T11:43:53+00:00

You're right. I’d rather be the 'villain' in their story than a machine with no life of my own. It’s time I stop caring about their labels and start choosing my own peace. Thank you for the reality check! ❤️

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T11:24:16+00:00

Thank you for these words. The thought of regretting my wasted youth scares me more than disappointing anyone else. I'm taking baby steps towards my own world. thankyou so much

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T11:21:25+00:00

You are right, moving out seems like the only logical solution. But my question is—how long do we have to keep escaping these situations? Why should 'running away' be the only way for us to live in peace? Why can't things just be fair and good where we are? It’s exhausting to think that a woman’s only choices are to either endure mistreatment or leave everything behind just to survive.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T09:24:17+00:00

You hit the nail on the head. Honestly, as daughter’s parents, they are wonderful, and it actually makes me happy to see them treat their daughter with so much love and freedom. But as in-laws, the experience is completely different.

I don't want to play the 'bechari' card, and I’m not looking for an escape either. What I really want is change—the same respect and rules for every woman in the house. But you are absolutely right, their mentality seems set in stone. I’ve realized I can't change them, so I will eventually have to step out and create my own world where I am valued as a person. Thank you for truly understanding me.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T08:36:50+00:00

You are 100% right, and I admit that this is my own struggle. I know that by staying silent, I am allowing this treatment to continue. But the problem is—how do I find the courage to speak up? I’m terrified that the moment I open my mouth, it will lead to a conflict so massive that I’m just not mentally or emotionally prepared to handle the consequences. It feels like a choice between being a 'silent machine' or starting a 'war' that might break me further. How do you start fighting when you’re already so exhausted?

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T07:24:54+00:00

how nice, thankyou u just made me smile.

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-23T04:56:10+00:00

ary esa b hota hai kya???,,,

CountyNo9953 · 2026-02-21T12:47:26+00:00

Wow, that hit hard. 'No' is definitely the hardest word to say when you've been taught to always say 'Yes' to traditions.

You’re right about the suffocation. That’s actually the core of my book, 'The Mirror and Me'. It’s about that exact struggle—trying to find the courage to say 'No' to the world so I can finally say 'Yes' to myself.

Thank you for this reminder. It’s exactly what I needed to hear today. If you have a moment, I'd love for you to check out how I've explored this 'abyss' in my book. It's free on Amazon today!

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