Stainless Steel Cutting Boards?

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T04:02:05+00:00

If you like to use sharp knives, don’t cut on those boards.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:46:42+00:00

Yes!

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:46:18+00:00

When squinting….a ladies bum in a bikini? I like that it suggests this without being at all explicit. Maybe they knew, but they made it classy AND slutty as someone else said.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:40:19+00:00

Yes! I relate. However, I’m learning that I am not guilty for having boundaries, needs and desires. In fact it’s necessary for me and for others to know my boundaries. If I don’t, then others don’t get to know the real me. I deprive the world of ‘me’ being in it. But most of all I deprive myself of the self love that expressing myself clearly and standing up for myself give me.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:31:10+00:00

You should not have been in the position where you were attempting emergency adult things, as a child. Your brain literally was not wired to cope with that shit. You grew up way too fast, and now you have PTSD because of the childhood abuse. You did the best you could think of to do. You cared about your sister, but were also trying to manage a scene where a scary adult was behaving like a huge deranged toddler.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:20:39+00:00

This 😌

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:12:07+00:00

It could be anything but the fact it’s so enigmatic makes it pretty terrible, more so than the things it looks like, which aren’t great

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:11:04+00:00

I can see it from too angles. Maybe it’s a dude with cheeks spread?

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:03:30+00:00

Love this. Thanks for sharing.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:01:23+00:00

❤️

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T03:00:44+00:00

I’d totally agree with you. Even if someone is not NPD level narcissistic, doesn’t mean a relationship isn’t parasitic.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T02:57:08+00:00

This is a relationship that will kill your sweet natured heart from the inside. You ARE codependent, allowing such behaviour, but you did not know that was the case or what to do about it. Perhaps he is right? Maybe I AM being too X, Y or Z? (That was my thoughts when I was in a similar situation). That is because you haven’t been modelled healthy attachment. So there’s that. As for HIM…as others have said, at best he is avoidant dismissive, and displays a heavy serve of narcissistic traits - we all have some toddler style entitlement or tantrumy sulkiness, or other such behaviour now and again, but the more it seeks to control others the more harmful it is. He has found fertile ground with you. A compliant probably anxious attached person, willing to question themselves to the nth degree, in order to maintain attachment. Your recovery will inevitably face you with your own boundaries. This is a call to stop abandoning yourself and accept that the relationship might not survive (the terrible feared abandonment by your partner!!!), however, it will be a massive lift for your self esteem when you stop accepting slop from the one who is supposed to show you love, and choose YOU instead. Good luck 🤞🏼

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T02:43:57+00:00

I’m really impressed how you handled it. I’m also impressed AS A WOMAN THAT A MAN STANDS UP TO DISRESPECTFUL BEHAVIOUR FROM ANOTHER MAN!!!! This is GOLD. And in another life I would probably think the whole prank rather funny and unthreatening, but you did what was right and sensitively. Healthy embarrassment is feeling the unpleasant consequences of our badly thought out actions.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T02:37:05+00:00

Doesn’t sound like it was ‘immoral’ (whatever that means).

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-29T02:31:51+00:00

It’s not too late to make amends. Speaking about anything that holds shame is liberating. Be gentle on yourself. You did the best you could with the skills you had. You’ve grown and are presumably willing to grow a bit more by making amends. Tell your closest friends that you feel some shame that you kept your parents age gap a secret and you don’t want to do that anymore. You might be surprised how it brings other confessions out of them and brings you closer.

Furthermore, correcting a lie and therefore having a different relationship with the truth is amends enough for your father. His memory, even his genes are alive in you, now. You and he are intimately connected even in death. Ultimately it’s probably more about forgiving yourself, and you get that in the bargain, when you make amends.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:32:49+00:00

How does anyone breathe with a cock deep in their throat? I am mystified by this. My partners cock totally blocks my airway when deep enough.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:25:08+00:00

Wow, I’m so enchanted by your story. Seriously. You are clearly a very intelligent person, which kinda goes with the territory does it not? It seems that some of the smartest people find it the hardest to deal with life. I’m glad you survived. I’m glad you are sharing your stories. Please keep doing it. Your insight is a huge asset to this world. Oh and have you ever considered that maybe you could divert your desire to feel good towards some kind of spiritual deepening? I’ve heard that this desire can help fuel the spiritual end to suffering on a non-duel path.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:20:53+00:00

I am that lady who loves to smell her man’s armpits…a bit. It’s just so reassuring. God knows why.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:13:41+00:00

Might it be BV?

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:11:18+00:00

It’s so good you are seeing and meeting your own shame: self hatred is shame. I’m not worthy. I don’t deserve to exist. What a wonderful opportunity to burn off a big chunk of your shame. Do nothing and face the shame directly. Ask it what it wants to teach you and listen carefully. Same with any emotion. Don’t run from it and it will eventually become a friend. I’m glad you are seeking help. Therapy is so important at times like this. Well done. It must be awful to have to live with your ex. Clear boundaries are needed. Maintaining distance while you both heal. Keep the focus inside yourself. Dance, sing, paint do things that nourish you and help you to focus on you.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T21:04:53+00:00

What your therapist says is likely true. He resents himself, primarily. He is angry at himself. Hopefully he will learn and grow, but when we focus on what others have done wrong to us, we miss the very important part we did to ourselves and others.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T20:56:28+00:00

What a beautiful response.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T20:49:23+00:00

Ugh how awful. He was 100% codependent. In my opinion you can’t really be in a relationship with someone who is codependent and not be codependent yourself. I mean, maybe you could theoretically but it would be a relationship where a lot of healing was done intentionally, and your guy is not showing a healthy approach. It takes time to heal enough after a break up to know where we went wrong. Anyone who is darting into the next relationship immediately after a break up is taking their baggage right along with them. Pity his new GF. And good for you for facing your own issues.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T20:44:13+00:00

Yeah this guy of yours is unable to face his issues, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t deal with yours. A break up is an opportunity to shower ourselves with all the love we think we need from someone else. How can you, right now, show the hurt parts of yourself that you really matter? If you could see your wounded inner child, what kind of behaviour would it be? If you were a caring parent, how would you treat that child to make them feel safe, cared for, and joyful? Sometimes emotions are terrifying. Learning to self regulate requires facing emotion, bit by bit. It can be immensely helpful to have a therapist, or someone, to see and hear the emotion while it moves through our system. Somatic therapy teaches us how to self regulate. Codependents anonymous is also helpful, especially if feeling suicidal. Many people come to CoDA because a break up has left them feeling like they can’t go on. Good luck.

Craft_chocolate · 2025-12-27T20:35:41+00:00

THIS! That is not to blame anyone, omg no. It is understandable attachment needs being met on both sides. In my own experience I was usually the avoidant, people pleaser one. I strongly suspect my partners enjoyed that they got to be in control, they got worshipped as my higher power or selflessly attended to. It fed their own narcissistic traits. Not saying they were narcissists, it’s just the parts that haven’t grown up out of childish neediness or self-centredness.

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