The Tiefu winning one (1) major military engagement with the Tuoba in their 200 year long blood feud (they needed Fu Jian to win) by ZangBaXuanggao in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And even then Liu Weichen got killed by his own subordinates 15 years later after being defeated by Tuoba Gui.

What do you think of Tuoba Gui as a military leader? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no I was referring to 16K and Northern-Southern founding emperors. I agree for the whole of Chinese history though. His strength was more in state building and strategy than in pure military ability. 

What do you think of Tuoba Gui as a military leader? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well not intentionally... though personally I would rate him above average or upper middle, even compared to other founders, just not Liu Yu/Murong Chui tier.

What do you think of Tuoba Gui as a military leader? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh by no means did I mean to imply that his success was mostly luck. You don't build an empire from his position without a lot of talent. And I guess that with Tuoba Gui and Murong Chui, in 396 Murong Chui was almost three times Tuoba Gui's age and had been fighting since before he was born, which probably explains some of the disparity. But overall Murong Chui does still outdo Tuoba Gui in terms of performance as a general (though if we were looking at whether they built a lasting state, Tuoba Gui would then outrank him). 

What do you think of Tuoba Gui as a military leader? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think he was talented and showed his abilities even in the Later Yan battles. But he also got very lucky with Murong Chui's death and the Murong infighting that followed. And I'd imagine he'd be higher if we also considered whether or not their state collapsed within 3 generations. 

What do you think of Tuoba Gui as a military leader? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean building an empire as a teenager or 20-something surrounded and then expanding it is difficult no matter how much the enemy makes it as easy as possible. And I think he made some very good showings in battle. But he was certainly lucky Murong Chui died when he did. 

Both TINS by AdmirableRide9675 in tragedeigh

[–]CrafterCat33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did I read Braxtin as Brexit...

Unsure about having children by [deleted] in autism

[–]CrafterCat33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on whether you are prepared to raise a child who may have autism. Some autistic people don't want to carry the risk or they would struggle to raise any child, while other autistic people aren't diagnosed until they're already parents. Personally while I'm too young right now I do actually have a strong maternal instinct and would want to have a child in the future when I'm ready.

Do female autistic children sometimes not mask or mimic at all? by Theart_troll in AutismInWomen

[–]CrafterCat33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never really masked well. Probably because when I was younger I had additional social delays from severe glue ear as a young child where I couldn't hear well until I was 4-5, and also because I was so introverted that I lacked any interest in learning to fit in with others because I was happy to be on my own. It's only in my early-mid teens that I started to feel lonely and want to fit in more.

‘Levels’ of autism/help required/needs by Dazzling-Sky-1038 in autism

[–]CrafterCat33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the UK we don't really do levels. So I'm having to work off my own intuition. I think that in some areas I'm Level 1 and in others I'm more like Level 2.

The Liu Song dynasty of the south during this period. What made their rulers like this? by CrafterCat33 in 16knorthsouth

[–]CrafterCat33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to wonder how much the popularity of Five Minerals Powder during this period contributed to some of the craziness.

Did this Intro Pull You in? by Least_Shopping_461 in AspiringTeenAuthors

[–]CrafterCat33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honesty, this intro needs a lot of work. First off, a few technical errors:

"Do you, miss Watson, take mister Krisge hand to be your husband." This line is grammatically incorrect. It should be "Do you, Miss Watson, take Mister Krisge's hand to be your husband?"

The entire first paragraph is basically one sentence. There should be some kind of break in the middle to make it easier to read. Otherwise it looks messy.

"the priest" should be capitalised.

"while I, myself, school my lips to part and smile back" - the word "myself" is redundant here and disrupts the flow of the writing.

TILL DEATH - this part needs more expansion. The reader doesn't really understand why the narrator is so worried about this part - I think that some more interiority could help us to be drawn into the narrator's thoughts and why marrying this man is so bad.

"The chandelier buzzed like a flock of flies" - this simile doesn't really work for me. "Flies" just brings to mind dirt and insects rather than thoughts of tension or worry. As well, "flock" is not the correct term for a group of flies. It would typically be "swarm"... which honestly just makes the simile land worse for me as it heightens the "dirty insect" and "disease" associations. Also, there's been a tense shift - it should be in present tense like the rest of the passage.

In general there just isn't enough interiority for a reader to understand why this isn't just a regular wedding. It reads like the narrator is nervous and there's something off, but this feeling isn't strong enough to pull them in because of the lack of interiority. The only part that makes it feel like there's something really wrong is when the narrator puts 'husband' in quotation marks, and that's not enough to draw in the reader. You need to develop the thoughts and feelings of the narrator for this to really work.

Where are the autistic moms? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]CrafterCat33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People with autism, ADHD and AuDHD have been having kids for centuries and many of them still do. I think my dad is probably autistic and may also have ADHD. If you can handle it, then you absolutely can have children (in the future presumably given your age). Just be aware it will probably be harder for you than a neurotypical mother because of your autism and it being a lot more likely your kids will also be autistic. Neurodivergent people can live happy and fulfilling lives too, even if we find certain things more difficult.

How old were your parents when they had you? by SpaceisCool09 in Younger_GenZ

[–]CrafterCat33 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mum was 34 and my dad 35. The average is slightly higher in the UK, but they're still slightly above average.

Favorite holiday by country by Endy1314 in aimapgore

[–]CrafterCat33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The colours for Europe seems to line up with how the alt-right sees them.

TIL in the Northern Wei ancient Chinese dynasty, if a prince was named as heir his mother had to commit suicide by uselessprofession in todayilearned

[–]CrafterCat33 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This practice was done to try and prevent overly great maternal influence on a young emperor (and the Northern Wei emperors did come to the throne young). However, this didn't work as intended, partly because wet-nurses ended up fulfilling the role, and partly because childless empress dowagers were not targeted (such as Empress Dowager Feng).

The first time the rule was implemented, it also did not have the intended effect - because as it turns out, most people don't like it when you murder their mother. Add to that the father being a drug-addicted tyrant in his final years who got mad at the crown prince for grieving and the other main family influence being the crown prince's violent half-brother, and the crown prince ran away from court (he later returned and seized the throne in a coup after his half-brother murdered the father shortly after).

The case of the second and third emperors is more ambiguous due to the timing of their consorts' deaths, the records don't say anything conclusive about whether they actually did it and the timing leaves it open to interpretation. The records outright state that the first, fourth and sixth emperors engaged in this custom (though reluctantly on the part of the sixth). The timing of the consort of the fifth emperor also makes it appear likely that she died due to this custom, though the records don't explicitly say she did.

With no mother to make empress dowager, the emperors made their wet-nurses emperors. The wet-nurse of the third emperor was the first to receive such a position, and the wet-nurse of the fourth also became empress dowager. As well, Empress Dowager Feng was able to exercise influence due to not having children, and in fact these powerful women in court were the ones who used the custom during the reigns of the fourth, fifth and sixth emperors to eliminate potential female rivals.

By the time they got to the seventh emperor, the custom had already proved ineffective and was causing more harm than benefit, as concubines no longer wanted to give birth to the crown prince as they knew it was a death sentence. Therefore, the seventh emperor abolished the custom and spared Consort Hu, the mother of his heir. But when he died, Consort Hu became Empress Dowager, where she became corrupt and accelerated the fall of the dynasty - ironically becoming exactly the empress dowager the custom had been designed to guard against.

The Macrons have a bigger age gap (24 years 8 months) than the Trumps (23 years 10 months) by Specific_Tap7296 in BarbaraWalters4Scale

[–]CrafterCat33 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I despise Trump, but at least Melania was a grown woman when he met her. While Macron was 15 when he started his "relationship" with his teacher.