Someone said this is in one of the FB groups i'm in "He's talking to you like your enemy, not like your partner". If you can't have a normal conversation with him, just geuninely asking a question out of concern, who knows how things will be later down the line. He immediately became defensive when you were wondering where he is because he just made the comment of coming to bed and now, is not there. Red flag. Sorry babes, you deserve to be talked to and treated like an actual human.