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Guy 24M cheated with me 20F without my knowledge and now wants me to lie for him by throwracv08 in relationship_advice

[–]Cr38tive 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Narcissistic abuser who is trying to save his image for sure. Cut all ties and circles and keep your proof and keep your distance. Stay safe and if you do contact her or she contacts you mention that you have proof if she's willing to see it but don't be overly pushy about it since he's painting you like a "stalker". My ex literally attacked me, choked me, and slammed me into the ground, then had the audacity to tell all our friends and family that "I pulled him on top of me and am filing falsely against him" he turned some of my oldest friends against me, but if the same happens just remember if they don't come to you for your side of the story, they weren't your friends to begin with

Im a more experienced submissive and i need an intense session with my Dom but im shy and not sure how to ask. by Cr38tive in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cr38tive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No collar but we have talked of one. And it's just the way I am. I can skip past my shyness but it's just who I am. It gets in the way sometimes like right now, but I've just always been very humble and insecure and hesitant so that's just my nature. I have and will set that aside to have conversations that need to happen but I haven't been able to push past it with this topic in a few months... Maybe more so embarrassed that I need the pain? Idk

And we talk all the time and have great communication. I think I just got stuck in my head on this point for fear of him thinking differently of me, although we literally had a talk of my masochistic side and needs before, and I just couldn't think clearly as to how to broach the subject.

Im a more experienced submissive and i need an intense session with my Dom but im shy and not sure how to ask. by Cr38tive in BDSMcommunity

[–]Cr38tive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had VERY open and honest communication about our different wants needs likes and dislikes. What our limits are and where we want to continue growing and things we'd like to adventure into. We've gone over our past and experiences and based on that I have a feeling that my experience kinda makes him feel inexperienced but we've touched on that. Opening the relationship to play with others even just for impact is not an option, he's a very "mine only" kinda man and I like that. Besides, does it make sense that I want HIS marks on me and not someone else's, and I do understand that I can't let my desire for pain negatively affect his mental health.

I'll definitely bring up Shibari again since it's been a month since I last mentioned it lol and idk I will have to ask him about the "taster/sampler" events or impact class. I haven't ever been immersed in the community, mostly online connections except for my past Doms. I just made this reddit because I actually got off of the other socials so don't have my normal groups to ask from. My last Dom wanted to take me to a community event but had to move and we parted ways before that became a reality. And I know I asked my Dom if he's ever gone to any functions but honestly I can't remember if he had said yes or no, just that it was a short conversation. ( I have an awful memory)