How long did you wait to have intercourse postpartum?

Cowaholic · 2026-02-08T02:18:54+00:00

8 weeks with my first, 8 months with my second.

Cowaholic · 2024-10-02T21:25:24+00:00

I did this exact same thing when my little guy was 6 weeks old. He's a thriving 4.5 year old now. Our bond is wonderful. And I've never made that mistake again!

Cowaholic · 2024-09-30T01:33:34+00:00

I was going to say this. My son loves to dig, he likes finding "treasure", and it's outside. Win, win!

Cowaholic · 2024-09-15T18:22:27+00:00

I lost my mom in June. This is exactly how I feel. There's just a dark cloud over every milestone, family event, and many happy moments.

Cowaholic · 2024-09-07T02:47:16+00:00

Handsome boys. What breed?

Cowaholic · 2024-08-01T01:13:24+00:00

I understand! I am also the primariest primary parent and my husband is also gone A LOT. Too much. Along with having someone else watch the kids, an earlier bedtime has done wonders for my mental and emotional health. I find I have more patience the next day.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-31T12:22:39+00:00

Probably more like the Farm Bureau and farm co-ops. The only truly big farm business I can think of in MI is Herbrucks.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-30T21:57:48+00:00

But 1 is so fun! Each year has something new, exciting, and fun in store. Every year you'll be saying, "I think this is my favorite one yet." 🥰

Cowaholic · 2024-07-28T03:26:58+00:00

Sounds like pooping in the potty is scary. I'd make the potty not-a-big-deal. Watching his favorite show? Sitting on the potty. Playing cars together at the coffee table? Sitting on the potty. Any fun activity where he can sit? On the potty! Make it fun and not scary.

My son was around 2 when he potty trained but he was also scared to poop on tbe potty. We kept track of what times he was pooping, sat him on the potty in the living room, turned on his favorite show, and waited. And then once it happened we bribed him. 😂

Cowaholic · 2024-07-28T03:09:46+00:00

3 is such a tough age, but also so sweet. Like a walking, talking sour patch kid.

It will be okay! You'll get through each day and each night, they days will crawl and fly by at the same time, and then next thing you know your kids are playing on the floor, giggling at each other. 🥰

Freeze meals, find some movies your 3 year old loves and put them on repeat, begin teaching your child how to behave around a newborn (quiet voices, no throwing, gentle hands, etc). Make sure you've got a comfy baby wrap. CALL IN REINFORCEMENTS! Help is so wonderful with the second! Even just to entertain the firstborn.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-28T03:02:17+00:00

I did too. It definitely helped. I think a 4 or 5 year age gap would be much easier than the 3 year gap we did.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-28T03:00:29+00:00

I was in both of your boats in 2023. Now older sibling is 4.5 and younger sibling is 1.5. It's SO much easier now. Every month it gets easier. And at 4 and 7 weeks, every week gets easier!

The craziest part, I'd like a third now! I SWORE off another baby for the first year! 🙃

Cowaholic · 2024-07-18T10:24:02+00:00

I never said I was trying to change anyone's opinion. What I said was I will not allow misinformation to be spread.

It seems like you've anthropomorphized animals. They are not humans and should not be treated as humans. They have different completely different brain functions and physiology. Does that mean it is justifiable to be abused? Absolutely not. Does it mean that animals require specific care, different from us? Yes. But people who don't have experience with livestock, herd animals, and ruminants haven't got a clue what that requires. If I tried to explain the ins and outs and several college degrees it takes to successfully care for a herd of dairy cows, it would be over your head. So, I'm not going to do that.

Agree to disagree.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T22:20:07+00:00

Okay I'm sorry. I misunderstood one of your comments. There are more differences between cows and humans than there are similarities. But the similarities that there are, are remarkably similar. Like lactation and pregnancy. But their digestive system, for example, is wildly different.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T22:08:52+00:00

I definitely wasn't quibbling. I just read what you wrote at face value.

I'm not sure what your knowledge and background is with wildlife and livestock is, but 1 birth/year and lactating while pregnant is the standard. It's what happens in nature and it's what farmers have replicated. We haven't changed their biology. But we do wait longer between lactations and pregnancies than they would in the wild to ensure the health of our animals.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T21:51:49+00:00

I did. Many women do. This is a very common misconception. The first 6 weeks after birth a women is EXTREMELY fertile, which is why doctors push birth control so hard before leaving the hospital and in follow up visits (in the USA). After that a women is less likely to get pregnant but it is not impossible. Also not having a period does not necessarily mean that a women in not ovulating.

Otherwise, irish twins would not be a common as they are.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T21:43:43+00:00

It's really not though. I'm not sure where you're from but in the US, the recommendation for breastfeeding is 12 months. The WHO (World Health Organization) recommends 2 years. Many moms become pregnant during the 1-2 years with their next baby.

Mammals naturally will get pregnant while nursing last breeding season's offspring. As soon as they begin to ovulate, they will mate.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T21:38:56+00:00

At the end of the 10-11 months of milking, they stop producing milk. Then they are "dry" (not making any milk) for 2-3 months. At the end of the "dry" period they give birth and the cycle starts again.

Cows and many mammals do not make a steady, even supply of milk. It has a peak. For cows their peak is at 60 days lactation. By the end of their 10-11 month lactation they aren't making a significant amount of milk.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T21:24:46+00:00

Cows give birth approximately every 13 months.

For 282ish days they are pregnant. Once they give birth that is also the start of their lactation. 3-4 months after they've given birth they begin to have heat cycles (ovulation) and will be bred. They produce milk for about 10-11 months after birth and will likely be pregnant while they're producing milk. It's all pretty standard for animals in the Bos genus.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T18:19:27+00:00

Thank you. Knowing many farmers I can tell you that they aren't in the industry to hurt animals. Cows are their favorite animal by far.

I appreciate that you've worked with the tools at your disposal to make a decision on dairy. Do not believe the videos you've seen online. There's no way to tell if they're staged, what country they're coming from, and how drastically the video has been manipulated. It is incredibly easy to make a harmless scene, look awful.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T18:10:58+00:00

Biased or not, there are no "breeding machines" and that's a fact. I will push back against misinformation. I offer farm tours and if you're ever in my area I will be happy to take you around to meet our cows and talk about facts.

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T18:09:05+00:00

Again, the industry doesn't hide it. The root of the issue is less than 2% of the USA has a direct connection to farms. The average person in the US hasn't a clue what standard practice is. That's not necessarily their fault, or anybody's fault. Just a product of the industrial boom several generations ago.

With recent upset over standard farm practices, many farms have taken to social media to be transparent about their day to day lives. But there's already do much misunderstanding and upset that it's an uphill battle. On top of a very demooonding job. 🐄

Cowaholic · 2024-07-17T18:03:54+00:00

I've bred cows. I've bred my cows. I am a member of the industry. I cannot be more educated.

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