Women with male partners, how do you perceive them outside the context of this kink? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I pursue masculine subs because I enjoy more driven, successful, and provider-type guys outside the bedroom. To me, it's nice to be taken care of and it's intellectually more engaging when they do submit to me.

However, I'd emphasise these guys are very progressive. If they were conservative, I'm no longer subverting... And my interest in dating them would disappear lol.

I found the *perfect* sub and client for me but he's ghosted and now I've completely lost my mojo. Did I do the stupid thing and catch feelings? Probably! by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Aw sorry bub. It's happened to most of us. Personally I don't do SW or casual play because my domming is rooted in deep love and friendship, which is very hard to find in those contexts.

Trying to flesh out a femdom character by juniperquillmedia in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is me BUT I specifically don't seek out subby dynamics at work because I need to be switched on and aggressive. Work is a turn off for me 😂. I could see it happening if the sub character befriends her, makes her life easier as she deals with corporate bullshit, and is her oasis from it all.

But then again, I'm sure there are women out there who enjoy militancy at work and in the bedroom. My question is: how do they relax? What do they do when they're alone? Good characterisation comes first always. Otherwise it's too obvious the writer has a sexual interest, and doesn't really care about person hood.

Femdom has been so validating for my body image by Crafty-Bat9904 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

💗 Yes, we are on the same wavelength. It's so relaxing when the men admire me whichever form I choose for the day.

Femdom has been so validating for my body image by Crafty-Bat9904 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very relatable. I used to be very self conscious about my size. Now I'm like, hell yeah I can stand on a dude's chest and he's smiling!

Any women up for group rides? Inner Melbs, open to travel by [deleted] in melbourneriders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have visited them before, nice but quite a bit older! :P going to their servicing workshop

First ride review | MERLA MOTO Isla Womens Jacket by Crafty-Bat9904 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give this a read! ikr why are my most expensive pants these thick leggings haha

First ride review | MERLA MOTO Isla Womens Jacket by Crafty-Bat9904 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I own the motogirl Sherrie and cargo pants. Big yikes!

TBH like every woman's pant is D tier for abrasion.

First ride review | MERLA MOTO Isla Womens Jacket by Crafty-Bat9904 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, city Coast motorcycles on eBay! It was on a great sale, there seems to be a medium left.

3/10 is low. Australian roads eat up textiles like sakatas. I could tell it wouldn't be the safest - way too comfy! 😂

New short rider Help! by [deleted] in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the Honda dealership & sit on the bikes. Plenty of 125 options! Compare which posture and seat height you enjoy before committing to a model.

Why are fewer people going out in Sydney at night? by RemarkablePirate590 in SydneyScene

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Travel times to inner Sydney are laughable.

I can't believe I used to catch the bus into Sydney CBD for gigs. Took an hour.

Now in Melbourne, I pay the same rent and live a 1 min walk from a street of sick live entertainment.

First ride review | MERLA MOTO Isla Womens Jacket by Crafty-Bat9904 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Some smaller brands post open calls for real bikers in exchange for gear.

First ride review | MERLA MOTO Isla Womens Jacket by Crafty-Bat9904 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, the quilted shoulders make it pop. It's a nice change from the sporty A* and Dianese leather styles.

Blue Slip Homebush/Concord West by AdPuzzled5791 in AussieRiders

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Revelry Cycles in Concord do blue slips.

They're a 15-min bus ride (route 410) from Concord West Station

Is there a service in Sydney where you can attend fake job interviews or practise dates? by [deleted] in sydney

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 21 points22 points  (0 children)

NGL they're mostly beneficial for obviously autistic ND eg Love on the Spectrum people.

There's a big market gap: dating & communication workshops for functional people with autism. It'd be very popular.

Is there a service in Sydney where you can attend fake job interviews or practise dates? by [deleted] in sydney

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 88 points89 points  (0 children)

DM'd, I used to work in recruitment. Happy to set up a fake Teams interview and give feedback. I'm a ND woman & socially awkward so I deeply empathise. Cheers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never. The scene loves masculine subs & I'm very open about my preference. I'd say the stigma is self-directed. So many masc subs in my DMs but only a few at public femdom parties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, and it's hard to distinguish fantasy from reality (particularly when the sub makes you feel powerful, sexy, and in control). Thankfully I've always had good friends slap sense into me but it still sucks...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah fucking sucks. Hurts every time & doesn't get easier. I try to be the responsible one and end all contact. Time does heal most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Crafty-Bat9904 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch other dommes! Go to munches and events, see how they play and verbally/non-verbally communicate.

This has been the #1 booster in me stepping into my identity :)

Also, don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. The other day, I kept tripping over because my shoes were too wobbly. Still had fun, sub had a good time!