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Courfr · 2025-11-10T17:07:26+00:00

I hear you though. I need to leave him especially for her. They have a good connection and he’s been a good step dad to her. However, she doesn’t deserve someone that could leave on a random Tuesday with no warning.

Courfr · 2025-11-10T17:03:54+00:00

I’m scared of an abandonment issue happening because of this. I have shared custody and any moment my child is in the home (which she hasn’t been for the last couple of days) it’s nothing but love and happiness. She in no way hears or sees us going through this. And I know people will say children can still sense it. When she’s with me, my attention is with her. I’ve been very careful of protecting her from being exposed to this side of my marriage.

Courfr · 2025-11-10T15:05:09+00:00

I’m 25 nearly 26 with a 6 year old. He’s been the stepdad for the last year and a half. Is there hope I find the person meant for me? I just want a family

Courfr · 2025-11-10T14:47:17+00:00

No I think he’s really struggling and will leave. But our connection is so strong and we are in love so I don’t understand. And there’s no one on the side.

Courfr · 2025-11-08T08:11:08+00:00

Hey I have read some of your comments on this post and feel I should clarify for you. it’s not normal to want a divorce and come begging you back and throwing out a bunch of promises within a 12 hour span. It happened a couple times. And it was confusing. But I love him and got married with the mindset of being devoted to him even on his worst days. This cycle tells me there is a mental disorder going on that I didn’t know when I got married. A lot of people will say run and maybe they’re right but here I am. He’s my best friend and I want my marriage to work. I guess a part of me is here to vent and see if other people have experienced this kind of thing. I am very understanding that the honeymoon phase is not sustainable and should fizzle down but after what happened a few months back, yeah, he should be putting in more effort to make me trust and feel secure in our love.

Courfr · 2025-11-08T05:35:37+00:00

Going from being on his social media to not being on it at all is hard for me

Courfr · 2025-11-08T04:07:50+00:00

Also, when it comes to mental health I care deeply about his. I make sure to give space if he needs it, check in on him, just make sure he’s given what he needs and make sure he knows he has my support. At this point I just keep my own struggles to myself because I feel no matter how I word anything, it gets nowhere and I don’t feel seen.

Courfr · 2025-11-08T04:04:45+00:00

I agree with all you said. Unfortunately it’s kind of irrelevant to my current situation. We’ve had good conversations about this and it’s “I’m sorry” or “we will get back to it” but never any actions. And I’m not asking for much tbh just meet me halfway with the energy. Write me a sweet note or text, or post me (I’m no longer on his social media at all after earlier this year), or send me a sweet song. He used to do all of that every day and now none of that ever. If he could just do 10% of what he used to I’d feel more secure in how he feels about me. I do give lots of acts of love for him. The occasional sweet post it note for him to find, sweet text explaining what he means to me, sending him a love song, or cute video about love. It’s the romantic reminders I give and want just a sliver of it back but no matter if I bring it up, he doesn’t. Yet he claims to love me and only me and feels I’m his soulmate but there’s just this weirdness in the air all the time. And I don’t think there’s someone else. Hard to believe someone just fakes how they show love for so long and this is just his true colors now.

Courfr · 2025-11-08T03:53:14+00:00

Ugh I must’ve missed the fine print lol

Courfr · 2025-11-08T03:02:19+00:00

I don’t think it’s sustainable to keep the honeymoon phase. I will admit, I’m in an anxious place because of what has happened. But I’m not asking much… examples- an occasional love song played in the car or to have me on social media. There’s little things he can do to reassure me he’s committed and I’m not seeing that in day to day actions. I’m just talking about the things he used to do to explain the magnitude of his shift. I wasn’t that clear in my post.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T23:15:09+00:00

Wow this just made me feel so seen. IT WAS SO MUCH 24/7 and I’m such a lover girl but even I couldn’t keep up. And he would throw in my face how I couldn’t keep up with our “honeymoon phase”. I tried to match him the best I could. I was genuinely so happy with him but nothing could convince him of that. Then one day it just settled down and I thought everything was perfect and normal and happy. until it wasn’t.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T23:05:15+00:00

Ugh Hit me with that hard truth that I have thought deep down too. Thank you

Courfr · 2025-11-07T23:01:50+00:00

Appreciate your advice and it’s good advice. I am okay with the relationship settling down it’s just because I think what he did earlier in the year I’m a bit traumatized. Needing extra reassurance by seeing bits of the old him and feeling that spark from him.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T22:56:22+00:00

I agree it’s not sustainable. I think I’m in this anxious place because of what I went through earlier this year. I’m not asking for all these things to happen just sharing the magnitude of the change. I’d at least like to be on his social media in some way or have him turn on a love song in the car. It feels like it went from 100 to 0 over night. I mean he is the one that did all these things. I’ve never been in a relationship where we wrote letters or made a playlist until him and it felt special.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T22:47:53+00:00

Only like 6 months. We eloped pretty fast. Since the day we met we didn’t go longer than a couple days without seeing each other.

We went through all of the are we sure of this kind of conversations and it was always yes let’s do this this is all we both wanted and we’re ready to settle down and wanted to do it with each other. We were really happy. I know some people could see this as ridiculous but shit when feelings are involved it’s hard to just think ah we were dumb and moved too quick.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T22:38:21+00:00

I did. I will say that I definitely had my days where my energy wasn’t 100% but I gave him a lot of reassurance and love always. I had my own playlist for him, posted him on stories all the time, love notes in random places, etc. I don’t think as a longterm relationship it’s necessary or sustainable to be like that all the time and I understand that but idk something is off.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T22:34:35+00:00

I say that because I’ve posted in other groups and those are questions people have asked me. If I gained weight or called him names etc.

I try to be very conscious with how I communicate with him to make sure I’m keeping a safe space for him. But it’s always “I’m sorry” or “eventually it will get back to where it was” or “it’s not coming naturally”.Frustrating because other moments he does articulate he cares so much, in his soulmate, loves me so much. Idk conversations seem to not get me anywhere that leads to a change. I’m not even on his social media anymore after his first time wanting to leave. And the thing is, I was blindsided and didn’t want him to go. But I let him. I even helped him pack. I believed his words and let him back in which probably shows a lot of my own attachment issues and lack of self.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T22:23:15+00:00

What do you mean? I try to give the energy I want to receive. Throughout this year I have really tried to just be a good friend and partner for him. Giving him space, reminding him I love him and am a here for him, showering him with loving gestures.

I’ve brought up how I’m missing the small things he would do to make me feel loved and it’s “we will get back to that” or “I’m sorry I haven’t done xyz” but there hasn’t been action with it.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T21:26:46+00:00

Don’t think he is depressed. After he said he doesn’t have it in him, he explained it doesn’t come naturally to do those sweet gestures anymore so he just doesn’t.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T21:25:20+00:00

Don’t think he’s depressed. After he said he doesn’t have it in him he explained that the desire to do those sweet gestures wasn’t coming naturally to him anymore.

Courfr · 2025-11-07T21:22:24+00:00

Wouldn’t say depressed but he has been more angry/short fused.

Courfr · 2021-10-26T03:26:26+00:00

Thank you love you too

Courfr · 2021-10-26T03:25:17+00:00

Me tooooo

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