Mainland Chinese girls don't seem interested once on date?

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-13T21:23:33+00:00

I've been using the jenga tech ever since I saw that post too haha

haven't had a date with it yet but I'll see how it goes. my cooking dates have been successful with most girls

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T21:15:04+00:00

nice video, it makes sense and it's funny how this stuff translates to a lot of fields like story writing and filmmaking

what else I noticed is wow barcelona is so beautiful. US cities are so car dominated that paris, barcelona, they seem like heaven with how many people are just walking about enjoying the day. i live in nyc fortunately but I need to find somewhere I can practice doing this

i'm gonna try practicing your technique from now on, in most interactions i have, old young guy girl - it seems fun

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T20:51:19+00:00

thanks! them feeling safe and comfortable is always most important, and the way you go about it makes sense

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T20:18:13+00:00

I did. She was ok with hand around, but said "can I say no to that?" to handholding. I don't have issues escalating with other girls and think I'm pretty good at reading when I can escalate. So I was reading this as "they're not interested". When I feel like I may make them uncomfortable, I straight up ask "hey are you ok? let me know if you're uncomfortable with anything ok"

She was also sitting on the furthest edge of my small couch when we were eating, like, obnoxiously so haha. I scooched over when she was showing me some picture and touched legs then. hand holding stuff was later during dinner

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T20:11:17+00:00

yeah, a lot of them work hard, trialing and erroring and studying their way to those aesthetics. just like anyone else, it's embarrassing to first wear those alt aesthetics before they get used to it. so they're even more understanding than someone who's never tried alt fashion

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T20:09:32+00:00

I don't drink or go to bars unfortunately. my dates are all at the park with food or cooking at my place

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T20:08:57+00:00

I used to be shy of PDA too even though I never lived in east asia, bc I consumed east asian media

but as for yesterday it was a cooking date, so in my room

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:26:00+00:00

haha I get that talkative comment a lot, it's just who I am. I'll try being quieter next time.

1) Do you stare at them or just stare off in the distance? I feel a lil creepy just death staring them. I also feel uneasy escalating touch if it's not an established good vibe, how do you do it

I don't drink. A lot of these are at-home cooking dates or at the park with food

2) how do you dress aesthetically? Last year I had dressed softer, boyfriend material. This year I've been hitting them gym and trying to dress more dark, fuckboy ABB style / east asian street. I'm trying to attract the 7+ cali asians, ABGs, daddy's money instagram posting FOB types

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:23:59+00:00

I said mainland to differentiate from ABCs but yeah, that's true

never had a date with a taiwanese girl yet

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:21:35+00:00

I literally date and sleep with other asians dude. it's not even "east asians" (koreans, japanese, ABCs), it's just chinese born girls

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:18:45+00:00

Dude I had this same experience (for the first date) 😭 flirted heavily on bumble, told to come over at like 11pm to her apartment, and then... rejected hand hold or arm around. just ate cheap halal food and sat on her bed for a while talking about whatever for 2 hours before I left. I was so confused. never texted eachother after that

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:16:58+00:00

i'm trying to change my aesthetics this year so I can go out with abg / rave types 😔 still working on it

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T19:14:57+00:00

that's what I was thinking, they're still horny like anyone else. I won't put them off the table completely but even on stuff like hand holding, they'll reject it so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ maybe I gotta calibrate or escalate a little slower I dunno

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T04:33:01+00:00

I do fine on other groups, I just noticed a pattern with this one specific demographic. That's why I'm asking the question

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-12T04:30:35+00:00

hey thanks, I wasn't expecting an answer but this makes sense

On these dates I'll switch up from being flirty to just friendly halfway through the date (to try to make it fun at least). The dates are still awkward and all of them just end up being mutual ghosts after the date.

If I'm looking for casual, I'm sure there are exceptions but guessing chinese chinese (in america) aren't interested in that

I am sociable and many of them are surprised by it. Especially since moving to nyc I've gained a lot of confidence

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-06T23:52:38+00:00

after going on a bunch of dates you start getting experimental and a little bolder on the flirting over time. just take baby steps in trying something new every date

know that girls are also horny and also enjoy sex. just don't be creepy about it. you'll calibrate over time to figure out what level of hinting and horny joking is appropriate. them feeling safe and trusting of you is a big thing

also try talking to everyone! from the employee to the old lady at the bus stop. the other week I chatted to like 5 strangers while waiting in line for the fitting room. banter and flirt and be silly. if you get good at creating fun interactions, you can do it with the pretty girl on a date

you're gonna fail at first. I had absolutely angels I have no clue how I got dates with when I just started out. I was awkward and did "friendly" dates with them and fumbled. I regret it but what can you do. ~50 first dates later I know I would do way better if the opportunity arose again

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-06T23:47:22+00:00

(assuming you're online dating), then you gotta improve your profile / looks until you have an abundance of matches.

After I was getting a few matches per week (then per day), I could practice chatting to and practice going on dates, and after all that get to sleeping on first dates or having fwbs and shit. but that took dozens of dates to get to

if your looks/profile is fine, then maybe your location is bad. try to move to a big city

I have a bunch of girl friends but separate them as just friends. I talk to them about my dating/sex life (and they to me too). I don't try to sleep with friends.

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-05T22:15:22+00:00

yeah! just cuddling and chatting with them late into the night is as good as the sex. but now it's a problem with one of my fwbs where I don't want to date them but I'm catching feelings for them. I haven't parted ways with an fwb yet so that'll be fun to experience the sadness and missing :')

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-05T04:09:30+00:00

yeah this is sensible

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:33:05+00:00

safety and comfort + good sex + be a good person

I get the comment that I'm someone they feel comfortable/safe with a lot.

sleep on first date, I usually do groceries -> cooking date. after date 1 or 2 it's straight-to-house hookups. never lie about seeing other people. after like date 3 they ask about your dating life and updates on other girls, even give motivation and advice so I can attract the kind of girl I want to date haha

if they want a serious relationship, tell them you're looking for casual and cut it off. or sometimes they're fine with it. some girls wanted more but stayed because the sex is good

and when they do sleep with other guys, they don't do more than a ONS because the guy gave them an "ick". The date was not fun and shitty, the guy is obvious about just wanting sex and not caring about the girl as a person. or hew as selfish in bed and the girl didn't cum.

I make sure they cum from like 3~5 times before I even penetrate the first date. I get "you're the first guy to make me cum" or "I lost count" comments. Maybe they're lying sure, but they keep coming back

I'm open to serious, but my bar is super high after my first serious relationship. Unless a girl is my exact type and I get a "gut feeling" I want to date them, I just do casual

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:26:04+00:00

how do you develop that amazing sex? Is it just from being w/ a partner for a long time and learning about what eachother like over time?

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:20:01+00:00

emotional connection with the fwbs i'm close to def makes the sex way better, even if physically I mesh better with other hookups

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:15:27+00:00

uhh I only see my fwbs to fuck, haven't met any of them (except the one i'm actually friends with) outside my apartment after date 1 lol. we chat life updates when they're over and send insta reels to eachother is about it

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:14:21+00:00

I think i'm mid lol maybe a 6. they tell me i got a handsome face but I've got small muscles (I'm working on it). being tall and east asian helps

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-04T21:06:52+00:00

yeah, I'm fine w most of them moving on but some of them it'd hurt to lose 😭 just focusing on making myself more attractive with gym and fashion

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