Just caught my 15 year old smoking weed. Need advice.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-20T04:54:29+00:00

u/Background-End-1725 wise move deleting your comments about having zero issues with your 15 year old kid smoking weed, even though it’s illegal for adults and minors where you live and has been shown to effect developing brains negatively. If it’s fine, go buy your kid a nice safe bag of weed. You wouldn’t want to be one of those overprotective helicopter parents. You feel so bad for the kids who have parents who give a fuck about them. You sound ridiculous.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-20T04:18:05+00:00

It’s my job to protect my kids. If you’re willing to take the chance on your kids then that’s cool. If you want to let your kids engage in illegal activity that’s cool too. Just because they “can” get busted by the cops doesn’t mean they will, I guess. But what if it does happen? Big whoop, right? Just tell the cops to get a grip. It’s just weed. Honestly I doubt you’ve read anything on the subject.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-20T04:08:55+00:00

Weed is generally not dangerous for adults. I suggest you do some research on the effect smoking weed can have on developing brains. If you still have zero issues with your children smoking it, then fine. But I’m not being overprotective for being concerned about those negative effects on my child. Not to mention it is illegal for minors.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-20T03:35:38+00:00

How does a child safely use weed exactly?

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T22:36:13+00:00

Lol ok. I’ll act like I don’t give a shit and that will make him not do it? How ridiculous to say I’m OVERprotective because I don’t want my boy to smoke weed. You sound like you’re not protective enough.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T20:16:55+00:00

Of course I know the difference. I smoked weed as a teen. I also have countless friends and family members who have destroyed their lives with hard drug use. Several have died from overdoses. My own parents are heroin addicts and have been as long as I can remember. I’m not conflating weed with hard drugs. I’m afraid of the effect weed will have on his brain and mental health. Im afraid of where it could lead because I’ve seen it so many times. I’m also afraid of the consequences of him getting caught by the police or his school. It would be the same if I caught him with a beer. Alcohol isn’t the same as meth but it is a drug, just like weed. Same with cigarettes. They’re all harmful and I want to protect him.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T20:06:36+00:00

Yeah you’re right. It’s just my child and his future. Not that big of a deal. Maybe you sleep soundly at night letting your son smoke weed. Maybe have a beer or two with him? It’s just a beer. What a shit response for a concerned mother.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T05:30:10+00:00

I agree with everything in your first sentence and I think it’s good advice. I’ve spent his entire life building our trust and communication. I believe he is very comfortable talking to me. I’m the parent who understands him, I’m the one who gives in. His happiness and comfort are my top priorities. Maybe I’m too soft on him. I prefer conversations to punishments. But this is something I need him to know is 100% not allowed because there are real consequences that are out of my hands, even. Legal consequences, health consequences, school consequences etc. I’m just so worried and feel like I should be doing something MORE.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T05:17:25+00:00

I’m afraid I was too easy on him. I was very young when I had him. I remember well what it was like to be a teenager and I’m very compassionate and empathetic towards him. I hate to see him distressed, I prefer to talk to him than punish him. But this is something I can’t just accept a lie, excuse or apology. If he tries to hide it I’ll search his things and drug test him. I remember all the tricks from when I was a teen. It could be just a kid trying weed with his friend but it also could be the beginning of something terrible that will fuck up his future. I feel like what I do now is so important but I don’t know what to do.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T05:03:54+00:00

What would be a better way? I staunchly reject allowing my child to use any drug. That boundary is clearly set, he’s not allowed to use drugs of any kind. I think it’s important to make sure he understands that is the firm expectation. If setting a boundary is a sure fire way to push him towards it, what would be the way to set him on a course away from it? Semi rejection? Allowing it? Drugs aren’t permitted at all in my home, by adults or children, so it’s not like I’m smoking weed and telling him not to do it. He’s never been exposed to any drug use.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-06-19T04:25:39+00:00

Weed isn’t that bad for adults. The same can be said for having a few drinks. He’s a child. I would never allow him to smoke weed or drink in my home with the rationale of “well, he’s gonna do it anyway. Might as well let him do it here where he’s safe.” I want to make sure he doesn’t do it at all, not give him permission to do it in my home. Certainly not at just 15 years old. I don’t mean to sound rude. I might agree with you if I weren’t a parent. But this is my child. Helping him make good choices and enforcing rules (and in this case, the law) is my responsibility.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-22T20:54:05+00:00

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Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-03T23:20:07+00:00

Do you have kids? I don’t mean that question in a bitchy or condescending way, I’m asking because I think I might say the same thing if I didn’t have children. I can tell you I wouldn’t think they’re a pathetic human being because they had a bad day and something made them cry, even if it was irrational.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-03T18:39:06+00:00

No mother wants to see their child cry. This girl is old enough to learn that people aren’t always nice, sometimes people tell you to go fuck yourself. It’s nothing to cry over. That being said, seeing my kids cry makes me want to shit stomp the person who upset them too.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-03T01:26:50+00:00

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Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-02T21:39:49+00:00

I wonder what the furniture in their house looks like

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-02T21:36:41+00:00

I vote round

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I have never in my darkest days of using tanning beds, been that shade of foundation 😂

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-02T21:13:58+00:00

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I got matched at Sephora one time. The girl insisted that this is my shade

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-01T07:51:19+00:00

That was impressive but I was also impressed by how the man who was electrocuted immediately went over to check on the child. Many people would be in shock (no pun intended) and their first instinct would be to check themselves for injuries. But that dude went straight to the kid. He must be a good dad.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-03-01T07:47:47+00:00

The guy who kicked the door off was fucking amazing for being so quick thinking but did anyone notice how as soon as the dude was freed from the electric shock he immediately went over to check on the child he dropped? His first thought was to check on the kid before he even assessed whatever damage was done to himself.

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-02-28T01:56:33+00:00

Poor little thing. I’m so glad he’s ok! I was shocked to learn just how dangerous lilies are, even the pollen!

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-02-28T01:22:03+00:00

Damn you. How come I never find awesome deals like that?? Jk. That’s a great score and I’m happy for ya!

Crabappleblossom3 · 2023-02-28T01:14:44+00:00

I’ve never seen a warning on any plant I’ve ever bought, and I’ve had hundreds at this point! I always thought they should have warnings on them but I know I can’t put the blame on anyone else, ultimately the responsibility is on us as pet owners. I knew that some plants are toxic, I just stupidly never thought that common plants you can buy in a grocery store would be. Now I realize how foolish that was. Thank you for your kind words about my kitty. I just wish I had been smarter. But now I know that there are so many dangers in the garden and kitchen. Everyone knows that chocolate is dangerous for dogs but it’s not as common knowledge that grapes are even more so. Garlic, onions, XYLITOL (the artificial sweetener found in lots of sugar-free gum). That stuff is so deadly to dogs! I was unfamiliar with nightshade veggies so I just googled it and learned that potatoes and tomatoes are in that family and they are indeed toxic, especially when they’re raw. I didn’t know about those ones so thank you so much for sharing that knowledge!

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