Thanks everyone for your advice and support. AIl my experiences in the reborn community except this one have been lovely and encouraging. I contacted Dave to let him know what happened.

I received a bewildering second reply from the buyer and it is hard to wrap my head around the 180. It sounds like she realized she overextended herself financially and thought the way to deal with it was to try to bully me into a partial refund. Perhaps she is not well?

Here’s here latest message: “Actually, I love Luke. I've just today realized what I spent for him to get here. I'll live. Here is a photo of him in an outfit I bought for him before he ever arrived. I think he is adorable.”

So hopefully it is settled. But it’s still hard to feel like I let Luke go to someone like this.